The end of my relationship

After I got out of a serious relationship (my only serious relationship), I turned into a girl afraid of commitment and the first to 'hit and run' if you know what I mean. Sure, at the time I was numb and it just seemed like the things to do, but, looking back, I would have done a lot of things differently.

My advice to you is to keep your head on straight. I know easier said than done, but really think about it; Focus on your career; Focus on your true friends; Focus on your choices and think of consequences. Make every decision with pure intentions and try to never let the hurt get the best of you. If you feel sad, lay down and take a nap.
(Drinking may feel good, but you dont want extra pounds to creep on and then you are REALLY unhappy with yourself.) Go to the gym! It is hard to get there, but once you are there and working out, you will feel better about yourself and say "to the hell with a silly boy not wanting to enjoy my presence."

"Living well is the greatest revenge."

Not that revenge is the answer, but man, it sure does help. Good luck with everything.

 

wow - youre 22, & you were togther for 6 years? first, that says a lot about both of you. You can be in a relationship, (a lot of people can't make it past a few months). and second, that's a *big* part of your life - that's one quarter of your life up to the present date that is with this guy.

Its gonna really suck for like two months. really. then it will get a little better, you'll start to see the good things about not being part of a couple.

but work on making your life as exiting as you felt it was when you were together. Go to parties. Go to shows. Make new friends. Work on your art - really work on it (your art, your hobby, your cause - that thing that comes from your heart), & if you dont have it, find one & put a part of yourself into it, so that you really take care of yourself and by yourself make your life rich & meaningful!

but for now, cry & cry a lot. (& yes, please, watch out for the drinking - maybe you can make a promise - give yourself a firm deadline & then cut way back or stop for a while)

One of the worst parts of breaking up is that it seems so different for men & for women. I am told that it isn't so different, we just manifest it differently ... but ... I don't blame you for feeling how you feel.

Hugs to you

 

Thanks for the replies everyone, they are all very helpful
I feel so much better now. About two weeks ago after way too much crying and depression I decided to get out there and live, and I'm having a pretty good time. So far being single is pretty fun! Of course i still have sad moments but I'm past the worst and I think the break up was for the best.

 

You are 22 and there is a heck of a lot of life to live, so go out and enjoy it. 20-25 were probably the wildest years of my life, most guys and girls date a lot during that time period, I sure did, and I recommend it.

 

i was with my first bf for 9 years and i would have done anything for him, unfortunately he cheated on me got the bitch pregnant and then married after knowing her only 6 count them 6 months!!!!!! talk about broken fuckin hearted. i was a wreck started doing drugs (again)drinking went from beer to jack daniels and the worse it got, until a great friend of mine said hey you can destroy your soul by hating him and in turn hurting yourself physically or you can look in the mirror and say the hell with him and move on. we women are the srtongest creatures on this earth, maybe thats why they call her mother nature. be strong and love yourself