The Death of a Gentleman

I can tell you what I do. I treat people the way I am treated. Boy or girl. Whenever people have a problem with that, it says a whole lot about them.

 

I know this is an old thread, but I found it interesting. I hold doors open for men and women, it's just common courtesy. I have always been interested in feminism and gender and equality issues and I notice how often the word "gentleman" is used to refer to specific behaviour by a man - "gentleman" still means something in many contexts, but while the word "lady" used to as well, that word has lost its true meanings to a great extent, a good example of the semantic derogation of women, which is a subject I find interesting.

I cringe when I hear "lady" in many contexts when "gentleman" isn''t used, to me it just sounds too over polite and suggests people don't like to say "woman". I am British and I have noticed how "lady" is often used very loosely in the USA and this is my least favourite use. I have seen posts on forums saying things like "the lady at the store", but they wouldn't refer to a man as "the gentleman at the store", it would just be "man or "guy", the latter being very informal.

Language doesn't seem to reflect equality and it seems society feels that men don't need to be treated with the same level of politeness, courtesy and respect than women, hence people insisting on using "lady/ladies", but not "gentleman" unless a man behaves in a specific way. Sadly, when gender and language issues are brought up, some people can view it as "political correctness gone mad" and also when men comment about equal and fair treatment, it isn't often as noticed.

 

What about that old saying that " good guys finish last."

My cat told me that being a 'nice guy' just means your a target to be taken advantage of...

 

I'm still here matey and still practice what I preach !!!

 

I always open / hold the door for others,

Unless you are on your phone, if you are that rude the door get closed .

 

And some of them may possibly think we are coming on to them. We live in such an insecure, wishy-washy, judge-mental society - and it seems like there’s no right answer to all that madness these days. The thing that keeps me grounded in being a gentleman is the fact that an overwhelming majority have greatly appreciated it. I don’t care how old fashioned it is to some…..I’ll settle for old fashioned any day. It’s genuine and unique now, and whenever it’s seen, most are in awe of it!

 

Just seems natural to me. My post of 2014 is still true to me.

 

People are so up tight about everything these days, that to us old fucks that have been around for decades , the world has gone nuts!

 

Agreed, everyone is in such a hurry, many of our elderly are looked down upon as being a burden

 

In the U.S., I think much of it is the sociologically corrosive effects of the Objectivist cult of "rugged individualism" tirelessly preached by the Reaganists since 1980, which extols selfishness as the highest virtue and demonizes compassion as weakness and community as Socialism. We now have entire generations of people who literally can't see beyond their myopic "I, me, mine" egocentrism; an entire society with an antisocial personality disorder, fundamentally incapable of empathy.

 

Have you tried to talk to a teenager or someone in their 20s lately ?

 

Guess what? I can't see it getting better. Due to health reasons. I stayed home during Covid, and now don't mind being alone, working in my garden. I only miss, my visits to the local sports bar visiting with friends, but it closed, so I have no where to go. On first step to being a loner. The world will go mad without me.

 

Me me me me, look at me..look at me....I took 12 selfies to put on Instagram...I'm an influencer..... And these people are going to be taking care of us. I am saving up my pills.....