The reason why.

This is for those gals among us who have done anal. Not about what you think/feel, but back to the original “why.”
“Why did you decide to allow your bottom to be penetrated?”
The truth is that anal sex itself has a taboo about it. If surveys are correct, only about 50% of the female population actually “do it,” although this seems to increase amongst Gen Y’s where it is close to “expected” (According to my daughter)
When the decision was made, certain fears needed to be overcome – the 3 “P’s” – Pain, Poo, Prolapse, plus disease – for most of us it was not a decision made lightly …. Or was it?
Back to the “why.” Was the reason a need for acceptance? Was there an element of coercion? Were you bribed in some way? Was it plain perversity: a need to break the taboo? Or just simple curiosity?
What were your reasons??

For me it was probably 80% a need for acceptance and 20% curiosity.
I was born into wealth – best schools, the “right” friends and so on. Whilst I was at Uni, I went to the best parties, the swish regattas, the members at the races, the polo and the “right” lodges at the snow.
It was so fake!!!
I also had the right boyfriends – also from the best schools and stockbrokers – far too many. Simply put, to be “part of the crowd” I needed to put out sexually; and anal was simply a part of it.
Also, however, at my school, I boarded. My roommate and I in my last year- year 12 (I turned 18 that year) ended up sharing quite a number of wriggling sessions in her bed (always her bed) after lights out. It was mainly kissing (we never actually undressed) but it definitely included rubbing bits and the odd probing finger. She liked slipping her finger into my botty!! Not far, but most times we were together. It felt nice!!
So when I turned on my tummy that night and told him he could have it, yes, it was mainly so he would “like me,” but also a little bit of “I wonder what it feels like?”

As a postscript, it was nice, and I still indulge when I can. Further, that lifestyle was abandoned when I became pregnant. I became “persona no grata!”

 

Why did I do it the first time? My late husband was alot of firsts because I gave him my virginity, and since my friend had done it, I wanted to try it. However, at 18, before the net was everywhere, neither of us had a clue. By the time I was done working my way down, something he was very patient for, I was going back up to get off the really unpleasant ride. I almost never tried agian, it was that bad, and I was in control.

Many years later, someone rimmed me. It totaly blew my mind that the same hole that led to so much pain on the first try was capable of providing that much pleasure. Now I'm working up to trying it again, but with more information.

 

I was curious about it. Wanted to know what it felt like. I was also pregnant with my first, and crazy, out of control horny. So, one night I randomly told him during sex that I wanted it in there. I knew it was something he always wanted to try too, so I knew he would be excited. It was fun, and still is something I enjoy from time to time.

 

Well I got into it from porn. I genuinely enjoyed watching the "gaping" videos on the tube and curiosity got to me too. I wanted to know if I could do that, would it look good on me, have I got the butthole to pull this off? It also worked well for my über submission in the bedroom and I enjoyed watching my girls facial expressions of excitement and all that jazz while she did this too me. In the end it worked for our lifestyle, I enjoy it. Of course I'm not always "I need anal every day" I don't think those types of girls are a realistic portrayal, maybe I'm wrong. I wanna meet one. >.>

 

I never pushed the issue with my gf, but she knew that I would like it and was motivated to give me what I wanted, as well as prove something to herself about being able to do it. I'm not sure if she ever imagined that she would like it as much as she now does, though.

 

wanted to see what it was like and was put off because it hurt, tried with a diffferent partner who was more gentle and loved it

 

One very good reason why girls should do anal is because they will find they can get far more quality goods than if they didn't spead their assholes wide apart. Chances of getting jewelry, a new car, a vacation to Italy or even an engagement ring all increase exponentially with the advent of anal sex. The ultimate prize is to win half of a man's property via community property. For a girl, letting a rich man sodomize her is a far easier means to win the beachfront home--sure as hell beats working at Macy's for $9 per hour. Anal sex is the key to riches for many women who cannot otherwise afford the quality goods on her own.

 

Just a heat of the moment decision. I had discovered it felt good to finger my ass while masturbating and became accustomed to it, then it was a matter of being bent over taking it from behind, spontaneously feeling the urge and asking for it. Some initial pain on penetration but once he was in the angels were singing, lol.

 

You're kidding, right?

Those are never a "good" reason for anyone to do anything, in my opinion.

 

Wait a minute, let me make myself very clear here.

Picture this scenario. Two girls with the likes of Megan Fox, one who loves anal sex and the other abhors it. Are you suggesting that I should pick the latter because it is the right thing to do from the woman's perspective? That just because I would be willing to compromise myself to accomodate her aversion to anal sex, it would be more pleasing to you, right?

Just as you stated above, "There ARE options." The options are simple: pick anal whores like Megan Fox #1 who loves it in the ass, or pick prudes like Megan Fox #2 who doesn't want it in the ass and expects men to accept that. I want to make myself very clear here that I am perfectly accepting of Megan Fox #2 and she can do as she pleases. However, I wouldn't waste my time with her, let alone spend any money on her. Why should I, when I can turn to Megan Fox #1 and buy her jewelry and other quality goods after she lets me stick my fist in her wide, gaping asshole? Good deeds should never go unrewarded, and we are often generous to the ones we love the most--in my case, anal whores. Several months of rough anal sex is very deserving of a new Lexus, but I fail to see why I should compromise and constantly bicker with a girl who absolutely refuses to take it in the ass. Indeed it is her right to do with her body as she pleases, but with anal refusal I reserve the right to walk away; just leave her and let her buy her own car with her own money. Live and let live, right?

To assert that I hate women is very inaccurate. I absolutely love women. I simply love those who love taking it in the ass. Anal whores are definitely worth spending lots of money on. For those to don't do anal...well, just move on to the next girl. After all, "there ARE options," and I agree with you 100% on that one.

 

I love a good clean tight ass, as long as my girl showers and takes a massive shit first were g2g!

 

Don't bother arguing with BDM - it only encourages him.
Next he'll be going on about his days at "Cal" and how the fem nazis abused him.
He is most certainly a pathetic POS, troll, asshole but he does provide some comic relief now & then - The Archie Bunker of anal sex.

 

This is probably the extent of BDM's experience at Cal:

Walking across Sproul Plaza Backdoor Man sees a beautiful hippie type girl walking in front of him. He thinks to himself, "Hippie chicks are easy." So he approaches said hippie chick.

"Hey bitch I'll buy you a VW Microbus if I can fuck you in the ass!"

Slap! "Security!"

Backdoor Man is escorted off campus and issued a restraining order. He blames that feminist.

C/S,
Rev J

 

I'm a man, in my early 30s, and virgin by choice (too much cultural baggage). I have always been curious and eager to know what women feel during sex, which led me on a new, but intense journey of solo anal play. I wanted to know what penetration was all about.

Sometimes I even find myself naively thinking "hey, if I can have a vagina for a little while, I can achieve a level of understanding of the female spirit that I would become one with whomever I choose as a partner.

 

radchad, trust me when I say, as the proud possessor of both a vagina and a rectum, there is absolutely NO similarity between the what is experienced when an average size penis gets inside.
One is designed for it - the other isn't; ergo different sensation.
Both can be bliss; both can be unpleasant, but believe me, by playing with your botty, you are nowhere near what it's like having a vagina played with.

 

Each woman is different. My wife personally said that anal gives her the quickest and most intense orgasms.

The only problem my wife has with anal is cleaning her ass out, it takes all the spontaneity out of the situation when we're in the heat of the moment and she has to go to the b-room to clean her as for 10-15 minutes.

The most sensitive spots on my wife's body are her clit and her butthole, at least that's what she told me.

And this makes sense because physiologically the anus has MORE nerve endings than the vagina. Also almost ALL her scent glands are located right round the anus.

You have to remember the vagina was built to pass a baby so it's not gonna be as tight or sensitive as the anus, and thank goodness because child birth seems painful enough for any woman!

 

You're only adding fuel to the fire, dear




I'm sure it's mostly psychological in my case: depriving myself of intimacy until such a late age, and still strongly reluctant to engage in any sexual activity except with myself. I'm sure it's also ignorant of me, but would you be generous and spell out the contrast between the different sensations?




P.S. Regardless, I think it would be a great idea to have full male & female reproductive organs at least for a month or two. Can you imagine how better our world and all of our lives would be if this was mandatory requirement of college education--no one graduates until they experience being the other sex for a semester.

 

great post, and my wife hated anal on our very first attempt, and wont ever do it again, even as much as i very subtally try it every now and then, just as a tease.

however, over a period of time while i am down there using my tongue on her pussy, i venture further south and lightly lick her between the pussy and her anus, and slowly start rimming her, and every now and then just curl my tongue up and slide it into her anus about 1" and she literally goes off her head.

the problem was, when we attempted, and later ended up having that first and only go at Anal intercourse, i had not really ventured any further from her pussy while licking her, thinking she would detest it anyway, so i just left that area alone.

i know now that even if i was able to rim her like that before we attempted anal intercourse, it would not have made he like anal intercourse any more than she does now, but at least it may have helped he feel better about Anal play in general.

cheers