The experience of losing virginity compared to what I thought!

So I saw this girl in the bar I was in, and she gave a subtle indication of interest, enough for me to know that I could at least get a little making out with her. But the thing is, I was border-line attracted to her. Years ago, I would've said "no, I will only approach the best". But then again, you know what happens to you when you find yourself lying in bed alone and horny, and end up thinking back to all the border-line girls you've turned down. Besides, I'm 28 years old and it was time enough.

Anyway, when we got back to my place things were going fine, but at the point when I was taking off her pants, I was so disappointed to see so much hair down there. In porn, whenever there's hair, it's above the pussy, and when you see close ups of the pussy itself, there's no hair. I could see that she'd shaven some of it a while ago, but what annoyed me was that there was hair on the actual pussy lips. I hope this isn't common with women... to have sort of have hair everywhere but in the pussy itself. Since I'd been dreaming of licking pussy for so long I just went down on her anyway, but not for very long. I guess I was also naively under the impression that all young women don't grow hair around there assholes. I don't care how hot a girl is, if she's got a hairy a-hole, I will struggle to get hard for doggy.

When we were having sex, upon closer inspection, I noticed a slight mustache problem. By now I was not in the mood and I even considered thinking of something else to try get hard. I guess, any facial hair on women might suggest extra hair down there anyway?? And the other thing, is she'd barely any tits. In the end I was struggling to stay hard, so I tried desperately to finger her, and then went back to intercourse for a while with me taking off the condom in the hope of feeling more. Then I was getting soft, so we'd to give up. I think maybe if her vagina wasn't so tight, I could have gotten away with being flaccid. I don't know if me not staying hard, was as a result of not being attracted to her, or from all the years of watching porn. It's impossible to know if it was one or the other, or both. Maybe I'll think twice about going for girls that are border-line attractive again.

After giving up, we then talked in the bed afterwards, for a whole hour, about all sorts of stuff. I could've felt like her gay friend or something, and I didn't mind. She then fell asleep, but I only slept properly for about 30 minutes in the whole night. I was lying awake thinking "if I get some sleep I might be horny enough in the morning"! And I wasn't! In the morning I suggested we add each other on facebook. I guess I was thinking "just in case". When we kissed goodbye at the door, I recall she said "I'll talk to you again right". I messaged her just saying that I enjoyed meeting her and she hasn't replied... and I don't really want her to. As regards the porn, I have a word file of many porn links saved in it that I look forward to watching. It will be hard to just delete them all.

You see the way I've been masturbating for the last 6 years now, is by lying on my side on my bed. So I'm afraid at this stage that it might be the case, that I might find it easier to get off this way than by intercourse. At the moment, I'm not sure if I'd prefer to lie on my side and dry hump a woman's legs, than actual intercourse. Whenever I thought about having sex with a woman, I always imagined myself taking my time, and doing all sorts of things before actual sticking it in.Next time I might just stick it straight in for fear of losing excitement.

 

i recommend not jacking off to porn for a while. also lowering your standards. not to where you'll fuck just anything, but to where you'll actually want to fuck a real person anyway.

congrats on knocking out that milestone anyway.

 

Thanks Undies,

Those words mean more coming from a cynic like you!

 

You sure know how to make a a girl feel special.

 

It's always about the girl isn't it. You're not helping.

 

If you want it to be about you, you'd better make sure it's about her first. Or jerk off to porn and eventually mow down people with a rental van.

 

Real women are real women. You want movie star looks you need to figure out how to get rich

 

maybe switch to japanese porn

 

Yeah, I'm not anti-porn or anything, but if it's affecting your ability to date IRL ladies, then maybe reevaluate your priorities?

 

Porn is destructive, no doubt.

 

Really looking forward to a new date I have this week. But I won't be in a much of a rush to get her back to my place. I think I'd better take a different approach! Fingers crossed she doesn't have a hairy pussy.

 

This is what I'd like to know more about.

 

I believe so, but it's not something they'll ever be able to prove.

 

I think after reading that I'm going to skip lunch for today.

 

Never ever? How do you know that Its already evident for lots of people that it can be. It might be able to get proven in the future.

My initial thought is the knowledge won't serve you that well, as most women with some facial hair rigidly remove those fscial hairs. They generally don't only not wanna flaunt them, but also not want to be known as one that has to removes them. So the theoretical knowledge will rarely serve you in reality

 

I guess you just never know what your gonna find under the clothes.
I can totally understand that all that hair would be a turn off. It’s covering up a beautiful thing. Who wants to lick hair? Lol
That being said, if you were to date that girl, you could ask her to shave down there. Maybe she doesn’t know how,
Maybe she’s afraid to, or maybe she never thought about it.
As for her moustache, if she has dark hair, it’s natural to have peach fuzz stash, it just shows more on girls with dark hair. Most girls have it waxed off or shave it off but it sounds like she doesn’t know how or ever been shown etc.
As for her boobs. Couldn’t you tell how big they were with her clothes on? I take it your a Boob man lol
How small were they? Were the big enough to play with? Just curious... I didn’t think men cared to much about boob size as long as they were getting sex!
Porn can mess with your mind and make you expect certain things, but now that you know your probably not going to see perfection, just expect the worst and then you might be pleasantly surprised lol.

 

Dear OP,

You sound like a huge douchebag. A girl actually showed interest in you and all you could do is judge her in the most superficial of ways. Real humans grow hair, unlike the sexbots in your loli porn. She lucked out by not fucking you, she would have regretted it instantly once she got to know you.

 

Grow up. We all judge people subconsciously. I'm just speaking my mind. It doesn't mean that I wasn't concerned for her feelings on the night, or that I wasn't nothing but a gentleman.

 

Thanks... for one of the more helpful replies

Okay I could. That was the least of my complaints though.

 

One of the ways porn has messed with me, is that before when I saw a great ass, I'd think about fucking it. But now I tend to think of the girl sitting on my face. It seems I've lost the arousal for anal sex. So I can stay away from the porn, but that's often what I think about when I masturbate... girls sitting on my face!