This weirdo woman is just groping me. What kind of person is she?

I am a 44 year old married heterosexual woman. My husband and I have been married for 14 years and have a 13 year old daughter! About a month ago my friend's first cousin, this skinny really short like 5 ft 3 pale face creepy green eyes thin lips light brown haired with Chin-Length haircut masculine 55 year old woman who i have never met before, moved here in this community. She lives in my friends/her cousin's garage.





Incident #1

About three weeks ago i attended my friends neighborhood women gathering. I was wearing a red long sleeve satin blouse buttoned up to the top ,black satin pants, and 5 inch heels black shoes. I had full make up on. When i arrived, my friend introduced me to her cousin. This pale small woman my friends cousin said to me " Wow. You are such a big woman. Standing next to you i look like a midget. " She was in flat shoes and i was on high heels, i am 5ft11 tall and that, coupled with being well built and well endowed( I have very large breasts) , i was really like a giant standing beside this weird woman.

She said to me" Wow. You are so shiney. Why are you so overdressed? You look so glammed up ".

" I like dressing well, and looking presentable. I ’d rather be wearing something i feel good in than look like i just rolled out of bed.I wear high heels every day too.All the time." I answered to her.

"I am unemployed and broke. I am 55 year old and I have always been poor. I don't want to die poor. I am practically homeless. I had to move in here in my cousin's garage. ". she told me. We had the most awkward conversation, like really weird, long pauses.

Then this weird small pale woman just placed her both hands on my breasts and started rubbing them for a solid 5 minutes exclaiming “Are these real??! They’re so large!” . Then I backed up and looked at her and she just kept rubbing. So fucking weird. She was patting and rubbing my boobs for like 5 minutes. She was commenting on my breasts. I said to her “Hey! Don’t do that.”. But this pale small weird woman responded "C'mon big woman, I'm: not a guy, we're just girls. Also I am totally asexual. I am fascinated with the size of your boobs " She kept rubbing and feeling up my breasts while she was commenting on them which I didn't knew how to take, should I laugh and play along or be totally weirded out. It was just awkward. I was just standing there stiff as a board while she was feeling up my boobs . I was just standing there kind of awkwardly letting it happen. Then one woman pulled her off and distracted her.

Then i went to the restroom. 10 minutes later I just put my purse down on a chair and I was getting something out of it, so I guess I was slightly leaning over? This touchy feely pale woman my friend's cousin decided to just slap my butt with her both hands as she walked past. It was actually audible and in front of everyone but no one even reacted. I just turned around and saw her smiling at me as she walked off. 5 minutes later again she gave me a big, hearty slap on the butt when she was walking past. Over the next hour or so this touchy feely weird pale woman would just grab a hold of my breasts or rub her hands against them or grab my butt whenever she walked past me. I didn't know what to do to get out of it. Practically this weird pale woman touched or talked about my boobs all the time at that gathering and I gave up trying to care. It was easier to be in on the joke than to make a thing of it. Also her story about being broke and living in her cousins/my friends garage made me feel sorry for her and I just unintentionally allowed her to grope me. I was feeling sorry for her and allowing it even though I was like wtf is happening. It was time to leave and this pale touchy feely woman hugged me full frontal and held me her face pressed against my breasts( her face is exactly the level of my breasts) for an uncomfortably long time. I've had to remove myself gracefully after a minute or so.

Other women there were weirded out by our behaviour, but they ignored that and said/did nothing as if nothing was happening.I think that the women there were in shock themselves? Some people don’t like to get involved if they feel uncomfortable or not sure what is going on. These women(even my friend her cousin) were pretending that is not happening with confused looks on their faces. Also it was bizarre. Standing next to me this touchy feely pale old woman looked like a midget and I was letting her get by with it. Other people there probably thought that I am okay with it. ?

Incident #2

Two weeks ago I attended this women in wine meeting/party . I was wearing a purple long sleeve satin bow blouse buttoned up to the top,black satin pencil skirt, sheer black pantyhose and 5 inch heels purple shoes. I had full make up on. This touchy feely pale small woman was there with her cousin/my friend. She came RUSHING up when she saw me. She said to me "Big woman you are always so elegant. You are such a big woman. Wow. Your breasts are sooo large." Then she just grabbed my breasts with her both hands and started squeezing them and jiggling them. I told her to quit squeezing my breasts but she just kept squeezing and jiggling them. I finally pushed her hands away and told her stop which she eventually did after telling her three times to quit. .

About 15 minutes later I was talking with one woman , this pale touchy feely small woman came up from behind and started rubbing and lightly squeezing my butt with her both hands. At first I ignored it, but she just kept rubbing my butt, then I turned around and told her that it is sexual assault. Then this pale weird woman said to me in a sarcastic voice " Big woman. You arrogant, spoiled, stuck up, upper middle class snob. You stupid overdressed cow. Standing next to you i look like a midget. How can this be sexual assault. You are physically stronger than me. I am asexual. I wonder why is it such an offense to grab yours boobs/buttcheeks. I mean, you could do that to me I don't see a problem. I am totally flat. My breasts are tiny. You have a large huge boobs so i like to randomly grab them as a joke. " . Then again as she was standing in front of me( her face is exactly the level of my breasts) she just grabbed my breasts with her both hands. She was practically holding my boobs for like 2 minutes, while was commenting on how large and nice they were and she wished she had boobs like mine, etc. Again I finally pushed her hands away and told her stop which she eventually did.

About 20 minutes later i sat on this chair. There wasn't enough chairs, so this touchy weird feely short skinny pale woman sat on the right arm of my chair. I said to her " I insist for you to sit in this chair. I will be standing" Than I got up but she kept pushing me down to sit like if I was a naughty child trying to run away. She said "Don't be ridiculous big woman. I am small, I am fine sitting here." Then as she was sitting on my right side she placed her left hand on my left shoulder and she placed her right hand on my right upper breast and she just left her hand there. Then she moved her left hand lower from my right shoulder to my right upper breast. This weird pale small woman patted my upper breasts with her both hands for like 10 minutes. I am ashamed to say that I just sat there and let her do that to me. At this point, I've become somewhat used to it. I got up, this weirdo pale woman was still sitting on the arm of the chair and she reached out with her both hands and rubbed my butt. I went to the restroom. About 20 minutes later It was time to leave and this pale touchy feely woman hugged me full frontal and held me her face pressed against my breasts for an uncomfortably long time. I've had to remove myself after a minute or so. Other women there saw the way she's been treating me, probably they were relieved that she's latched onto me and not them. Probably they were silently thinking it is bizarre. Also this handsy creepy small pale woman is not physically threatening to me at all, so maybe that is why nobody reacted to my defense.

I complained to my friend about her groper cousin, but she says that her cousin is totally asexual and that she is drawn to me because i am tall and I was dressed up in satin clothes. She says that asexual people are touchy feely. She says that asexual people are cuddle maniacs. She says that her cousin is just showing appreciation for my clothes and my height. She just joked I made stupid faces while her cousin was touching me and groping me. She also says that it is hilarious and bizarre that standing next to her cousin pale groper I look like a giant and I let her get by with it. She even said that groping between women isn't a big deal at all. She was just joking. She is is very protective of her weird creepish cousin. She says that her cousin is just overly sensitive.She is saying that her cousin has been suffering from anxiety and depression for a number of years now. She says that her cousin is too socially awkward and she wants her cousin at the very least to be able to socialize when she has to. She says that her weird pale cousin doesn’t understand what kinds of things aren’t really okay to do/say in social situations, that she thinks that nobody likes her, and has struggled to find enjoyment in anything or have anything ‘to look forward to’. My friend thinks that i am over overexaggerating. My friend says that this pale small woman is total opposite of me, that she is basically everything i am not, and that is why she is drawn to me and she nonsexually enjoys touching me. She jokes that her cousin is not physically threatening to me at all, and the chances that she can actually harm me are virtually nil.


I've always had big boobs. I easily had the largest chest in my high school. But I was one of the lucky ones that's never had her boobs grabbed, touched, or jiggled before. This was my first time getting groped. I wanted to know if wanting to touch and grope other people is something common among asexual people or just this weird pale woman's personal quirk?

 

you should definitely buy her a membership to a tanning salon.

 

I wouldn't be too hard on yourself. The best policy is probably to passively excuse and avoid; which is what you seem to have done.

 

Lack of regard for others. Total disregard for boundaries. Doesn't listen to the word "NO"....
I'd dump the friend and her creepy cousin. Avoidance is your only reliable friend in such situations.

 

This is what i'd do if somebody was planing to grope me.
I'd eat something that would put off anyone from touching me.
Seriously though dump them. They sound like they aren't nice.

 

Put a personal safety intervention order on her. She won't want to be stalking you any time soon.

 

Violence is not the answer.

 

Agreed, but:

Strongly disagreed. Staying passive about unwanted groping is exactly the wrong thing to advice. If I were the OP I had broken the pale woman's nose after max. 2 very clear warnings that you don't do that.

If I were the OP I would not give a fuck why the groper would be doing it or what kind of person she might be.

 

Plant your fist in her face next time. You have every right.

I wouldn't worry about the sociopath thing. Continue to avoid her and if she ever touches you again make a scene or make her pay. She likely goes on partly because of your initial passive responses (which were understandable but wrong).

 

I gotta' tell you that, whether or not you fear for your safety next to this "midget" is irrelevant. She has committed sexual assault against you. If you don't nip this in the bud....that is, put consequences on her actions, she will continue, and soon she will escalate. This is when things can get scary. One thing about being a sociopath is that she is also a narcissist, and they get off on your reaction. I once warned one such man that, next time he tries to take liberties with me, someone is getting hurt, someone is going to court and possibly jail and that, finally, everyone in his address book will know what he is (narcissists hate exposure), so stop grooming me. In my case, he's left me alone for the last two years since then. I waited way too long myself, as I'm still dealing with the effects of his malignant behavior, but we do have to learn at some time. At the time this started in earnest, I had no clue what was wrong with this guy until I started looking up his behaviors. Only two things kept coming up: Sociopathy/psychopathy and narcissism. Nobody has ever been cured of any of these.

My last best advice: Take names of witnesses and file criminal action against her. She won't stop until the consequences exceed the pleasures.

 

Take it to the cops and get an intervention order put on her. What you have been through is sexual assault and it should be reported to the cops.

 

I see my comment got deleted but here we go again,if you had of reacted angrily the first time you were groped there would have been less chance of a repeat scenario. If she did it again and you beat the shit out of her it would have never happened again.

Choices and consequences for both of you but I know what I would have done.

 

is she related to bill Clinton or creepy joe biden ?

 

Do it because if you don't she will keep on doing this to you.
Also tell your friend to ban her cousin from any gatherings she has as she has sexually assaulted you.

 

next time you see her just go out in the sun. she won't be able to grope you for long before her pale skin fries.

 

or... you could just jack her jaw a couple times , its what I do with panhandlers … for the third time I got nothing for you. ok,ok come over here...bang … see ya

 

So, you punch panhandlers for asking for change? Basically homeless people begging. You sound real tough.

 

only if they wont leave me alone

 

To the OP and onceburned. Try assertive communication and you will get better results

 

what does NO GET LOST mean ?