I am in a relationship and happy. I was in a college class recently and there is this very attractive woman in there. I always try to sneak a look at her when I can! She caught me looking the other day, but when she did, she gave me the look in return. The 'fuck me' look. I was disapointed to see that she had left when class was over before I could talk to her, but I found her waiting for me next to my car when I left the building. We talked for a bit - not about sex - but I'm not sure if I should pursue it. We've started sitting next to each other in class and I'm in heaven just next to her Should i pursue this at all?
not if you're happy in a relationship with someone else. probably didn't mean anything anyway. 90% of the time when women give the "fuck me" look, it's just because she's trying to use you for something.
Are you sure it was a "Fuck me look"? Maybe it was more of an annoyed look because she caught you gawking at her.. or maybe she has an upset stomach or something.
The first question that occurs to me is... what KIND of happy relationship are you in? Would fucking someone else once (or a few times) wreck it? How does your significant other feel about occasional casual sex outside the relationship that the two of you have? How would you deal with the reverse situation (your SO wants to fuck someone else)? You need to consider all of those factors (and probably more) before you even think about pursuing this at all. Maybe you should bring up the topic (in abstract) with your SO and she how she reacts. If this subject has never come up before, you might be (pleasantly) surprised to find that she doesn't think it's a big deal and you should go dip your wick. (Probably not, but you never know.) If your girl is reasonable, and even a little objective, she shouldn't be surprised to find out that you're still attracted to other pretty women, especially ones that want to do that mattress dance with you. Even if she says "No deal", she should still be comforted by the fact that you'd ask and then honor her wishes rather than sneaking around behind her back. The last thing I think you should do is nothing. That'll start to eat you up after a while.
He can be in a happy relationship and "enjoy something else." Society really screws people up. One other person can not fill all our needs, never have, never well. LIFE is to be lived and enjoyed to the fullest. No harm, no fowl. Discretion is the key.
On the last day of class we talked a bit after class- i asked her if that look was what i thought it was and she said yes that it was - no, we never did anything - she has a boyfriend now, so must be getting satisfied there! We decided to be friends at the moment, which pleases me greatly.
by discretion you mean lying, and lying is the type of thing that screws society up. If one person can't satisfy you the non screwed up thing to do is to tell that person.
My hubby and I are investigating swinging, and I ended up creating a profile on Ashley Madison, which is an affair site. Lots of "attached" people looking for hook ups. On my profile I put that my husband and I were looking into swinging or MFM, and pretty quickly I got lots of messages from attached males who didn't want to change their relationship with their partners but were looking for something on the side. My husband and I decided we didn't want to go there, so I amended the profile to say we were considering MFM with unattached males or males in open relationships. My hubby is more worried than me, thinking a scorned wife might burn our house down or something! On principle, I don't support the idea of playing with straying males because I've been strayed on by past partners and empathize with the partners being cheated on. I ended up removing my profile. Then, on SLS, another male approached me since we were from nearby areas. Turns out he's in a "sexless" marriage and they've only been married for five years! Being nosey and wondering why he was looking to stray, he just said he didn't know why she wasn't wanting sex, going through something hormonal? Well, I'm of that age so got that, but what I didn't like is that he was so ambiguous and sounded so uninterested in understanding what was going on with his wife, uninterested in improving the situation. I felt like he wasn't being kosher, something was up - maybe he's the dick in the relationship? Man, why not cut bait and run if you are already dissatisfied after only five years? So, won't be getting together with that one, either! Chrysalis2027, it's pretty natural to get caught up in the wave of attraction, but you've got to think about where you think it will take you...might you fall in love with her out of the sheer passion that an illicit affair can light, dump your current girl, and then find that everything deflates after you go full time with the new girl...would it have been worth it? The guys on here saying you should have gone for it, well they are just the kind of dogs that most women wish to avoid. I realize the Look is quite powerful... Years ago I went to play co-ed volleyball at a gym, and when I walked into the gym and made eye contact with this one guy, the electricity was palpable and my body reacted in a very visceral way - it was crazy!! He was aware of it, reacting the same way. Thing is, this guy wasn't even that good looking, but that wasn't a huge deal breaker for me. We went to have a drink afterwards...He had a soda. After seeing him a second time, it started to become very clear that whatever that thing between us was, it was quite temporary, and in fact this guy was a man child momma's boy type who thought I was now his Girlfriend, and we hadn't even done anything! I very quickly extracted myself out of that situation since there was nothing else going between us! I really don't get why the sexual electricity thing can be so very off!
