So picture this. You have made the decision, based on past relationships to remain abstinent in your next. But then you genuinely fall in love with this person to the point that the draw is just to be closer to them in some way, not just get into their pants (which isn't necessarily bad either). Sex is fun, feels good, and definitely grants that closeness that some might be looking for, so why not just go for it. Well, not everyone has the ability to just be comfortable even 4,5,6 months into a serious relationship. This is the stance I took, I was now with someone who respected my no, and then also grew to love our emotional intimacies more then pushing the idea of us having sex. It has been awesome to feel validated and close without the 'need' for sex. Don't get me wrong, we are very much sexually attracted to each other, but the anticipation has made us just more excited to indulge when we decide to, because we fell in love before we had been physically intimate. THIS IS NOT AT ALL TO SAY THAT YOU CAN'T BE IN LOVE WHILE YOU HAVE SEX. It's just that for us, this moment will be even more intimate because our emotions are in sync and we are completely on the same page! Trust me when I say I know that we would be even more drawn to each other, but we are saving our sexy time for when there are rings. Just our preference. Thanks for listening!