There are some guys here in a sexless marriage.

Hey Crazytrain I must agree. Each of us experiences life in a different way. It is decision after decision after decision. It is not a one size fits all world. Make your bed and sleep in it. The situation we place ourselves into is the atmosphere we are attempting to create for ourselves but sometimes things go sideways and there is a lot to take into consideration before the next step.

We simply live and learn as we go.

 

Of course my response was anecdotal, because it was just a post about me. I had no intention of implying my experience represents anything or anyone but - me

 

Quite right I'm in it for life no matter what. The thing about having only one life so you should be happy is also trumped by my religious beliefs. I don't believe being happy is what matters. Yes we only have one life but also one afterlife so if the price of the best possible afterlife is being unhappy in this life so be it.

 

Some people believe that a life of burden gives purpose. When asked to bear a cross, some reject it. Other accept it and consider it their duty.

To JFF and iamjustme:



I"M JOKING GUYS!!!! Do what JFF says --- Live your best lives whatever it is!!!

 

(The thing about having only one life so you should be happy is also trumped by my religious beliefs) In my case there is no attachment to any religion of any sort.

Happiness is not just a state of mind it is the basis of the quality of life that you live here.

If you cannot go thru this life joyfully you will not be able to go beyond, you will not be able to transcend the bondage of this life.

 

I would absolutely not buy a female torso to fuck. I’ve been married a long time and there was a couple different periods where it was basically sexless. In those periods, I started fucking other women (men don’t count in this instance because that is a different appetite). It happened on 2 different occasions. I was already pretty buddied up with them and I’m pretty flirty. I just made a move and started a fling. Told them straight up that I wasn’t unhappy in my marriage but that we weren’t having sex and that’s what I was after. One fling lasted six months and sex was several times a week. Other lasted just a couple months and it was also several times a week.

 

MOST of the native Philippine women I know have told me they can live their whole life without sex. Many are married,and have told me sex once a month is more than enough

 

I would like to have a neighbor that was willing. Regardless of sex, just someone halfway attractive.

 

Married almost 25 years. No sex the last 7-ish. It sucks.

 

There are a lot of men in your situation. In fact, it's more common than not. I think this is why a lot of married guys will turn to letting a guy suck them off. It's a way to have sex on the sly without all the drama and risks of getting involved with a woman.

 

Seems to be a very very common theme. How can 90% of the guys over 50 be the problem when there is not enough sex in marriage??

 

Sex in marriage drops to practically zero for most guys. Wives lose interest, leaving husband with no outlet. This is why it's good to have a male buddy to suck you off.

 

Been married 35 years and had a fairly active sex life. 5 years ago she became ill and the marriage has become more or less sexless. We do try mutual stimulation etc but it is very difficult for her. I haven’t cheated, I masturbate, explore on discussion boards, experiment with toys, it not ideal but it works.

 

Naked influence wrote:
Yes I'm in a sexless marriage and I need advice. We've talked about it and seen a counselor and my wife's assured me she's working on it and she wants to restore sex to our relationship but isn't doing enough. Touching my wife makes her feel intense anxiety and the counselor's advice was to face her fear even if it feels uncomfortable she needs to do it anyway to realise there's nothing to be afraid of and it actually feels good. The trouble is she only does what feels safe and comfortable so we're not getting anywhere.
Another thing is the power imbalance this whole thing has created. She has tremendous leverage over me because there's something I want from her and she holds the keys. She asks me to rub her feet every two or three days. About the first 20 times I did it happily but the next ten or so times I've felt a kind of resentment. How can she keep asking for this while holding back what she knows full well I desperately want? This would never happen in reverse. If I held back something from her - not just something but her favourite thing in the world - she'd never have the patien

I am in the same boat including rubbing my wife's feet! Good guys finish last and don't get sex. That's the way it is. I never learned to be assertive and so i reap what i sow. If i would have been less shy i probably would have dated other women and not settled for my present wife of 30 + years. My nearly sexless marriage started early. I never cheated with another person but relied on my hand for my release and sanity. I'm stuck.

 

can anyone tell me how to do the proper copy and paste that results in a yellow box? Thanks

 

Just click the reply button under the post

 

If your still having problems send me a PM

 

Update time: My wife levelled with me out of the blue. She said she knows I needs sex and this year has been particularly hard with her being sick three different times and snowed under at work trying to catch up. She thanked me for sacrificing and promised to make sex a priority. We've had a bit more sex, things haven't turned completely 180 but getting better.
She's also taking more time over it not just demanding I fuck her hard every time. I took my time and had a good ten or fifteen minutes of slowly pushing in and out, really ramping up the pleasure, it was a dream come true.
I told her I want to do it seven times in seven days and I thought she'd say hell no but she said ok. Not sure when we'll do it but just the fact that she's up for it is incredible.

 

The year after our daughter was born we had sex maybe twice in one year. I’d say that was pretty sexless, it certainly made me question our marriage and where it was going.

Anyway, now our sex life has returned to what it was like pre-pregnancy and we’re having some amazing and regular sex again. Suppose some women just need some time to adjust to the changes.

 

I’m in the same situation