So are threesomes better with friends? I think so, because I think it is HOT to watch friends fuck! Or are threesomes better with rando's? I kinda like this too, because I think it is fun to watch a new guy get hard.
Better with friends. You generally have a better idea what to expect from friends, you trust them not to hurt you, and you trust them to respect any boundaries that are set (because they may expect/hope this to last a while.) Strangers, OTOH, can be more cavalier about the rules, if they just think of it as a one-night stand.
Never did a friends 3some, because all of my friends are good friends and just could not picture them having sex with my wife or swinging with them and not have it awkward when we are just hanging out.
For us I was in a few threesomes, with friends and their wife or girlfriend. None were ever planned, things just happened. None were long term relationships. For my wife, we played with strangers, Things worked good. She set down the ground rules when we decided to have an open relationship, not to play with friends or co-workers,
For us we have our vanilla friends and our lifestyle friends! We never try to mix them up. We would not want to try and play with people that are not already in the lifestyle and respect what it is all about. That could just lead to drama we have no interest in. It takes a certain kind of person to appreciate what the lifestyle is about and how to conduct themselves.
^ I agree 100%. We have no interest in connecting up with complete strangers, nor are we interested in jeopardizing our relationships with our close and/or life-long friends. We have a few fuck-buddy friends (women) that we threesome with but we aren't super close outside of that context. With the one and only M/F couple we have connected with the guy was a past friend/acquaintance of my husband's. Stranger sex is not my thing for sure.
Relative strangers for sure, proper "friends" would simply lead to embarrassing complications, but even though Phil & I have tried incorporating a complete stranger on a couple of occasions, I have to say that I prefer to get to know the other party (or parties!) first, if only to find out what makes them tick.
For us, threesomes have never been with friends. We just think there are too many strings and emotions potentially involved with friends, and we prefer to keep that activity as purely physical fun for us. Besides, while we are very attracted to the couple that is our best friends and would love to play with them, they are far too conservative and would never understand or speak to us again if we invited them to join us.
It seems that opinions are split straight down the middle on this one and I'm not going to make it any simpler either! Having done threesomes with a friend and some with strangers, I've got to say that either scenario is fantastic. The supercharged sexual atmosphere is unbelievable whatever the relationships between the three of us. I would highly recommend an MMF threesome to anybody who's thinking of trying it.
Thank you for all the input. When someone talks about people being in the lifestyle... I'm guessing its kind of a swinging lifestyle... How does one go about getting into the that type of thing? Do people use forums? Or go to "special bars", etc?
