Threesome Regrets?

I've been in several separate MFM, FMF and even a foursome, though in each case I wasn't in a relationship with any of the people involved. They were not even close friends, more acquaintances (all single I will add), and each was just a weekend where we seemed to endlessly enjoy ourselves. I never once had any regrets, I believe, solely because of that reason. Quite the opposite, they were amazing sexual experiences that I still think about occasionally (when I'm alone). Now that I'm married I wouldn't want to go to that place again because of all the complications it throws at you, but on the other hand, if I was single... I would have no intentions of having anything more than a lot of unattached sex with several people at the same time. Even then, one can be left feeling less involved, which happened to me only once in a FMF. For a short time, I admit to feeling 'left out', until the point where unexpectedly, all their attention was focused on me. So you see, even in cases where one isn't emotionally involved, one can be left feeling discontent, or even in competition with the others involved. A tricky business methinks if you have a partner involved.

I agree with drumminmama, and think that your partner wants you there for approval. Unless you can go into this freely, without any doubts, then stay away, both of you.

x

 

He's not looking for approval, he's looking to live out a scene that has played in his mind for many years. And I'm more than happy to let him.
I'm happy to let him have sex with another women, if it would make him happy. He's happy to do the same for me.
I trust him totally, I trust that sex with someone else isn't going to ruin what we built over 20+ years. I know him completely. I know how he
kisses, how to touch him to make him hum. He knows all the same about me. No one else is me, and I know that no one else can take my place
in his heart.

 

Then good luck with it all.

 

How many of you have had issues with a good friend after having a threesome? Did you find it akward afterwards or did the friendship die because of it?

 

No problem with threesomes. We had one couple we did everything together with. Started playing around real slow. Went from nudity to soft swing. First time we shared a hotel after attenting a concert. We all paraded about in the raw. nothing else, but then watched each other have sex. On numberous occasions we had all played together, and even some girl on girl action. One night after drinking, a new years eve. If that tell you anything. We kissed each other wifes at midnight. For fun I french kissed the other woman. She broke out laughting, and told my wife and her husband I stuck my tounge down her throat. He told her she would probably like my tounge some place else. Strangely he urged her on, before he kinda watched over her. But anyway one thing lead to another. She asked my girlfriend if she objected, she said no. Any way for some reason my girl and him never got it on. By the time they came into he bedroom, we were already into things, and never bothered to stop. It took a few months to smooth things out. But we remained friend, and made it a point to spend about every new year together, still do at times, but are to old for the fun and games we used to play.

 

What do you mean by 'it took a few months to smooth things out'?

 

I'm as well curious about the what was there 'to smooth out'?

 

At the time we had never done full swing, and had talked about it, but never rushed it. But that night the other man urged me on to do things, with his wife. So when she and I went to a bedroom, We figured my girl and her husband would do the same. But before long they came into the same bedroom, and they just never got it on. So my girlfriend and the other man were mad at us. But one one objected, when she took me to the bedroom. But when they had 2nd thoughts, we were already in the act.

 

My only regret is that I haven't had one yet, lol. I'm only 34, though. I've still got plenty of time.

 

Wow great user name (that is sarcasm).

C/S,
Rev J

 

I've recently been fantasizing a lot about being in an MMF with my wife. I want to watch a guy take her from behind. When she sucks me, I finger her and she loves it -- works my fingers hard...

don't know if I have the guts to bring it up or not/

 

I think you should do it. If you want to. That's the criteria.

-C

 

I was like most guys and wanted 2 women. Then, the woman I was with said sure, but I get 2 guys first. It planted the seed! Then I dated a very exotic looking gorgeous girl and she had been living with a couple and told me she fell in love with them both. She kept hinting that to me to see if I was open to that. What a dumb ass I was for not realizing that!

20 years later!
My wife and I began having threesomes after many years of discussing it. We have had about 25 mfm threesome partners. We try and have just 3 that we are most active with. I wouldn't say we regretted any, but there were several that we never had a desire to have back, but, since they were there, we were going to have some fun.

The only problem with threesomes, is the chance someone falls in love. Either a MFM threesome, the woman falls in love with the other guy (happened here!) or in a FMF, they husband/boyfriend falls for the other woman and leaves you.

YOU MUST MUST MUST have rules set up! Share a google drive word doc. Title it Sexpectations, Rules of Estrangement, whatever. Make several catagories. We did

• Things she wants to try with another man
• Things he wants to try with another man ( not necessarily bisexual stuff, could be straight things that require another cock, like, you sucking both at once, fucking you after the other guy has cum on your stomach, etc!)
• Things off limits (kissing, cumming inside, anal unless well prepared, meeting alone, starting alone, secrets, etc.)
• Things he'd like to see you do more of
• Things she wants to see you do more of
• Her fantasies
• His fantasies

The list will grow and grow. Ours got quite bizarre! We eventually really got close to one guy. He was nicely hung, could fuck for several hours and could cum a lot! He was totally straight, but didn't care what we did with his cum. Eventually, we were so comfortable, we wanted her to feel his huge load cum inside her. I, of course, wanted to see it afterwards, see if any was dripping out, could I suck any out. She loved it but I thought it was a waste of good cum. We saved it a few times.. He would put it in a jello shooter tube and we could put it in or on each other however we pleased. Her tongue, my tongue, use it as lube, squirt some on my dick and watch her suck it off. We used it as a rimmer for a martini while he was there, then went for round two and three, We wanted to sneak some to lunch and put it on our food in a restaurant with the waitress there, having no clue what was in our little container!
I was so turned on with them tow together, I thought it would be hot to send them to a movie premiere alone. They couldn't get tickets. So I told them to go back to his place and make sure you take pictures. We were playing with him for over 6 months by this time. But then I found out that he had been cumming inside her way during these alone visits. It hurt me feelings only because she kept it secret. Had she told me, I could have turned it into something to get me off. I would have been eating her when she came home to taste his scent and see if I could lick her body and find every drop of seamen he left for me. She couldn't shake her attachment to him. He did end up being relocated far far away, but the communication only stopped when I had to stop it. I could still have fun with them together, but they both started having secrets and then it didn't become fun for me.

Just remember, it has to be fun for all 3 or someone isn't going to want to do it again. Including the extra guy. We like to ask what they want to try as well. It reveals their level of kinkiness, experimentation and increases your possibilities to add to your list!

Be honest and open with your husband/wife and all is well. If one thing bothers either of you, work around it, end that portion or see when it would be acceptable to try it again.