Some nudists here have spoken of their lifestyle choice and others' acceptance of it. They say that their TRUE friends wouldn't dump on them for being nudist, and that you find out who your real friends are. That makes sense. What are some stories/accounts of when things didn't go so well? For example, when you decided on a nudist lifestyle, what trouble/hassle did it cause? Whether legally, or where work is concerned, or family, or friends, or ... ? Did the trouble cause you to rethink your choice or doubt whether going nudist would be worth it? Etc. Or, as you continue in the nudist lifestyle, what problems have arisen, and how do you deal with them? Fairly open-ended topic, but that's intentional. Just to explore the not-so-rosy side of the nudist lifestyle.
My wife and I decided when we became nudists that we wouldn't disclose at will but wouldn't deny if asked either. We have items in our houses referring to nudism. People we know have seen or heard things but never ask. I decided to play with my friends and relatives on Facebook. I occasionally post meme or arcticles and cartoons regarding nudity. Its amazing the responses and now reputation I get from people but yet nobody has ever came out and ever asked my association with nudity. Its a shame people are that shallow minded to want to keep away from the subject of nudity. Something we all do everday in our lives.
Agreed, All our friends are clothing prudes. I can make a passing comment about my love of nudity, but it is met with jokes and evasive answers. It makes you feel like a outcast. Other than my wife no one has ever ask me why I love to be nude so much.Wouldn’t it be nice if nudity was acceptable as having a beer or cup of coffee together, and not be judged for it. Some people would do it, some would not. It then would become a social non event. One can only dream.
When I started into the life style my wife then never cared for it. And now that my family all knows I'm a naturist, at first they seemed ok with it. But now that has seemed to have changed. not sure what changed there minds. Have only been nude around them at my house. A couple of time at my step mom's house, but she always said she didn't mind. do have some nudist friends that come by and hang out, and travel to nudist resorts as much as i can. Been a member of AANR and a nudist almost 20 years. I try and get others to try it. some just don't understand it, and others that seem to enjoy it.
We too are AANR members. Once we disclosed to our three sons and daughter in law it didnt matter if anyone else knew or if they cared or not. We did initiate and introduce my wifes sister and her husband into the style but they very much live in secret of it. They are the type that worries what others think of them. Caught up in social stigma. They try like hell to keep their grown kids and friends from knowing.
Can't say I've had much in the way of hassles myself, but I know of friends who have wondered how to approach the subject of nudism with their own friends. It can be frustrating in conversation, talking about something like a holiday for example, not letting on you spent it nude when you could. Best thing my friends have done is have a photo of them in the lounge, not too prominent but there for all to see amongst other photos, of them nude on holiday. When their friends see it, it either becomes a topic of conversation and a real ice breaker to start openly talking about it, or they can see their friends disapproving and steering clear of any conversation where it could get mentioned. I've known several couples who have done this. Overall it's generally worked out well and made their friendships better and made more friends by it, but sometimes they've lost friends over it.
Alas I am a now a closet nudist. Before children I was free to be nude at home with my wife who wasn’t nudist but had no problem with my being nude and even encouraged me in it. We even visited a resort for the first time together and it was wonderful. Home nudism came to an end when children arrived. I wouldn’t be comfortable with that. Once the kids were older, she and I visited a resort a couple of times. Difficult times arrived and she became disabled and in chronic pain so that came to an end too. One grown child still lives with us so nudity at home is still out. I brought it up with her in recent years how I’d like to visit the resort again but this time around her attitude is completely different. She implied that as an older man I shouldn’t desire to be nude and kind of shamed me for it. So now I have to visit the resort alone in secret when I can. I even flew down to FL in the spring to visit one of the big resorts alone. It was like a dream come true but I do wish I had someone to share it with.
We've been on vacation and friends wanted to see some photos - so we showed them - just said, Oh yeah, that's the nude beach we went to everyday" They are mostly interested in discussing it further with us
Living alone was great for going nude and I thought my now fiancé was ok with but she has told me that she thinks it’s weird so that has put a real damper on thing. It was bad enough knowing she would never be open minded enough about the topic because she obviously sees nudity as sexual and nothing but.
A lot of my friends are prudes of the highest order: they cringe and gasp at the thought of guys in Speedos, and think nudists have "a mental problem somewhere". This, from other guys who swim in board shorts that go all the way down to their ankles and which are known as drowning hazards. Counterbalancing that is the fact I have many friends and professional associates which are wholly accepting of my pursuit of naturism, especially knowing I have been doing it since I was very young! Besides which, people coming here are doing so to view my photography, not my body! That means people do know by prior advice or acquaintance, my photographic studio is a nudist area and that in appropriate weather conditions I will be out and about as well as around indoors, in the birthday suit. Speedos are also OK and these are what I drive in a lot of the time in the warm to hot weather.
Dump her. Harsh advice I know, but it's not worth letting a partner cramp your style, especially in something that's important to you. I've allowed it to happen several times in the past for the sake of an easy life, but it just ends up in resentment.
I don't discuss it with others, the only people who know I like being naked on beaches and spas are those who are there themselves. Part of this is good in that there is an oasis from the rest of life.
