The joy of the slow relaxed handjob

The handjob is often something teenagers and young adults want to move on from as quickly as possible, so they can hit a home run with full intercourse. The handjob of youth is also often rushed, and over too quickly. Trying to reach the climax as quickly as possible and not apprecating the joy of the sensation of the hand job. It's about the destination, not the journey.

I must admit, the slow hand job when you are much older, is a far more satisfying build up, and climax. You stroke your partner , relaxed in bed, or on the sofa. There's no urgency as you stroke them , and they respond. You might be having a conversation about unrelated stuff whilst it happens. The build up, goes on for ever, they or you get wetter and wetter; her fluids or your precum. They or you eventually cum and their hand or yours runs their / your fingers through their emissions.

Here's to the slow,just chilling, handjob in mature sexual relations.

 

My wife went out tonight but I’ve got her ok to give myself one.

 

I was referring to a slow relaxed handjob from your partner. I'm not sure many men can give themselves a slow handjob, if masterbating, you'll want to reach orgasm fairly quickly.

 

You have to ask for permission??
Talk about being pussy-whipped......Lol

 

Yes I do. And yes, I guess I am. I’ll admit it but I’m ok with it.

 

I suppose because I’ve never had a great handjob when I was a teenager (from a girl anyway), that was a phase I just skipped. It wasn’t until I had my first one as an adult that I realized the value and potential of them.

 

I don't know why, but my wife too often tends to go too fast when giving hand jobs or blow jobs. I constantly have to ask her to slow down.
I would love to just relax and have her gently stroke or slowly suck on my cock for a long while so that it's nice and hard, but not yet ready to cum.

 

I had a friend who used oil and took forever, slowly building me up to the most amazing, toe curling orgasms I’ve ever had.

 

A male friend or a female friend?

 

Got a nice slow very attentive hand job the other day lasting nearly an hour. It was accompanied by her tongue exploring my nipples as I played with her pussy. When I orgasmed I curled up into her waist and held on while my body exploded in wave of pleasure. It left me like a limp dishrag when it was over.

 

The old saying..."no one can give me a hand job as good as I can"...mostly rings true in my case.

In my earlier sexual escapades in life...I was in a hotel room with a hooker once and she tried hard to convince me that she gave the best hand jobs than anyone else (meaning other hookers) in the area and was willing to place a wager on it. Considering she was a "pro"...that was a bet I wasn't really willing to take, so I explained to her that hand jobs just never got me off because I know my body and I know what I respond well too.

In the past, a "hand job" was applied if there was ever the unfortunate circumstance that I couldn't cum...and the usual technique used was to jack my cock as hard and fast as humanly possible, thinking that particular form of stimulation would achieve the desired results. WRONG!
If you are giving someone a hand job and they are laying there looking at you with a bored look on their face...it ain't happening.

So anyway...back to the "pro"...
She was sitting cross legged between my legs as I was propped up on a pillow. At that point...what did I have to lose, so I told her to go for it.
She went to the bathroom sink and grabbed the two foil packets of lotion that are complimentary...you know, the ones by the upside down cups...and came back to bed. She again parks herself between my legs, opens one of the packets and squeezed a good amount into her hand before she took my cock in hand as well. She proceeded to start with a very slow motion and used very little pressure. It was more like she wasn't even squeezing my cock at all. The stimulation came from the texture of her hands...and yes, she used both hands instead of one. She sat there and watched every little signal coming from me...so if I wasn't responding the way she thought I needed to, she would change her stroke or try a bit of twisting her hand or some other manner of technique. She tried a certain maneuver and I immediately gasped and tensed up...and thats when she smiled .
She had found what was going to get me off and surprisingly, she didn't exploit it...but she knew to come back to that when I was edged out. She edged me and played with me for probably 30 minutes as she reveled in her ability...after I doubted her. When I had reached a level of contortion that she figured was torturous enough, she went back to that one technique and I came so hard that I thought I was going to pull a muscle.

It was quite a mess, but I gave her props on a job very well done. I wonder if she's still around...hmmm.

 

We did enjoy the rushed handjobs in the car when dating, but we still enjoy them after years of marriage. We rediscovered the pleasure of mutual masturbation after my wife had surgery and was unable to have sex for a few weeks. Both of us were horny, so we got naked, watched a sexy movie together, and leisurely played with each other's sexy parts. I had a towel handy since I wasn't using a condom and would eventually make a mess. We still do it, most often after having sex, lying there after both having orgasms, but not ready to stop the feelings of sexual pleasure.

 

The slow relaxed handjob sounds like a great Saturday morning tradition.
Something not to rush through, put on some mood music, you know really get into it
Then see what happens next.

 

It's not something that I need to go out of my way to do. Half the time just watching tv I automatically just slowly stroke him. Not to the point of no return... just enough to put him in the happiest mood. Besides after I stop he is like a fully charged energizer bunny, which is great news for me

 

An ex boyfriend used to like this this. He would ask me to play with him while we're rewatching tv. He liked lots of variety during it and it would last for a couple of hours. When he was ready to cum, he would gently push my head down to catch it.

 

I never have my wife give me an actual handjob. She tickles and runs my balls and cock. Just an overall great sensation that far surpasses a handjob. Once her hand gets too tired she will blow me, or I fuck her ass, or finish myself off. Heaven.

 

So many handjobs turn into blowjobs but a relaxing handjob is wonderful. For me, it's more of a long play. Not something that's started just to get a cock cumming although that's bound to happen. It can be a stop--start--stop--start thing. A massage from a friend with a shaft stroke and balls massage in between everything else is good. It doesn't have to be something started with the goal of a quick finish.

 

Because I insisted on waiting until marriage for the home run my wife and I enjoyed mutual masturbation for more than a year. It remains one of my favourite sex acts. My wife assumes I want sex every time because it's the ultimate pleasure. The thing is while steak is my favourite sometimes I want the chicken for a change know what I mean. Some of the most incredible orgasms I've ever had came from her hand. I love how we used to do it: lying next to her she stroked me while I tickled her. The sensation builds like a stew there's a depth of flavour a steak just can't reach. Because I'm focused on making her feel good I don't notice the steadily building pleasure she's giving me. Similarly my wife gets lost in waves of ecstasy and loses her rhythm. The unpredictability of it is another magical thing. Not knowing when her next stroke will come and how short or long or fast or slow it will be makes it all the more exciting. I hope I can explain to her how amazing it feels and make it a regular part of our repertoire.

 

I give myself slow, relaxed handjobs all the time. In fact I prefer them that way. I love to edge for long periods of time, I love to tease myself To hell with that, yank my cock like I'm testing the strength of a rubber band. I love the feel of my hard cock in my hand and I love to keep it there as long as possible!!