the older i get the more i want to be with another man

Im married with kids now but since i was a teen i always had some curiosity about being with another guy but it was just a brief fantasy but i realized the older im getting my necessity to be with another guy as a bottom has increased to the point that there are some days that i can't quit thinking about it . Is that normal and is there gonna be a point that im just going to stop liking women? .

 

What you are thinking about is very common and by all means normal in every sense. You've come to the right place to ask this as many, many of us have felt and thought the very same things. My advise to you is first and foremost understand that what you are thinking about is 100% totally normal as we men get older. It's very normal to be curious and at times can be difficult to deal with being in a heterosexual relationship. Many men question if they are turning gay...No, it doesn't really work that way but I'm sure in cases it's happened. For me I had thoughts and curiosities as a late teen into my late 20's while in a heterosexual relationship with two kids. Many times I'd masturbate while sucking on a rubber dong and had intense orgasms which ended up strengthening my curiosity to suck another mans cock. I secretly did so behind my wife's back knowing she would never understand. I don't suggest you do that because I did feel bad about it but do not regret it either. The best route would probably be to somehow start a conversation with your spouse and tell her what you are feeling to get her input. Even that can be a tricky decision, for me it wasn't going to happen. So, what you are feeling is totally normal and I want you to know that.

 

Absolutely normal. I was straight in my 20s with the occasional gay fantasy. Mid thirties I started enjoying gay fantasies a lot more after sharing with wife. She encouraged me to enjoy and explore my gay side. At 43, finally went to Jack off club then hooked up with guy a year later. At this point my porn preferences and masturbation fantasies had gone exclusively gay. At 49 I do find women beautiful and love a woman with a nice ass. I still fuck my wife in the ass but I have no interest in putting my cock in a pussy again. On a sexual level I definitely consider myself gay.

 

It is absolutely normal..No one in my circle knows I am bi..I was struggling with the same issue..In my early 40s and my love for women and hetero sex hasnt changed, but what has changed is my interest in sex with other men, it has greatly increased..It used to be just about the cock but as time went on, so many gay porn viewing sessions later, I'll admit its about sex with another man now, man on man, hot male intimacy! Giving into our secret desires behind a closed bedroom door..I still am intimate and love sensual sex with women but I also am certain I'll enjoy it with men as well..You wonder about something enough, and that thought is a seed that grows and grows until it blooms into action..Thats where Im at, Ive sucked cock many times and get, nervous but I know one thing, theres nothing quite like hot man on man and Im accepting that fact happily finally

 

I have been through this as well. It started with a curiosity and progressed to the point of thinking about sucking a cock a lot. Menopause definitely put some urgency to it because I wasn’t getting any at home. It was a constant tug of war battling the morality of going behind my wife’s back (she would never in a million years agree to letting me) and being sexually frustrated constantly and resenting her for it.
right or wrong I finally found a guy on CL and went for it after an unnerving encounter at a adult arcade (the highlights have been given here on another thread). Well after the first time and lots of guilt over it I didn’t repeat it for a few years.
the nagging desire didn’t stop once I tried it. It only grew stronger. I resolved my self to finding a regular that we agreed to only see each other for safety reasons. Even that worked on my conscience for a while.
I still am in that arrangement and have found that the resentment for my wife has gone away because the sexual tension isn’t there anymore.
Getting to your point I still love pussy, in fact I love everything about women. I love how soft they are their breasts, ass, thighs, all of them. A man however is way less messy to have a extramarital thing with. Neither of us want to change each other’s home life, or our own for that matter. But we both get our sexual needs met. Is it perfect? It’s not. But obviously my marriage isn’t either. I don’t want to trade my wife in, in every other aspect of my marriage she is great.

 

I am in my late 40s, and had gay fantasies for a while in my early to mid 20s, but never acted on them, and they went away. However, they've started again in the last few years and are more intense. I absolutely crave cock....in my mouth and ass. Problem is, my wife would absoliutely freak if she knew. However, my desires are purely sexual. I don't think I could be with a man romantically. The farthest I've ever gone is sharing pics and chatting online. And I mean through forums. I do not Skype or anything like that.

 

Wow sounds exactly like me as well.. thank you I’m not the only one

 

You are not sir...I agree I always do find our posts relatable..We'd prob make great FWB haha

 

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New here. It's the same for me. I'm 39 years old, married with kids. I've never experienced sex with a man. The older I get the more I want to explore my sexuality.

 

I'm 66 and I started having thoughts in my early 50s. Never acted on them. Last year the urge was strong enough play a little with a male aquaintence. He too in his 60s said he had developed the curiosity and was surprised. Our wives don't know and neither would understand or approve I'm sure. There is nothing heavy between us just occasional playing. We both agree it's not a good thing but keep doing it.

 

There's nothing wrong (IMO) with two guys sucking each other off from time to time. If it feels good and the two of you enjoy it why stop? Having a friend you can suck and be sucked by is something to hold on to and enjoy every moment together. Tom and I suck each other off quite often (at least 1-2 times a week) as our sex drives are far higher than our wives are.

 

I'm only 20 and I love women but cock just feels so dam good. The cum just drives me wild and I'm always looking for more. I will eventually get with a girl for long term but will always suck a nice cock and swallow a hot load.

 

Im 48, and my wife likes to watch me get fucked by a guy. I think I'm lucky to have such an open minded woman. I love her, and love to have sex with her, but I also love getting fucked. As long as I let her watch, she is all for it. She also loves to strap on a dildo and fuck me. I cum when I get it in my ass, so I love both ways, and each feels completely unique. If I had to pick one, I would choose her, but I would miss the feel of a man going in me.

 

As I got older, the pool of potential female partners got smaller and smaller. When I was young, I did have thoughts about meeting up with another male but never acted on them. I choose on the side of fidelity. Once the action dialed down to nothing and my marriage disintegrated, it was time to reinvent my sex life and I acted on those feelings. And, it turned out better than I thought it would. Still had to remain discreet. But, older guys still need to take care of each others needs how ever we can. I still get hard and wet at the sight of a hot young girl, but not being a rock star, I know that dream aint gonna happen!

 

I'm a 64 year Bi guy. I began having sex with guy about 15 years ago as a bottom.
Now I'm 64 I love it more than ever.
I love the feeling of a gut licking my fuckhole and pushed his fingers into before he rams his cock up it.
The feeling is fantastic.
I need more and more.

 

Late 40s guy here, very single. My desire for guys has grown as I have gotten older too.
You all probably know my story. I started noticing urges for guys in my early 20s. At first the desires came a few months apart but has grown to be more constant.
The way I'm different from the average guy responding here is I'm not married and I've never come close to it. My record with the ladies is in fact abysmal. My main obstacle was internalized homophobia. There was so much guilt shame and conflict for having these feelings just because for some arbitrary reason society has viewed this negatively especially for males. It had a big affect on me and it was a lot to overcome. So my desire has increased mainly as a result of increased acceptance.
I have yet to enjoy another man, and when, not if, I have that first night, I'm not 100% sure what I will make of it, but I'd like to think it will be overall enjoyable assuming it's a good guy I'll be with. Then again I didn't have to spend the night with a lady to know I like women! There might be residual internalized homophobia with actual experience. But I refuse to accept the fact of this possibility as a reason to avoid it. At this point of my life I'd much rather experience it and learn to enjoy it as another pleasure in life than beat myself up on my deathbed wondering what if and never choosing to follow my sex drive in a way that was available to me.

 

I am 58, and have for the last 5 years become very curious about being with a guy. Would like to find a guy to discreetly play with 4-6 times a year.

 

Same here.....but why limit it to 4-6 times a year? My thinking is at least once a month.

 

It’s been over 3 months for me and I’m craving it. We don’t live in the same town and both being married it’s not always easy to plan.