Alright, it's a little complicated, but here's the quick run down: I've been with my boyfriend 5 years. I am a bisexual female, he is a straight male. We've discussed having a threesome/swinging, but not really had the opportunity with someone we find mutually attractive. I have more experience with multi-partner play than he does. Enter couple #2. The guy is a friend of ours, the girl has been with him for about a year. Physically, they're two attractive people. But if you're like me, once you get to know someone's personality, it has an impact on their attractiveness. Although we've all basically been naked around each other, and some heavy petting went on between couples, nothing finitely sexual has happened. Well, lady #2 has set invited us to a late-night hangout, just the four of us. She was pretty clear as to what she would like the night to progress to. Sounds great so far, right? Well here's the thing. Since I've gotten to know couple #2 better, the less I like them, and the more I find myself simply tolerating them because they're part of our larger group of friends. To be blunt, they think their shit doesn't stink. So, sleeping with them seems a little counter-intuitive. I mean, let's be real, I have a soul, therefore screwing around with someone I think has a losing personality goes against my basic nature. Also, I don't want it to be totally awkward when we hang out with our large mutual group of friends. I'm down for couple swapping with my man, I don't think it would have any negative impact on my relationship with him. It's all the other relationships I'm thinking about. But, if I decide I definitely don't want to and will not go through with this, how do I break it to them gently without rocking the friendship boat too hard? Is it too late for that?
"We want to see other people"? I mean, you don't have to have sex with them if you don't want to. From my limited experience with swinging, I'm totally different because I'm a gay girl, but the "attractive" people are time wasters and like you say their personality just isn't there and I'd like to have some sort of connection, but only lasting for the time in the bedroom. Like I won't just go and sleep with people because they're down. They have to tickle my brain parts too. In saying that, rejection is a huge deal in the swinging community. If they're hurt by it, that's their burden.
