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i don't find it offensive at all.

i say it myself.

 

i used to get offended when people said "that's so gay" in a negative way, but i kind of realized it's not such a big deal. it's just a word, and most people don't even mean to put down gay people when they're saying it. it's mostly just one of those words that catches on and doesn't let go...

 

Why would it matter if they cared or not about your sexual orientation? Does their orientation matter to you?

 

it doesn't bother me when people say that. it used to, but, meh, its not worth getting worked up over!

 

exactly.

now thats gay...

 

jester .. you're such a jokester.
you're correct .. it's just a silly saying and really isn't bothersome.

 

It bothers me because it spreads the notion that being gay is bad. It wouldn't bother me if it wasn't directly related to calling gay a bad thing. I never say anything about it, it just bothers me.

And it matters to me if they care about my sexuality because if they don't, that shows me that they don't think any differently of me for it.

 

I get offended when My friends who dont know IM gay use Words like "fag" When Im around .

 

I think the best response is a long, hard stare.

I'm often tempted to say something like "It's gay??? Ooohhh! I must have it!"

 

I agree with CrazybutLazy, it bothers me because it conects badness with gayness. Even if the person saying it doesn't mean it that way, it helps foster a negative association. When I hear some one say that something is gay I try to point out to them how stupid the statement is. For instance, if they say a certain movie is gay, I ask them how they know that movie is atracted to other movies of the same gender. It makes them stop and think.

 

I wouldn't let it bother you that much. You should worry about more important things.. honestly.. most people wouldn't even think about homophobia when they say it

 

I had a friend (who is bi and certainly NOY homophobic at all) who, actually, is British. And he would say it all the time "That is gay!" etc and I admit that I did pick it up and it slips out on rare occasions to this day. When it does I always cringe and tell myself to stop! Now, I am gay, my partner is gay, and the guy who said it all the time all those years ago and integrated it into my vocab is bi... so we're sure not homophobic! It's just one of those annoying things such as the word "like" that I can't completely get rid of, but I'm trying!

 

it doesn't really bother me, but then ive never heard it said in a really nasty way, if people say somethings gay I normally say 'thankyou'
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It doesnt quite bother me, but if I had it my way then yeah, people wouldnt say it. I just think its plain stupid. Like others have said, theres a billion other words to use- shitty, sucks, fuck...whatever, you know what I mean.
I sometimes "correct" my friends, and now whenever they say it, they notice themselves and are like "oh sorry" to me, or they replace gay with some other word. hehe

 

My Christian friends (who think gay people are possessed by the devil and will rot in hell and so on and list their interests as "fag hunting") say the most horrible homophobic remarks right in front of me and it doesn't bother me in the slightest. It probably should, but homophobic people don't really bother me. I haven't come out to them though (or anyone for that matter)

 

at my high school we have a Gay-Straight Alliance club, and we pass around buttons that say "that's so gay" with a little red slash through the words.. its so cool practically everyone i know has one and wears it proudly. a lot of people still say it though.. but at least they are aware

 

I just say thanks, yes it is!
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i say "that's gay" and I say the word fag.

I don't get offended very easily and I don't use the words in a derogatory meaning against gays.

 

Me too mushie18

 

Meh, words change their meaning all the time. If it's being commonly used in a totally different context and not as a term of homophobic abuse, then dictionaries need to reflect the new meaning which has appeared. "Gay" of course originally meant something quite different to "homosexual", and now the word has moved on again and picked up another new meaning. Homosexuals can't claim exclusive ownership of the word...