thoughts? 1st date

cold feet?


disrespect?


she never wanted him that entire week and was just fucking with him?

:daisy:

 

I could give a shit what her intentions are. I just label it cockteasing and move on with it. It's not like she's around to give her version of the story.

 

na i don't have any kids, but i do have a number of friends with children so i had to learn atleast a little so i could help raise them.

 

yea i am kind of sore! pretty well put. & i'm not sure why i let it bother me so much. kind of got my hopes up. but it was hard to tell if she was even a person i would be interested in over the phone, and it was also hard to tell how hot she was from facebook photos, although i wouldn't say she is so hot that it is easy to tell from facebook. so really i'd have to get to know her better over a few dates.

my initial reaction was i'm going to keep chasing the girls i've been chasing and date her. but then that was followed by a bit of guilt and my friends tellling me that was dick so i decided to just give her a chance so i invested all my energy into this friday night thing. but obviously now i'll just continue chasing the girls i've been chasing.

made some other plans with someone else. made me feel better.

 

true that. kind of like common sense that doing that is a bitch move. playing with people's emotions is immature i don't care how insecure you are.

i tried striking up a conversation with her 1 more time and there was no response. so i guess im going to forget it unless she texts me back and starts begging, which wouldn't surprise me judging from the texts she was sending at first! xD

 

If you've got a reputation as a player though, maybe that's why she called it off (aka:stood you up).

Among guys, a "player label" can still have cool status, but among the female social circle, that same label isn't nearly as popular.

 

no hardly, and even if i did i don't think she knows me well enough to know such things.

if she was going to stand me up she never should have hit on me in the first place. shit like this makes me hate women and lowers my respect for their entire gender.

 

Dont be a hater.....men I know are flaky too. Its an individual thing. Personally I never pull shit like that.

 

Well, you are certainly not taking it like a man.

Should we move this to whiners section?

 

Why are people so stupid to immediately project something like this on everyone else of the same gender... I understand it's a drag being let down but to react so out of proportion will only trouble yourself.

 

I don't know why people are so stupid about it. Very annoying.

 

It's ingrained in our brain's wiring to make categorizations of "Us VS Them". In addition to laziness to not fight that tendency with our Neo-cortex; understanding it's a fallacy to do that.

 

ok back on the topic of girls not returning your calls...

sorry for the hate, whatever, but this shit seriously happens to me all the time. for an update the girl from the OP never called me back.

so in general, if it's a person that you are seeing and they don't return your calls, or they get back to you 4-5 days later, how are you supposed to take that? would it be a good idea to be confrontational about it?

in this case, it usually just makes me mad and want to end the relationship but i don't really want that either. seriously breaks my heart that she doesn't answer my calls like that but when we are together everything seems to be fine and i usually just let it slide or she makes up some lame excuse to avoid confrontation.

then the days i'm waiting for her to call me back just leaves me wondering if she even likes me at all or if she's ever going to get back to me again. way too intense up and downs. should i leave her? i'd only put up with this much shit from someone because she's perfect. hopefully she starts treating me better in the phone department soon...

 

Ummm yeah...let her go. You're asking for trouble and if you have a problem with the female gender it's because you're attracting females who take advantage by allowing them too and not having clear boundaries set up. Don't let people walk all over you male or female. There's no such thing as a perfect person, especially one who doesn't respect you.

What you need is to figure out what you want, what your boundaries are and find some self discipline to stick with that...otherwise you're going to fall for people who drag you up and down and look like a sick puppy on a leash doing so. Sounds like you're just lonely and willing to accept anything.

There are plenty of females who don't act like that. Have some standards.