I have easy cure which I use keep bum money thata's right - change, bills, doesn't matter how much you give or who they are or why they became tht wy you see bum you pull out shiny fromyour bum chnge nd voila you're no longer the most selfish personin the world. It's mechanical just do it then this complint of yours is over and on to the next one the other mental problems like egotism are harder to work on
when the selfish person becomes wise, they realize they are making their own life difficult. i don't understand what the op is trying to say. when people observe poorly, it is easy to think it is only someone else's life that does not affect them. this is not altuism. it is only quality of observation.