So my wife and I agreed that we would want a 3some with another lady. So we met a hot and sexy sales lady yesterday and we both decide that she would make the cut. So now how do we go about asking her? Do we text her and ask her? or ask her face to face? or call her and ask her to join us? Don't want to scare her away any advice? Thanks
Lol, it's like you've had your binoculars out, you seen the game fish, you cast your line out but you need to lure her in. Is she even interested? Have you spoken to her as a friend or just as a customer? I'd say take her out for dinner, pay for her meal, pay for her drinks and gauge her body language if you can read it or maybe your wife can read it to see if there's chemistry. I wouldn't be flat out asking unless there's chemistry you've not told us about.
LOL well the wife said I must find someone and she`ll decide if she if she fits the description. After many websites and chatting we couldn't find anyone to our liking. No just spoken to her as a customer but boy, did she flaunt herself at me.....you could see she was a bit flaunty with me, even with my wife next to me. She also stood very close to me and smiled a lot LOL Need to ask her out for dinner anyway, but if she asks about what my wife will say etc?
Well sales people are like sociopaths... They know the exact behaviour to get the responses they desire. Did you buy anything from her?
I also have to worry about wife's lack of interest in finding a female. If she's leaving it up to you, I mean that'd be a signal to me that she probably doesn't expect you to find anybody and that wouldn't be the worst thing for her.
No shes just very shy.....we watch lesbian porn together and tells me what shewould like to do with another girl. She asked me to take the lead in this situation as she doesn't know where to start.
Hmm... having done this before I can't imagine how it would work in this kind of situation. Online you know the person is looking for or at least up for something along the lines of having sex with a couple because they've literally said so already. Don't see how it would work just propositioning some random sales girl you thought was pretty. And as @Irminsul said unless she was really overtly flirty even after a sale had happened it could just be her being a good salesperson and using her charms to try and get a sale.
I would say to her what u r thoughts are and with the both of u there then she might freak out but then she may say ok but definitely face to face
I'm a sales person... and this is what I would do if I were you, go back, with your wife and buy some shit from her, don't be a shitty custy. I repeat buy from her!!! and go easy on her too be very nice and patient all that shit...build a relationship by buying and she'll like u. she may already like y'all, or she could be faking it. but if u buy she'll love you. then get her number (as a couple) and text her about some other crap you need. from there make one more visit or text her and invite her out for dinner and drinks on you, from there she's either into it or she's not. if u can have your wife flirt with her or straight up tell her what you're looking for. if your wife isn't up to it just sack up and ask, it's important that u don't actually buy her some huge meAl, she'll be all bloated and won't want to fuck. just get apps, drinks then switch to a bar preferably by your place, and just go for it, ask her back to your pad for a night cap and go for the kill. u need to want the 3some more than u care about having things be awkward, worst case don't go back to that store bro.
Bringing home a woman that is flaunting herself at you, but not your wife too, may be a bad idea. Here is what I see happening, you bring home a woman who is hot for you. Said woman gives the wife a little attention, just so she can screw you. Wife ends up feeling excluded and is pissed off. You really should be looking for a woman that is more interested in your wife than you. Ideally, she needs to be interested in both of you equally.
This this this. Ideally, I've found it's best to let the wife be in charge of finding the other woman. Jumping into fantasies without considering EVERYONE'S feelings first can be extremely damaging to a relationship.
I have to agree that it should be ladies choice. It gets complicated otherwise. Never done it while in a committed relationship. Have done it a few times while single and must say it was fun. Really, really really fun. I would suggest a gentle but straight forward approach. You don't get what you don't ask for. I'd do it again in the right situation. Prefer MFF to MFM. Other guys tend to make it a competition.
