I'm curious what people's experiences and thoughts are about threesomes as a way to rekindle a sex life that's become routine? Married since 10 years, been together for 20, three kids and beginning of menopause have all taken their toll on my wife's desire. We still have regular if not very frequent sex (maybe once a week or slightly less) and it is usually good, we try to spice it up with toys which she enjoys, but she doesn't have that urge or get the same excitement as in the past. I've always wanted to try a threesome with my wife and another man, and I know she fantasized about that before I met her, so I am curious about testing that to see whether it would increase her desire and lust. I wonder if any other couples have tried this and if so what were your experiences? You come across some people on this forum and others that warn you that threesomes can destroy flagging relationships; ours is strong and we are very much in love with each other, so I'm not worried that it would be destructive in that sense. I am also not jealous, and in fact the idea of watching my wife enjoy herself with another man is a big turn-on and I sometimes tell her as much in the heat of the moment, which she seems to like. My question is really whether opening up the relationship in this way can increase desire in general? I should add I am not myself interested in including another woman; I am fully satisfied with my wife but just want to make her enjoy sex more.
I’ve unfortunately never done a 3some and keep mentioning it to my wife. I want to include my best friend and she has fucked him years ago, when we swapped with him and his first wife. The reason I’m replying is menopause is tough! My wife says touching in places that used to drive her nuts now does nothing. Dryness isn’t much of a problem but a little inconvenient sometimes. Her nipples don’t like to be fondled anymore and she won’t do anal anymore. She says she is going to try it again but keeps putting me off. We still have sex 3-4 times a week but it’s just very vanilla now. It’s frustrating for both of us. My point is be patient with her it’s not a fun time for the ladies.
My wife and I aren't doing 3-somes, we're doing fine sexually as is, but I'm intrigued by reports on here and in other forums. Some couples say that when the wives are lagging in libido, a 3-some - or the wife having a "friend-with-benefits" on the side - perks up their drives again. Numerous couples say this sort of thing has worked for them and their marriages have benefitted because the wives have rejuvenated sex drives. Husbands report being happier because they get more "action" from their wives again. Not a 100% guaranteed solution for everyone, but it seems to be gaining popularity. I'm interested in how this trend progresses. I keep researching more on it, - I find the reports fascinating because it's a new path in marriages & long-term relationships.
If you have sex 3-4 times a week it seems like your sex life is in good shape! My wife has just lost most of her interest, though when we do have sex she still enjoys it.
If it works I'd be all for it, after all I'd rather have my wife enjoying and wanting sex with me than having no desire at all, even if that meant she would also have sex with another man. Not so sure about the hotwife scenario where she has sex with another without me present, I think that could open a Pandora's box, but a threesome scenario would be great where we could explore this together. Would love to hear the experience of people who have gone through with it.
We do have a good sex life it’s vanilla, as in kiss, rub and mount. Pretty much nothing else, I mean I went from Halloween to one day last week with her not letting me go down on her. I love to eat her pussy!
Have you ever thought of having a foursome. We are a foursome couple (have had a few threesomes, not our thing). We like to go on dates and see where things go. It’s all the rush without the pressure of “we’re only here for sex”. Most dates we just make a new friend. Other times we get a hotel and fuck like teenagers. Good luck, be mindful of what you wish for, and have fun.
I have no experience with menopause, but if her 'lust' has waned because of it, will she feel any excitement about having another guy have a go at it?
Not really interested in a 4some. Another guy, I would think that she would enjoy it. She enjoys intercourse with me and orgasms almost every single time. She enjoys sex just doesn’t get most of the reactions from her body during foreplay, just when I rub or eat her pussy.
I would love to have one, either mmf or ffm. It’s been a fantasy for a very long time. Not sure about it spicing anything up, just want to experience it before I’m too old to enjoy it!
We are 30 and 28. Married 5 years and have found that we both really enjoy taking part in threesomes together!!
My wife and I have threesomes now and then mostly because I love them but my wife doesn't care for them but goes along with them to keep me happy! I love eating her pussy after a guy and I have fucked her. Were a older couple who started a open marriage after being marred for 20 years and four kids! Yes our kids know of our lifestyle...
I think threesomes are risky. My wife would never agree to a threesome, but she did have sex with a few other men with my permission. She did not like the idea of having me participate. She only did it over a one or two year period, then decided she preferred having sex only with me. It worked for us, but is definitely not for everybody.
I know what you mean......in our open marriage my wife calls the shots and she us usually right on target..!
My wife doesn't like a threesome with a complete stranger she has had fucked him before....so he knows her likes and dislike!
Initial years we were both on the same page........varied and often. Since my wife has shut down, I guess that makes her the boss.
