Things to Look Foward To After Transitioning (MTF)

A MTF trans girl has been in our poly for 3 years and I want to give some positive observations to look forward to for those who are considering transitioning.

1) Life gets so much better than you even thought! She transitioned because of dysphoria, but once living as a girl, people treated her so much better. She could never have imagined how amazing her life is now. Strangers talk and flirt randomly, do nice things for her, and overlook mistakes or embarrassing moments. The whole world treats her with kid gloves. Call it sexist if you want, but it's so much more pleasant than being treated as "that weird guy."

2) Emotions matter. People care much more when she is tired, sad, anxious, disappointed, or frustrated. They offer to help and do things to sooth things over. No one ever says "stop wining and deal with it."

3) Dating is much easier. As an average male, dating (especially online) is usually a lot of effort with little return. After transitioning, she gets interest everywhere she goes. Sometimes looks, sometimes flirting, sometimes asking her out. And online, a single pic is all it takes to get inundated with messages. Of course, safety was still an issue (no dating after meeting us). But the truth is, she found trans-friendly men dates a hundred times easier than finding a date as an average male.

4) Family and friends may get over it. Some people who didn't want her to transition or were even hostile about it, became neutral and accepted it over the years. Seeing her happy and getting so much more out of life (job, dating, friends) living as a full time woman kind of proves to people it was the right thing.

5) More comfort with girl cock. Our trans girl wanted SRS and didn't even want her girl cock touched or exposed when we met, but she realized it is not "the one mistake still around" but something she can live with and really, really enjoy. Now, she wears dresses without panties and shows it off when warming up for sex. She even makes jokes about it in public (whispers)!

6) Perspective on transitioning changes. Rather than seeing "being trans" as something to hide and that will always mean you're "not a real woman", she has learned to see it is like having done this amazing thing that very few are privy to know about. It's still a secret, but a really cool one now.

7) Psychological self-awareness. When she started dating, she wanted a straight guy who would just barely "put up" with the fact she was trans because that proved she was a "real woman." Now, she doesn't need that ego boost and is fine with guys who embrace trans attraction.

8) Priority shift. Clothing and makeup was this dirty thing she snuck and felt guilty about buying before she transitioned. Now, people want her to spend money on cute outfits, hair, makeup, nails, and surgeries. Support and love change everything. Yes, it's because we like her hot and sexy, but it makes her feel great so it's a win-win.

9) Getting clocked (or suspected) is less important. She has always passed, but every once in a while, she worries someone clocked her. It used to mean the end of her world (like proof she was a failure and sulk for a week researching another surgery). Now that she is in a multi-person loving relationship, it doesn't really matter that much if some rando does a double take. In fact, she now assumes those double-takes are because of her nice boobs or tight dress... even from other girls. Cause yes, she gets noticed by other girls (lots of bi out there) a hundred times more now than she ever did living as a guy.

10) Tucking is less important. When we met, she wouldn't wear a swimsuit without a skirt over it. But being in a loving group environment has gotten her more confident. She is amply endowed, but doesn't tape. She wore a high cut one piece swimsuit, but taped and had zero worries prancing around on the beach for a week.

11) Hobbies/interests are good! Her hobbies and interests before transitioning were anime, video games, cosplay, roleplaying, board games, etc. Death knells to normal dating. After transitioning, she is with guys who love all those same things. They are a bonus to the relationship, not a problem like they often are for cis dating.

12) Sexual openness. She used to think she just wanted to do doggie or missionary and that's it. Now, she is into topping girls, some BDSM, stripping/exhibitionism, trying new positions/toys, quickies, dirty talk, 3somes/4somes/group. Getting comfortable with herself took time, but it opened the gates.

My whole point in writing this is letting trans girls know that it gets better. Your life starts falling into place because you are happier and find people that support your situation. When you are loved and have a stable home, everything else is less important. You may have to let go of some preconceived notions (like she did) and you'll still have to work on emotions/issues, but damn, life is so much easier for her after transitioning. She went from suicidal for a decade, to "life is one long, loving party." Hope the same is true for all of you.

FYI... I know this all doesn't apply to every trans girl. Also, this was punched out very quickly so some of my wording may not be the best or most precise.