GOOD so I didn't confuse you. There are more many more that need our exposure. But I am a little drunk at the moment.
I dated a girl who liked to be choked during sex. I’m dead serious. It made me nervous, but she maintained control when it happened. If she squeezed my wrists she wanted me to squeeze tighter, and if she tapped my wrists she wanted me to loosen my grip. She liked getting to the point where she felt light-headed and said it gave her stronger orgasms. She was into all sorts of kinky sex - anal, bondage, double penetration and even tried to get me to agree to a threesome with a transvestite (not my thing so I said no).
people keep expecting and demanding guarantees. there are no guarantees. but there are probabilities, and some of those, we create ourselves, and many more we influence to varying degrees. those of how we experience each other, are the very statistic of consensus of the totality of our selves. not of gods and daemons, but of how as sapient beings, each of us, choose our priorities, and how our actions, influenced by those priorities, add up together, to create that aspect, of what and how we experience.