The term "Swinging" is usually applied to persons who meet, as couples, with other couples, then the husbands take each others' wives into separate bedrooms and fuck them. But, in these more modern times, the fucking is usually done in the same room, where the others can watch. Those who have been involved in this "full couples" situation (and that includes me) usually report that it is most exciting to watch another guy fuck his wife, while he fucks the other's wife. But, these "full couple" situation are hard to find, and harder to set up, since it requires the full cooperation of four persons. Most married men are ready and anxious to fuck some one else's wife, and if necessary, would trade fucks with their own wives in order to make it happen. But not so many wives are willing to participate in fuck-sessions with another couple, knowing that their husbands are using them as "trading stock" in order to fuck another guy's wife. The truth is that most women who are willing to "swing" would prefer to be the target-of-interest for all the men involved, in most cases, their husband and one other man. That is why so many women are willing to give fucks to another man, or men, while her husband watches, but would not be nearly so willing for her husband to fuck another woman, even while she is there to watch. I have been at swinger parties in which one woman would give fucks to four or five men in sequence (the classic "gang bang") while her husband was there to watch, and in a few of these instances, I was the husband! So, what I am saying is that it is much easier for a husband to find another man who would like to fuck his wife, than to find another couple in which the other wife would also be willing for him to fuck her! The result, which we have seen from so many threads in this section, is that most cases of "swinging" consist of husbands sharing their wives with other men when she is the only woman present. Do you agree?
In a word...NO! We "found" our perfect couple after a bit of a search (time wasters, single guys pretending to be part of a couple, things like that) when we explored the now defunct MSN groups back in 2002. We just wanted to try same-room-sex with another couple, the people we found were truly lovely, like us inexperienced but eager to explore. They were in some respects an odd couple as she was 39 & he was 54 or 55, but they were intelligent, articulate & very welcoming. We explored same room sex with them a couple of times, but it very quickly became apparent that we all wanted to go a bit further. All in all it was a very erotic & eye opening experience which lasted 4 years until the wife in the other couple got diagnosed with breast cancer.
No I would not agree with what you are saying! There are all sorts in the lifestyle looking for different things out of it. From our experience I would say there are more couples just looking for another woman then there are looking for another guy. Whether it is, because the woman is bi and wants to experiment or, because the guy is a jealous prick who can't handle sharing his wife with another man even though he is quite okay with another woman there. I don't think to many are finding that to easy though, because the single women have tons to choose from and can be as picky as they want. You are right that it would be easier to find a guy to join you, but finding a decent one that isn't a complete loser and actually gets it isn't so easy. Most of them seem to think is all they have to do is send a pic of their cock and say what's up to get in. Takes a little more then that for my lady to have any interest at all in even talking to them. Finding another couple that is looking for the same thing where everyone is interested in everyone else is also a real choir. My suggestion to anyone looking to get into the lifestyle is to not expect things to happen quick, have a thick skin and to treat other people how you would wanted to be treated yourself.
I've done it both ways, and like to do the other wife. http://www.hipforums.com/newforums/showthread.php?t=435889&f=283
I disagree that's it's hard to find. I'm extremely picky, and it was pretty easy to find a few select couples to have fun with. I prefer same room foursomes with the females being bisexual. We do other things too, but that's my favorite arrangement.
Yes I can say finding the right couple is hard to do. As is finding a single guy. Most couples must feel the same way, because as parties most seem to go different ways. After a few soft swings with the same couple, we decided to go a bit farther, and we found out' if you wanted to party, we had to do the same. Our soft swing experiences were done with all four in the same room. Not the same at parties. Over the years we only found a few couples, where if I liked the woman, she also liked the guy. But she only had one single guy, she wanted to be with again. If a guy didn't do anything to please her, she wasn't going to be with him again.
In times before, when two couples made contact, they would meet at a coffee shop or somewhere in public, and if all parties were attracted to the other person in the group, then they exchanged keys and the wives took the "other guys" to their homes and let them fuck them in private. That progressed to the time when both couples would go home together and then pair-off into separate bedrooms, so that they did not actually fuck in front of each other. Now, the model is for all four persons to fuck together in the same room, possibly on the same bed. Both husbands could watch the other fuck their wives, while he, of course, fucked the other's wife. I have only done this once, and it was with a couple in which the husband had previously fucked my wife, and I had fucked his wife on a different occasion. But it was even better, getting to watch him fuck my wife while I was fucking his! I truly believe we all four came at the same time. One of the women began screaming out as her orgasm hit her, and that triggered the rest of us. But, I do recognize that it is very difficult to find four people who can make it work! So in the meantime, I will continue sharing my wife's pussy with other guys, every chance I get.
