The Real Definition of a Slut

I haven't read the whole thread yet, but I plan to. As a preliminary reply, I'd like to say the attempt by The Slut Walk (and things like The Ethical Slut) to appropriate the term and spin it into a high falutin indentity label is laughable. Especially, since every single woman in that walk is a prude.

The term 'slut' does carry a negative connotation, to me. But, I do not apply it the same way as most people:

A slut to me is a girl whose only standard is that the guy should take the initiative. A slut doesn't make decisions on her own, or communicates those decisions clearly. The slut is made possible by pushy dudes. If it weren't for them, they'd never get laid because sluts don't have spines, don't take action on their own, don't feel passionately about anyone or any one thing. They can neither say 'yes' nor 'no', emphatically. They are sort of just carried along with the current.

I don't care what her 'number' is, if she sits around and is tricked into bed by whomever, she's a slut. Sluts have no standards other than the guy must be a douche. Sluts also insist on leaving traces of their private lives strewn along public thoroughfares for anyone to see. Again, being too weak to decide for themselves, who's in and who's out.

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Edit: A note about political correctness --- anyone who's read more than three paragraphs of mine, knows that I do not subscribe to it. To me, it's self-evident that words mean different things in different contexts. I often do joke about being a slut myself, or may use the term to mean promiscuous, but without any particularly negative connotation. No word to me is off limits, and I consider the rigid use of words deplorable and the politically correct phenomenon as whole to be passive-aggressive and hypocritical, at best.

The important thing to know about my attitude toward women, is that I fully encourage them to have sex with whomever they want, whenever they want, and to make their own, self-interested decisions in the most clear cut way possible in all facets of their lives.

 

sleazy
uneducated
dirty
poor hygene
lazy attitude
poor sense of beauty
insecure
vulgar/gross
bad manners
bad ideas
uncaring
insensitive to others
infected
multiple infected :sunny:

 

It is interesting, but not at all surprising, that my definition is the diametrical opposite.

Edit: I think it's ultimately about what kind of woman disgusts you, and I am disgusted by passive-aggressive women.

 

Sexually
Liberated
Unique
Teacher

 

That's bull you cannot be lazy and a slut it takes work to be slutty and lube.

 

The word "slut" is derived from "slot".

If a woman is seen by her partners as little more than a slot between two thighs.
And
If that woman allows herself to be treated as such,
Then she is a slut.

 

I define it as a girl who feels the absolute need to dress up in short skirts etc and sleep with whoever she can because she thinks it's appropriate or conforming to some standard.
The older I get the more attracted I am to "classy" women which I define as like a reception/secretary style of look where you see a lot less but it's a lot classier... If that makes sense. Anyone else dressing up for pure attention is a slut.

 

does a slut have to be female?

 

I totally agree with this. Just because women can act like men , doesnt mean they should. There should be a balance.

E: men are always being teased by satan's whore, and women are forever pure and holy.

That kind of stuff.

Anywho, we all have our own definition of slut. And i believe it should be shameful thing. Running around sleeping with every guy who winks at you. Learn to control yourself, have some standards, give yourself some respect.

Well thats my 2 cents. Im sure someone disagrees with me. :bobby:

 

This thread shows quite clearly that everyone has a differing definition.

I use slut in the sex positive feminist sense.

 

Well, the term slut is generally solely identified and applied to females. But technically you could call a man a slut. It just doesn't carry the same effect as when used in reference to a woman.

 

Each is to there own.....just cause a woman likes sex more than another woman and decides to have variety in her life....dont be jealous that shes doing what you cant! Some women just dont have the self esteem that they need to be a SLUT if you want to call it that...its really sad to put women down for liking sex!

 

Slags.

 

hard work, blood, sweat, and tears ....:mickey:

 

To me, "slut" is just a slang term for a girl who is able to enjoy sex that isn't necessarily connected to a strong emotional relationship, and doesn't go out of her way to keep this fact a secret from the world. She projects a sexual image that makes some people uncomfortable.

Of course, the label is sometimes applied in error to girls who project the image but don't follow through in terms of their actions. Some of them are merely following edgy fashion trends and imitating the way their friends talk.

The word used to be used only in a derogatory sense, but there is no longer a consensus on this. I know people who use it in a playful way. I also know men who have been wishing for years that a lot more women were sluts. They always use the word with a positive intention.

 

Wow, interesting.

The virgin/whore dichotomy has taken on new life. If you are a female who claims she is sexually autonomous, according to one side you are a dirty whorish slut with no morals; and according to the OTHER side, you are a gold digging prude!

And you achieve BOTH of these things at the SAME time! That is one amazing superpower.

I LIKE that. Where's my parade?

 

When a man says, in front of his wife, "I would not marry a woman who didn't have a slut side to her personality", that's about as positive as you can get! Not only is he saying he finds those traits in a woman very appealing, he finds them absolutely essential!

 

Someone that gains approval and attention with his/her sexuality only. Their agenda isn't about fulfilling sexual fantasies.....it's about some mental health deficiency.

 

The term I've heard for men is "man-slut" or the phrase "boytoy" specifically.

 

Hard to say. If you asked the average married guy on the street, he probably wouldn't tell you what he honestly thought about it.

I'm sure most men fantasize about being married to a woman who is highly sexual in every way, but when the time comes to choose a mate and start a family, some guys seem to be afraid to take the plunge with the hot girl with a past. They pick a "safer" option. Maybe they aren't convinced that any one woman can do it all; be a trustworthy wife, a good mother, and a hot sex kitten in bed. Or they worry about what their parents will think.

As I'm sure you know, the old traditional Italian approach is to completely separate the wife and mistress roles, based on an assumption that no woman can do it all. In that system, the wife is supposed to be innocent and "motherly" and proper and boring, leaving all the fun stuff to the mistress. I was a mistress for several years, and enjoyed that role very much. The guy wasn't Italian, but he had that mindset.

Since the 1960's, I think a lot more guys have become willing to consider marrying somebody who has slept around a good bit. They don't want the complications of dealing with a mistress or an open marriage, and they don't want to be stuck for life with a spouse who doesn't fully meet their sexual needs, so they more frequently consider someone with a good bit of experience. The long-term trend is definitely moving in this direction, even though progress has been far from steady.

Of course, some women over 30 simply don't admit to what they have done in the past, if they think it will be a problem.