Threesome Question - Do You Have a Smilar Experience?

Hello everyone, I’m a long time lurker but recently came across a thread on r/sex which peaked my curiosity quite a bit so I had a couple of questions.

Basically this guy was in a relationship with his girlfriend for about 4-5 years and the subject of threesomes came up. They discussed it and agreed they were both interested, but only in MFM because she didn’t like the idea of seeing him with another girl. He basically decided she wasn’t ready for threesomes and put the idea aside. After a while he broached they subject again asking her if she was still interested in a threesome with another to which she replied yes. His idea was that if she could see what it was like and get a better idea of the trust portion that ahe might like an FMF with him as well.

So they ended having the MFM and they both very much enoyed it, so much that they continued to have a few more threesomes with other guys. After those he brought up a threesome with another girl again to which she replied she still didn’t like the idea.

He went on to explain that he was very frustrated not because he want to just had sex with another girl (which I can completely agree with seeing most guys don’t need to be in a relationship to sleep with woman, he obviously clearly loved his girl) but because she still didn’t trust the idea with the two girl FMF.

They continued to have more MFM threesomes because they both enoyed it (he wasn’t Bi).
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Now here comes my first question,
1. Who was in the wrong here, her for enjoying the threesomes with other guys and not wanting to reciprocate, or him for thinking she would change her mind about it.

Second question and the reason why Im here,

2. Is there anyone with a similar experience guy or girl and what was the resolution l. Did you guys eventually compromise or do you still just continue to have only one type of threesome bequest your SO?

 

I have no threesome experience but I would say she was selfish but he went along because he enjoyed what they were doing. I think rarely do people stay in a relationship unless they are getting something out of it.

 

I mean if that works for them then great, every person and every couple is different. Personally I just think that if they’ve been in that relationship for a long time they clearly really love each other. Like I said there is no reason to try and stay in a relationship if all you want is sex.

 

It depends on what the communication was between them when they decided to do the MFM threesome. You say “his idea” was that she could see what it was like and then feel comfortable with a FMF threesome.
What does that mean? Did he just assume that and then get pissy when his assumption didn’t work out?

If she said “Let’s have a MFM and then we can definitely have a FMF” then she’s in the wrong. (By that I just mean that she could apologize for changing her mind...she’s still allowed to change her mind though.)

If she said “Ok, I’ll do a MFM and then reevaluate my feelings on a FMF” then she’s NOT in the wrong. She thought about it and still decided against it. No one owes anyone else sex.

If she said “Ok, I’ll do a MFM but I won’t ever want to do a FMF” then he’s the one in the wrong for being a whiny bitch when she clearly told him no.

You can’t force someone to be comfortable with something.

 

Sadly, my threesomes tend to involve me, my right hand and my left hand... life can be so unfair!

 

Have done both MFM and FMF as well as foursomes and no insecurities or jealousy came up . Looks to me that she's either very insecure or jealous . Either way it's on her .

 

I get that she has a right to make any decision she wants especially when it comes to her own body but on the other hand, she’s in the wrong for being so selfish. When two people decide to get married they both have a duty to please each other and sometimes that might involve doing things they wouldn’t normally want to do. I find this particular case a little concerning and it tells me that the love might be a little lopsided. If she knew she would never be down for a FMF she should have declined the MFM too out of respect for him.