The Great Big Anal Sex Thread!

from what I understand, roids are sometimes caused by lack of fiber in the diet and/or forcing the process while taking a dump.

I haven't been bothered by 'roids by having anal sex.

 

I really need to look into this before I do anything agian.

 

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Hemroids may be internal or external (a protrusion of the rectal muscles.) Bleeding when you wipe may be a symptom. Itching is usually caused by aggravating the area.

There isn't a consensus on why Hemroids occur, part of it may be heredity. I have yet to talk to anyone who engages in anal sex (self included) who has gotten hemroids. Indeed, anal sex may reduce a tendency toward Hemroids.

Hemroids are most often associated with straining while taking a dump, or trying to "force it". So, avoid constipation (where you have a tendency to push). Eating a high-fiber diet, consisting mainly of fruits, whole-grain products, and vegetables, creates softer and more regular BMs. Drink six to eight glasses of H2O a day.
Do Not force it. Do not strain or hold your breath on the toilet. Choose a time when you are not rushed, and don't try to hold it in for long periods.

Contributing factors may include the upright posture (while on the stool) which places a lot of pressure on the anal and rectal veins. Aging, obesity, pregnancy, chronic constipation or diarrhea, excessive use of enemas or laxatives, straining during bowel movements.

During anal sex, you are actually relaxing the rectal muscles. Otherwise you are doing it wrong. If it hurts during penetration, stop. You may need to manually stimulate the area to loosen the muscles. The contracting and stimulation during anal sex may help to strengthen the rectal muscles and veins. Having contol of these muscles also helps you not to Strain during a bm.

Hemorrhoid pain is often eased by sitting in a warm tub for about 10 or 15 minutes two to four times a day. Bleeding hemroids may stop if you take two teaspoonfuls of apple cider vinegar in a glass of H2O at every meal. Straining, rubbing, or cleaning around the hermeroids may cause irritation, and itching.



Some of this info was gleaned from : hemroids.us.

 

are you feeling enlightened, StonerBill?

 

I feel obligated to add that gay men are not the only ones who have anal sex. You might get more information asking about this beyond a gay forum.

 

I'm not gay and I love anal.

 

Hi im a 16 year old guy. I've never done anything with a guy before but i probably will this wknd coz im meeting with someone to do it. I'm a bit nervous about it - can u tell me what 2 expect? will it hurt much?

 

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Look for this title: Anal Pleasure & Health.

I would advise against fucking on your first date with someone. Or that your first time is with a stranger. Get to know the person and work into anal. Try messing around doing other things before you go that far. You'll be able to relax and enjoy it more.

Get a butt plug or dildo to practice with. Something simple like this Crystal Jellies Probe, or the Butt Plug 4.5" from Doc Johnson (note the links may change and redirect) They sell them at sex shops and on line. Never use a dildo with a wire support or vibrator, they can do damage. You want something that is soft and totally flexible, like jelly or Silicone. You may wrap the plug or dildo in a condom for easy clean up.

After you feel comfortable with a plug, try a larger size. Practicing by yourself will help you to relax and learn to control the muscles. Anal sex should be pleasurable. Stop if it hurts.

You may want to use a small, plain-water douche before hand, to clear the area. You can buy the kind that girls use. Don't go over board on the enema.

Even though you are the "bottom" it is still your responsibility to have a new condom ready for anal sex. Don't forget to bring one along.

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Does anyone have any tips on how to give a man an orgasm through anal sex. Have any of you managed to reach his prostate gland to make him cum?

 

I appologize in advance if this thread seems a bit crude, but it is something that has been bothering me for a while. I do expect serious answers though, so please don't make stupid comments.

My boyfriend of 2 months and I are planning to spend a week together at the end of March, during which we will be taking each others' virginity. I am of course ecstatic about being able to spend time with him (sexually or otherwise), but there is one thing that has been bothering me:

I am very sensitive of personal hygiene, and one of the things I am the most sensitive about is feces. Now obviously, anal sex involves the area of your body where feces are expelled, and I have been quite nervous about what that will mean when my boyfriend and I make love to one another. If you're diligent with personal hygiene, how big a risk is there of getting feces on your penis? Also, is there any safe, effective, and preferably easy way to clean out your rectal cavity?

Any advice or info is greatly appreciated.

 

Hi BT343. Firstly, the only sure clean and safe way of having anal sex is to use a condom! Only have unprotected anal sex with someone who you either KNOW is disease free, or has had the respective HIV etc. tests done, and is proven clear!

You can buy anal douches from any sex shop, some chemists outlets may sell them too. These are simple to use. But from my own experience, use this some good long time before having sex, (several hours at least.) as sometimes you may find that there is still some dirty water "inside" your partner. (It doesn't necessarily all come back out at first motion!) Also, subsequent farting may expel some water too! (Honest, I'm not joking!)
Make sure that you are both freshly cleaned/washed before having anal sex! Apart from these options, there's not too much else you can do! Don't forget to use plenty of lubricant! If using a condom, use ONLY WATER-BASED LUBRICANTS!
Please take very good care, and enjoy your experiences together. I wish you both the very best for your future.
Have fun, Love, Dennis.

 

Obviously, your plan ought to include condoms and lots of water-based lubricant. Douche (enema) is a prerequisite, too. Yet, there is not much more you can do to avoid 'accidents'. There is a rest risk here which simply cannot be eliminated.

Anal sex seems to be the easiest thing on earth, if you go by the porn movies these days. It all works like a charm. And so it does in the movie world only.

Anal sex happens to be a bit on a 'kinkier' side, so if you want to go there, make a conscious decision to relax, go with the flow and accept the realistic possibility that accidents may happen, no matter how much time and effort you put into your 'preparation work'.

Make allowance for the fact that both your BF and yourself are embarking on a very intimate exploration and that both of you lack the experience and the routine needed. Again, keep in mind that there is much more to it than you usually get to see on the porn and/or hear from the guys who reportedly know all about it.

My bottomline here:

a/ Do your prep work
b/ Relax, relax, relax
c/ Understand that yeah, 'accidents do happen', no matter what
d/ Take your time. Practice makes perfect and both of you lack practice
e/ Teach yourself the virtue of great patience. You'll need it.
f/ Understand that anal sex might be right and great for some but not for all. There is love and great sex without it, too.

Let all of us here know, if you need more info and help. Feel free to pvt, too.

KD

 

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I must comment on this. The only way to KNOW if your partner is "disease free or had the respective HIV etc. tests done and is proven clear!" IS if you are God or a psychic. Didn't think so. No matter what your lover says or what you want to believe, there is always the possibility that he has an STD that he himself doesn't even know about. Or he might not want to tell you about that fling he had last summer, espically if you don't know about it all ready. It happens every single day! How do you think people get AIDS? If someone loves you, they won't be offended if you insist on using a condom. While some committed couples may not use condoms, that isn't something I could advocate for you or anyone. You do so at your own risk.


There are books on the subject, for the best I've seen, look for this title: Anal Pleasure & Health


If this is your first time and you're worried about a mess there are a few precautions you can take.

Douche. You can use a regular disposable douche that women buy or an enema bag. Using just plain water is recommended, though people have used the vinegar and water douches; they will disrupt the chemical balance of the area. Depending on your physical make up, doing a vinegar and water douche once a month may not prove harmful. (1 teaspoon vinegar to 2 cups water) Stay away from ALL Scented douches or ones containing other ingredients. If need be you can empty a store bought douche and refill it with plain water. You may want to take a double treatment of a disposable douche. One thing I'd like to note is that you can "over" douche. By that, I mean too much and too often. Doing an enema every day may disrupt the chemical balance of the area and can cause complications. A douche can actually leave the area somewhat dry feeling because you are clearing out the natural lubricants as well.

I would recommend you parctice douching before your big night. Also a good idea to buy a butt plug or dildo, cover it with a condom (for easy clean up) and practice. That way you will have a idea of what to expect.

Also, take a shower or wash the rectal area with soap and water before you "go to bed" like you would wash your face or hands.

Fag Rag. Have a hand towel ready. Or, some people will lay a towel on the bed, or place it underneath. You can do that if you're worried.

Be aware of what you eat and your current regularity. Of course you won't want to have anal sex after having Thanks Giving dinner. Like wise, you may want to time sex with your normal time of the day to dump. Wait several hours after you eat or until after you clear. Some people have suggested to eat light, a sandwich or rice during the day and salad at dinner. That seems to be going a bit far for me. But again, it depends on your own physiology. If your cavity is full, you won't be able to accommodate a dick up there.

Also if you have been having loose bms or are constipated, that may not be the best time for anal sex. The area could be too tender for sex or too difficult to relax or accommodate. It's best to wait for a time when it you will be able to relax.

I don't think your question is out of context for this forum. One of the aversions people have to anal sex is the mess. Taking the precautions above should eliminate the risk of an accident. And I don't agree that anal sex is kinky at all. That's like saying oral sex is a 'bit' on the kinky side.



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Please accept my sincere apologies for this. But in this instance, as both appear to be virginal, I "assumed"! This was obviously a bad mistake to have made!

However was this:

totally incorrect?

I don't want to be stepping on any toes here, being a newbie, an' all. But I think the terseness of your GOD remark is a bit O.T.T, Hipunk! You also forgot to highlight my very FIRST comment!

So please don't try coming across as though you are THE safe sex adviser to the world! I was only trying to give a little help/advice! I wasn't telling anyone that THIS IS WHAT YOU (have to) DO!

I appreciate what you're saying, but don't make comments about me that can be taken in an adverse way! I don't know your age, but I haven't reached 55yrs old by being dumb! You don't know me, don't judge me! OK?

 

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Sorry dear, but at no time did I comment on you, as a person or your character. (I continue to let that speak for itself.) I did comment on one of your comments. Even in context, it is grossly wrong.

When I said "if you are God or psychic," I was not referring to you personally but every fool out there who believes it when a partner says, "I don't have an STD," or who believes when they say, "I tested negative." The tests are usually kept confidential. Sometimes a test is wrong, and as I mentioned some guys won't get tested because then they have to admit they cheated on their mate.

I certainly don't know everything about how AIDS is spread, but I have met plenty of folks who got it through having unproteded sex with a committed partner who they KNEW to be disease free and had the tests to prove they were clear.

Sorry, I had a problem with your post, but I gotta call 'em like I see 'em. And that post was off the mark. No offense, but dude -you should be old enough to handle that.

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this is a good topics. Thank you both the one who asked and the ones who answered. I did worry a lot abt this. This released my fear some how.

 

OK Hipunk, I admitted that my comment was wrong, and made a full apology. But reading BT343s' original post, he stated that BOTH are anal virgins. Therefore I still don't agree that what I said was GROSSLY wrong, in their case!
I am fully aware that with guys already practicing anal sex, this WOULD have been grossly wrong, but these guys aren't!

To pick up on another point here... If two people, in a relationship, are going to commit to each other, and they have the necessary tests done, I don't agree that either would "hide" the results. This would only be the case if either one felt obliged to have themselves "checked out" for whatever reason. Then I agree that they might want to hide the results.
But if two people were having the tests because of their relationship, then wouldn't both partners want to see the others' results? If you're with someone who is cheating on you, you are better off with someone else anyway, and should pick up on their reluctance to show their test results! I, for one, wouldn't take it on trust from anyone who wouldn't consent to my seeing the results for myself, given the nature of those tests!

Agreed also, that test results can be inaccurate. But if you live your life wrapped up in a plastic bubble for every little "possible threat", you're not LIVING your life. You are merely skipping around the edges of A life!
I realise now, that you are most likely to come back with some pretentious little quip/retort, but I AM BIG ENOUGH to totally ignore you from here on in! OK?

By the way... You still don't give any indication as to your age! Are you old enough to have any "life" experience, or are you just another little "know-it-all teenager" who's so worldy wise, and educated, that you think you know everything? C'mon DEAR... Answer please!

If we are going to continue to have "problems" with each others posts, maybe we should avoid responding to them! EH? (Dear!)

Dennis.

 

The whole STD god/psychic/whatever argument aside, I sincerely thank everyone for their advice and responses. This has given a good idea of what to do and expect. Thank you very much.

 

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I understand that your advice was on the condition of anal virginity. However AIDS and other STDs can be transmitted through oral sex as well as other means. To suggest that it is "safe" for "anal" virgins or committed partners to have unprotected sex is grossly wrong because it is patently, and unconditionally wrong. Unprotected sex is always a risk you take. And your partner may lie about his virginity. You may wish it otherwise, you may access it otherwise, but the fact is there will always be a risk with unprotected sex. Dream on, it don't change the facts.

Not all clinics will allow your partner to see the result of a test, nor will they confirm that the results make you risk free, because that places the clinic in a position of being the authority that signals that it is okay for two people to have unprotected sex. If you can find a doctor who will do that, let me know, he needs to have his license revoked. But you won't find that doctor or clinic anyway.

You may not know this, but the thing with cheaters is that they don't ever tell their partner that they are cheating, otherwise it wouldn't be cheating.

Now, you are welcome to take the risk of unprotected sex and many other risks if you desire, but I hope that when you do so you are fully aware that you are indeed taking a risk. You can fool yourself into believing that it isn't a risk, but you won't fool me. Sky diving is risky. Any instructor will tell you that. A person who jumps out of a plane with a parachute and deludes himself that there is NO risk at all, is a fool. I agree that we can isolate ourselves in a bubble, but I hardly see how wearing a condom is living "your life wrapped up in a plastic bubble." The reason there are so many young gay people contracting AIDS today is because they don't believe there is a risk in having certain kinds of unprotected sex.

You asked how old I am. I have chosen to not list my age. It is none of your business; because you have no need to know. I would hope that anyone here who has something to say, that it would be accepted on it's own merit, regardless of the age of the person posting it. But to give you a clue as to my age: when closet cases about your age were raising families and running off to the park to suck somebody off in the bushes, I was marching in Gay Pride Parades and burying dear friends, some of the first people to die from AIDS. I hope that doesn't change how you feel about me.

I have never suggested that someone ignore my posts because they disagree, I don't know where you get that idea. But Dennis dear, if you would rather I didn't respond to your posts because I believe you're misleading people and I am willing to explain why I feel that way; well than you're a bigger risk taker than I imagined, because you're going through life with blinders on. I don't hate you, I don't even dislike you. But I do question you, that's the difference.


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Hipunk... I quote your signature:
Dream as if you'll live forever
Live as if you'll die today
~ James Dean

"Live as if you'll die today"...!
Does that make sense to anyone, after reading this persons' posts? Sounds a bit too "Idealistic" for such a cautious person to be quoting.

I know I'm taking risks! I know what risks I'm taking! I've been hidden away from "Life" for so many years, that I really don't give a damn what anyone says about me, or my behaviour!

At 55yrs of age, and having already wasted the last 23 of them, I intend having the maximum amount of pleasure, and enjoyment I can, until the time has come for me to die!
Whatever the cause, whatever the reason for it, my death will only be a sweet release from that which has burdened me for so long!
If I am responsible for my own demise through my own careless actions, then that's MY problem. I fully absolve YOU of any blame whatsoever!

I appreciate your concern for the original poster in this thread. I understand that you are giving your very best advice. I also give you my heartfelt condolences for those you have lost to STDs. I withdraw my advice to the original poster in this thread!
I am sorry BT343, if I have mislead you in any way. Please ignore EVERYTHING I have said!

There Hipunk... Is that good enough for you??? EH???

Now GET OFF MY CASE AND GO PREACH TO SOMEONE WHO GIVES A FLYING F*CK!

Yours Sincerely, Dennis! XXX