to me, the most disgusting thing in the universe is....

Me in my friends play a game in the shopping malls where you have to guess how old some of these girls really are.

 

I agree with you 100% *Thumbs up*

 

That's not what I said. It may seem cute for parents at age 6 to have children dress promiscuous, but I don't think they would feel the same at age 15. I never said that dressing promiscuous = being promiscuous. I just said that the parents might feel differently, especially when sexuality becomes an issue at that age. When I was in 8th grade, there weren't many girls who dressed like that, but there were a few who were promiscous who didn't dress promiscuously. In high school, there were girls who did dress like that but who were still virgins. Please don't assume that I equated dress with actions.

I was having a bad morning and should have clarified what I meant with my post. It was vague and I apologize. When I have children, I will explain why Britney Spears and etc. dress the way that they do. I will tell them that these people are entertainers and are trying to sell their product- their music. They dress promiscuously as a market ploy and some people believe their clothes portray women in a negative light, as sex objects. These women are giving little respect because they appear to "sell" their body in order to have success. Some of these famous women develop eating disorders linked to low self-esteem, such as the Olsen twin, Nikki Richie, and that red head chick. I have a problem with you, my six year old, dressing in this style because I believe it is degrading, not just to you, but to other women as well. I want you to have self-esteem and know that your body is perfect the way that it is. You don't have to dress a certain way to gain other people's approval. Wear what you want-within reason- and we will both be happy.

Sure, when my children are in high school there will be a lot less restrictions. If they want to dress in a tiny halter top with a miniskirt, that is fine by me. At that age, they already will know about sexuality and the benefits as well as the risks of sex, as well as birth control. They will have an understanding of how clothes can be judged. However, my SIX year old is not going to be wearing the same thing. Just like I wouldn't let my six year old stay out until midnight, while a high schooler would be able to.

Peace and love

 

In a perfect world, MamaBoogie, I'd agree with you. It's not about clothing. It's about what you're like on the inside.

However, this world is far from perfect and while there may be some that don't find a particularly "come hither" message in what a person is wearing, most do. And it can be a very important thing how your child is dressing.

As hippychickmommy pointed out, children in public school would be sent home or ostracised for wearing some of the things in that store. Or if they're out at a park, what will some of the older boys think?

Would you want your 15 year old going out dressing like that? You say that now, but when she's actually 15 and you see how small she is, how easily she could be threatened, you might change your mind. I'm not very far from that quite velnerable age of 15. Naive little girls in skimpy clothing are open targets for harrasment and abuse.

 

I guess I just don't see playing dress up at a make believe fantasy party as looking promiscuous. I'm not saying that I would like my daughters to dress like that all the time-BUT they love dressing up, and some times I let them put make up on and all that jazz. Little girls love to play pretend and be princesses. There is nothing wrong with that. I don't wear makeup-hell I don't even own any, but I'm not going to be domineering about what my kids like to do or want to wear. Of course I wouldn't let them go to school dressed like that, BUT I do every once and a while let my 3 yo wear her princess costume and tiara to the store and such.

 

...and there's not a thing wrong with that! I let my daughter go to the store in her purple silk princess dress-up skirt with silver tulle on it. I've let her go out in her sequined fairy costume with wings intact. She has gone through phases where she would refuse to take it off, wore it to bed, wore it nonstop.

 

you can only teach your children as best you can what signals they're giving. but don't for one second think that if your child wants to change her clothes on her way to school that she won't. i know i di, i know my sister did. we had to lean for ourselves, because at that age, your parents are braindead and clueless and "just don't get it." me, i think the best i can do is get my daughters in self defense classes, try to help them understand what's really going on, and keep my fingers crossed. it's not even about not giving them money so that they can buy themselves stuff, because i'll jsut bet they've got a friend...and can you really control money they've earned for themselves? man, teenage girls are sneaky, willful devils and they're gonna go their own way.

 

This is a perfect example of innocence

 

Yeah, I agree and disagree.

Sometimes little girls are just excited to grow up and want to do things like that, but I also think it is the parents' job to keep them from growing up too fast. I wasn't allowed to wear makeup when I was little, except for my ballet recitals. That doesn't mean that I wouldn't sneak into my mom's makeup bag and tramp myself out, lmao ---but, the point is, she made sure that I acted like a little girl, and not like a mini teenager.

What really grosses me out, isn't just this makeup thing, but how some parents these days seem to just be so vain with their kids.... dressing them in expensive clothing from American Eagle and the like, that they are going to grow out of almost immediately anyways--- it sickens me, because the clothes aren't fun and innocent.

When I was little I was sporting my Little Mermaid t-shirts and flurouscent colored shorts and socks and jelly sandals... not little halter tops, and frayed jeans.

I, too, was one of those kids who would walk around in my fairy wings, and Princess Toadstool costume and such.... and it makes me so sad that kids don't seem to do that anymore.

Not even for halloween either!! I hand out candy for halloween every year at my dad's house, and the little kids are dressing up like Britney Spears and shit for halloween, instead of princesses and puppies, and scarecrows and such

*sigh* I'm glad I had my childhood, after what I've been observing lately.

It doesn't even seem like they make little kid things anymore.... I rarely see clothes that I think are suitable for tots, even being SOLD--- and even the fricken toys these days...I can't stand those damn Bratz dolls---they look like little whores.

ok rant, done.

 

lol. my daughter's are very well dressed, and i've had to buy NOTHING for them. my mother complained every time she had to buy me a pair of pants, but show her grandbabies without a "decent wardrobe" and she goes all shopaholic on me. i think she needs an intervention. my sister in law is a total clothes horse, too, so her daughter's expensive stuff trickles into kai's wardrobe. shoes, boots, jeans, dresses, chenille sweaters, hell, it's great. in four years i've bought 2 pairs of shoes and two pairs of jeans.

though today kai is all pretty for her ballet class. i did her hair because today she gets to wear her tutu and her little butterfly wings. such an princess, i swear.