The birds and the bees.

Did you all get the "Birds and Bees" talk from a parent/caretaker, did your parent/caretaker buy you a book and say they were available for questions or did they leave it up to sex education at school?

My mom found condoms in my room in early high school and brought up sex in a conversation later that day. She asked if I wanted her to get a book about it or if I had questions. I said that between sex education and from older kids talking, I knew what I needed to know. I'm sure she told my dad because he must have felt that he was of the hook because we never discussed it.

That was one of the few times ever that sex was brought up in my household.

 

No, we didn't/don't talk about that.

 

Wow...I always thought it was odd that we didn't talk about it in my family since I heard so many other kids talk about "the sex talk". Maybe it wasn't so odd after all.

My stepdaughter is almost as open about sex at home as I was around my peers when I was growing up. She and my wife discuss it every once in a while. When I grew up we didn't bring the subject up around adults.

 

Somewhere About The Age Of 10, My Father Took Me

To An Education Night At A Local Church Hall, It Told Me That When

A Man And A Woman Are In Love And Married, And Want To Have A Baby, They

Have To Only Watch A Flickering Black And White Image On A Bedsheet

That Passed For A Screen, Of A Thing They Called A Sperm Burrowing

Into A Egg.......WTF....

It's No Wonder I Turned Out Gay....



Cheers Glen.

 

I guess the subject is so awkward to deal with it is difficult for most people. When I was actually ready to finally settle down and have kids, my girlfriend and I broke up. I was a bachelor for a while until I met my wife who already had kids. They knew as much about sex at 12 as I knew at 15. It's a good thing because the sex talk would have been awkward for me. I guess I could have used PowerPoint instead of a sheet.

 

The Grainy Flickering Black And White Movie

That Threw My Sexuality Into A Spiral Was Somewhere

Around Circa 1958...



Cheers Glen.

 

I got the talk around 9 years too late, my dad wasnt the sharpest tool in the toolbox

 

Nope, it was never mentioned, although my Grand Father told me once to NEVER ever touch a girls knee. It causes girls to get pregnate! So my whole life I have this knee fetish.....

 

I remember around when I was 6 or 7 I learned the dutch word for fucking from another kid but he wouldn't explain, he said ask your parents So I did go and asked my mum and she said go away, you know what that means, you just wanna mess with me I guess me and my brother did like to annoy my parents with dirty words so I could expect that but I really didn't know at the time. My parents also teased us when I had a girlfriend or just a female friend, in a fun way, like we gonna act real funny if you bring her around for the first time... Hence why I never went for a serious talk about the birds and the bees to my parents. Later on I had some good talks with them about relationships etc. though, so it wasn't all bad

 

I think the relationship part is more important. You can figure out the physical "ins and outs" of sex from peers. I never had talks with my parents about relationships. I've learned the hard way. .

 

No birds and bees talk for me. The day I got my first period I thought I was dying. I told my Mom and she gave me a book about periods and a sanitary napkin. Considering I had two older sisters, secrecy was rampant in our home.

 

Even if you have good conversations about relationships with who ever, you still have to learn the hard way But about the sex talk, I agree, even if you don't talk in the most ideal way at an early age with your peers about it either, it is still more appealing than to have to talk with your parents about it Although my parents are goodwilling enough I still am glad they didn't had the urge to explain it all to me 'just because i was a teen'. I can imagine other people do appreciate the effort from their parents in this regard but it depends for a large part on the approach.

 

That's A Little Strange, I Always Thought Girls Talked About Girly

Things Together, Wether They Were Just Friends,

Or In Your Case Sisters...



Cheers Glen.

 

That must have been scary. I remember in middle school a female friend if mine wouldn't come out of the bathroom until her mother came to pick her up. She looked terrified and was crying when her mom showed up to take her home. Some of the other girls explained the incident to me and another one of my friends.

 

I think a lot if times everyone assumes someone else has given up or will give up the knowledge. I assumed my younger brother already knew about sex until he hear us older guys talking about it one day. Of course I still only knew little couldn't be a good source of info to him. I guess he learn more about it the same way I did.

 

Apparently not in my case. I started my period a lot younger than my sisters. I guess I caught Mom off guard.

I remember the day well. I had a piano recital and was in pain but went through the event. I still remember the dress I was wearing. When we got home I went to the bathroom and found blood on my underwear. I was sure that I was dying.

Perhaps another explanation is that we were Roman Catholic.

 

^^^ This...

In my case I think Mom tried to talk about this, stuttered a lot, tried to make sense and then just walked away. I don't recall actually learning anything I didn't already know that day.

 

I was raised R . Catholic too. Most of my catholic peers drank and had sex, spoke of body parts and sexuality as teens but we didn't talk with or about that stuff around adults.

 

My parents didn't talk to me about anything really, they just let me learn things on my own.

The first time I talked to my dad about drugs was on the ride home from jail when he picked me up from my first possession charge. We discussed reasons why pot should be legal.

 

I don't know how old you are but at the end of the 1950's my siblings and friends were not drinking and having sex at the age of 11. By the end of the 60's definitely yes.