Threesome logistical question - need advise

Hello All,

My wife and I have been playing with MFMs at our local swing club for the last couple of months. We are currently looking at hooking up with someone from AFF. This brings a logistical questions to mind and I'd like some advise.

We don't want to host in our home. We don't like the idea of a one night stand knowing where we live. We also don't want to go to their home. It is hard to fully trust a stranger and giving them home field advantage doesn't seem overly safe too. No way of knowing if they are secretly recording anything; inviting others over; extremely dirty; plus the safety concerns. So that means we are probably going to a hotel.

Here's the question.... Who pays for the hotel? Is it us? Is it him? Do we ask to split the cost? We both want something out of this but don't I just don't know what the normal expectations are.

 

If you invite a third party into the relationship while choosing the location the cost is on you. You should pick up the tab for the initial meet for dinner, drinks, etc also. It is unethical that you ask the invitee to cover any of the costs. He should offer to help out such as buying a round of drinks during the first meeting or offering to split the room bill but not mandatory. If the invitee chooses or offers the location he should cover the room, dinner, drinks, etc. You then would offer to help with the cost.

 

Set up a meeting beforehand, bar. Restaurant, someplace very public, discuss the rule and make the arrangements, then when the time comes, you pay for the hotel and meet the individual in the lobby and escort him/her to the room and let the fun begin, over a the course of time, you develop a trust between all parties and then you can invite him/her to your house and/or they're house, good luck and keep us updated and thanks for the great story you have been posting and please keep them coming

 

Good point! We are also in the process of meeting up for the first time in an hotel, but I had not thought about this. I had already booked and paid for a room the first (failed) time.
We're now going to meet up for a drink first, so I'll see if he brings it up.

We hope that eventually we develop that trust like Papa says so we can invite him into our bedroom.

 

Thanks. Makes sense. I really had no issue with paying. I just wasn't sure what the normal practice was and what people expected. I appreciate your input.

 

We have our first meet and greet coming up. I appreciate your help. Thanks.

 

We had thought about meeting him at the swing club instead of a hotel. The cost for us to pay for him would be about the same as a room. It would be a little more expensive when you add our cost to get in. But, after reading what you post, we'd never have an instance where we pay for the hotel and the guy doesn't show. If we go to the club and he doesn't show - we're still at the club and can still play. I think that may be the way we go.

 

You should definitely pick up the costs. Then invite him to fuck your wife