Well i'm 15 my dad killed himself about half a year ago and my mum really wants me to go to counselling but i dont, recently though i've been thinking it might be beneficial. I still dont want to go or have to deal with it. Has anyone else gone through a similar experiance? If you have i'd greatly appreciate knowing what helped/didnthelp.
Sorry ... I don't have any experience with a situation like yours, but ... if you feel that it may be a beneficial presence, go for it. I have been told by other people that if you ever have the opportunity to go for counseling, that you should, because counselors can help with problems that aren't just caused by, say, your father's death, but other problems as well. Hope that much helps ... I don't know any other ways to help. Sorry. =\
my dad died when I was 13. Hes was scary, abusive, and alcoholic. One day he got drunk and ended up having a one way car accident into a tree. I refused counseling for a year. I ended up getting so angry and depressed I couldn't see in color. Eventually I went into counseling to deal with everything...not just his death but other things too. It gave me my life back! It is not as bad as you think. You just need to find a counselor who you can be comfortable talking to. Good luck! I hope you decide to go, I bet it would help alot.
Shit how did being depressed and stuff stop you seeing in colour? And I'm getting along with things pretty wel if I just sorta dont think about it which was pretty easy when I was in school but now it's the holidays I have a lot of spare time and i just get to thinking about it. I realise tat probably a good thing as I've been told that repressing your feelings is bad. But I still really dont want to go and talk about it because i fear that it may just unearth things that i dont really want unearthed. Plus my mum is always telling me i should go and its pisses me off so i dont do it, because my mother is a scary person and would want to talk about what i talked about with the counselor and i dont ever want to talk to her about my dad. I know that i will one day get counseling its just a matter of how soon.
I ended up not seeing in color because I got so depressed and so sick of living I was giving up on life. Giving up on noticing. And most of it had to do with not wanting to unearth things I didn't want to be bothered about it but you know what? It felt 10x better after I actully did. How are you doing, btw? When I first started getting crazy-depressed I started getting migranes everyday all day. Do you have signs of depression?
Like someone else posted, my dad was a drunk and kicked the bucket when I was about 15. I too got along along pretty well for a few years, but only because I managed to remain numb. Then all those things that I didn't want unearthed surfaced on their own. It will happen to you sooner or later. The sooner you're able to sort out whatever bag you may be carrying with you, the easier life will be further down the road. It may be hard but dealing with your difficulties head on (grab the fuckers by the horns) is usually the best way to go about it.
i dont think im showing signs of depression. But im not really sure what those are, im certainly not getting migranes or not seeing in colour. From what you guys have said i hae decided that getting some form of counseling would be a good idea.
I was in a mental hospital once and my roomate went through the same thing. She said counseling made it worse. They made her talk about it everyday and bring up negetive feelings all the time. I'm not saying counseling can't be a good thing, but the last time I saw her, they had moved her to a closed ward where she just kept repeating "let it go, let it go" to herself. I think talking to someone every once and a while is good, but you also have to get on with life and don't let them make this issue comsume your life and try to give you meds and stuff. Those just make life seem like shit once you're taken off. You sound pretty level headed and I just think you may need a professionals opinion a few times. Maybe your mom bugs you about going because she's having a hard time and wans to go to a therapist herself. Be strong and be there for her and for yourself.
