Threesome Advice

So like 2 years ago me and my girlfriend tried a threesome with this girl we met online. It didn't go how I hoped, my girlfriend started freaking out and then the other girl was trying to sleep with me on the side too. So I was wondering if anyone had advice on making it workout. My girlfriend says she didn't like seeing me fuck another girl but this is one of my major fantasies so I just want to have a good experience with it.

 

My two cents would be communication. Make sure its something you both really want to try and the third person is someone who is comfortable with it.

 

Yeah I'm just afraid she won't ever want to and then I'll have to just deal without that fantasy coming true in life.

 

Have you considered having a male join instead? Only if you're ok with it of course.

 

She says she would rather the other person be female and of course I'm more inclined to do that. She seemed to be instantly opposed to the idea of a dude but not a girl. I just don't know how to get her to be okay with seeing me fuck another girl.

 

vodka

 

one of the fundamental experiences of being human is wanting something that will never happen.

 

Just dont fuck the other girl

 

I obviously want to fuck the other girl. We were drinking the first time so idk if that's would make a difference

 

hmmm, maybe watch her with the woman first... let her get off while you watch the two of them... and if you are ok with her with this woman.. she will be more open to you getting a blow job from the other woman... while you finger fuck your girlfriend, maybe give her a little finger up her bum too, cause women love that... or some might?... perhaps she will do the same.. and tickle your prostate while you are getting a blow job from the other... and kiss your gf while this other girl sucks you like she has been lost in the desert for days in need of a drink.... after she has had multiply orgasms while you kiss her and the girl is eating her.... ... maybe try just that first... and progress?

you and the other woman be all about pampering your gf first. then you get your turn.

Make it all about the GF and not you.

Maybe you tell her you are doing her a favour by having someone else suck you. she doesn't have to do it and how you know it makes her jaw sore and tired or her lips get tired. .This will make you considerate perhaps? but tell her you want to cum in her and not in this others persons mouth... it is all about the cock worship in the end. don't tell her that.

 

Wow lots of good info

Seems like someone's got experience!
I'll have to figure out how to convince her to even try again in the first place. Sometimes I think I should have just done porn. Lol

 

It's hard to convince someone to do something she doesn't like. You've lived the fantasy once, let it go or find a girl that's into it.

 

lol no experience in it, just really good vivid imagination LOL and I know I like to feel like I am the most important with past Boyfriends.

 

I just wish she didn't think I preferred the other girl. I feel it's more of an insecurity issue really

 

well then you have to take the time to reassure her. what happens if she ends up liking girls more? Really though, you two have to talk it out and plan it... if it is good for you two. For both of you but you have to make rules if you do this and let her dictate how it will go. She is the hesitant one, not you. find out what she liked about it last time and not. She might be thinking as well that she is not enough for you. that you want more. If she doesn't want it then don't push it. See if she is open to certain things. are you allowed to go down on the other female... etc... find out what she is and is not comfortable with and respect that. maybe she will enjoyed some parts of it last time? focus on that and don't cross where she doesn't want to go.

and it has been a couple of years. Maybe she is more secure now?

 

Another option would be to see if the third person is someone who wants to be more than 'just friends' with your partner [these things happen] and that you're allowing the 'friends with benefits' just for the one night.

You could also talk about it a bit with the people involved and pledge to keep it your own secret and to not let it interfere later on.

 

Make sure you are constantly giving your girlfriend attention. The problem with threesomes is obviously the jealousy. There's a fine line between sex and love, but you have to be careful. Maybe it's best she picks the girl out instead. Or you make a rule that it's a one time thing with this person. You won't contact her again.

If you do get to have the threesome, right after it's over treat your girlfriend with a ton of attention. Tell her how sexy she was and what you enjoyed about her during the threesome. And if you're up for it go for a round of just the two of you now.

 

Yea the jealousy part is hard to overcome with her. I'm just going to have to try to make sure she knows it's all about sharing the experience and pleasing her.

 

Seriously......your girlfirend already told you that seeing you with another woman upsets her, so why can't you respect that? Obviously, she is more ready for a serious relationship than you seem to be, and you say that the other girl wants to still see you on the side, and have you? How is that other woman respecting your girlfriend at all?
If someone says no, why keep pushing for a yes.

 

Sexual desire and fulfillment are important in relationships. We are in a committed relationship too. Have been for years. She had issues in the past. I'm hoping things may have changed for the better. The thing I want her to realize is that I love her and even if I happened to enjoy the other girl sexually more or not, it would not change my feelings. I just want to fulfill the fantasy and maybe when I have a good experience with it, it might not matter as much ya know.