Maybe I have too much of an active imagination, but I am too scared to meet most guys. Always think something bad is going to happen. I'm not talking about bad sex... I guess I'm just not too trusting. Any ways to get over this?
For me personally I prefer people I already know. I know their kinks, boundaries, and where they have been.
I'm much more restricted than you, but still find solutions. I'm a naturist/nudist with an aversion to textile culture, but manage to find connections at nude areas. I need to see someone's equipment in the beginning. It's not anatomical discrimination--I just need to have an authentic mental image for motivation. I don't need to be consistently successful and I'm not. And a longer-term connection removes the pressure for awhile. But, just like food fasting, sexual fasting can be healthy.
I am finding many men are not meeting other men because of covid. There is some risk in meeting someone you don't know and every person must deceived to either take a chance or not. Safety must be maintain at all time. I have a classmate that i have sex with and can host. I do like to meet other men who i don't know for sex and i love getting off by sucking them until they cum or being suck.
No harm in being cautious. I haven't taken the plunge yet but statistically you are probably safe. I take it you are cautious of being physically hurt, intimidated or assaulted. The few guys that are hay bashing might be more scared to come out than you. There seems to be plenty of guys out there wanting to meet with men. They just want to meet and have sex or look for a relationship. It seems common but done in the secrecy of forums and gay bars. I guess you will be safe if you meet and you have cleared the air about who's doing who or what's going down. Some women might be scared to go home with a guy but if we were all bad no-one would ever hookup.
When I meet a guy online I generally engage then in some chat for a while before agreeing to meet. I have found a few nuts out there but have avoided meeting them this way. I find most men are normal, horny men looking for what the aren’t getting at home from their wives.
Oh I definitely do get out there. I'm always willing to take the time to get to know someone. If someone is in a rush to hook up. I tell them I'm not interested and move on.
Lately I meet guys at nude venues, and ask about their COVID vaccination status before engaging in safe sex. Meeting in a public setting like that helps to ensure my immediate physical safety. Safe sex helps to ensure protection from STDs. Vaccination helps to cover the pandemic risks. The physical contact with other nude men feels good after such a long period of isolation.
That's your answer, go out to meet people without a strong agenda, get use to being around others, smile, say hello back and initiate a hello yourself, pick activities your interested in or just curious about. Talk to vendors and presenters, ask people their opinions, what they think, join in on activity, don't hug the wall, take classes and free lessons, especially things that will make it easy to break the ice like a basic salsa class. Do this in steps, don't make sex the goal so -1st get used to being around people -then simple interactions, even just saying excuse me when bumping into each other -then "hello" - conversations -then somewhere along this line start making friends
If it hadn't been for a girlfriend I might never have become big. I was very shy in those days, even when I was in I was very shy about it. So, if you can find a woman who is into it,,, but if course that is difficult too. Mostly just take a deep breath and get out there
