That baldness itch you cannot scratch

You're a smart guy, stop going there :2thumbsup:

It doesn't suck for him at all haha. Don't project your own view on others please. Not that Statham would probably care, he seems pretty comfortable with his head.


Anyway, it is of course not your hair or lack there of that is ruining your life. It is that you have based your comfortability and identity partially on your long hair and now that your hair is working against you you get depressed and insecure. This all comes from your associations you have about your identity, your hair, how attractive you are etc. They are very subjective and when you project them on everyone else, especially girls, you probably think no one digs you with your lack of hair.
What I think is essential to realize is that not everyone has the same associations. So if you are insecure and paranoid about your hair and how it effects your attractiveness it will show in your appearance and it becomes a self fullfilling prophecy anyway. You should get comfortable with how you look and accepting of yourself and realize that it is not about how many hairs you have on your skull. If you accept all that people WILL notice you are secure with yourself. This is more important with attracting a nice person than a full head of hair.

And if those trips do not serve you well you should take a break, seriously. You're not even 20 so why in a hurry to try all things as soon as possible. There's time and you have to time your trips, especially if you can't get out of your loop of negative thoughts!

 

I'm not a guy so I won't be staying long and don't have much to say except it seems a bit silly to get so upset by this...my husband started going bald around age 25 and has been shaving his head since then --he looks the way that dude in post 20 looks pretty much (when he hasn't shaved in a day or two- which is often..haha)....n.e.ways... I do have a point and it's that he didn't make a big deal about it. He didn't like it. He just decided to shave it- and when he did he said "well, I'm glad I don't have an ugly shaped head for shaving" and I always thought he looked just fine, or even better than before and the world didn't end and he didn't act like a baby.
I know 19 is younger than 25...but 25 is pretty young too...
But anyways, I don't say what I'm gonna say to be harsh... I really don't but because it's true. Probably some day when you go through something in life that actually does suck badly- then you will look back and wish you could get so depressed about things such as this.
Have a good day.

 

buy a hat

 

yeah and wear it every day of my life all day everyday and get a rash on my head and feel itchy all the time?

Piss off with that hat crap. I'm being serious here. Good for you if you don't have this problem, don't make fun of me...

this is sort of good advice I guess.

IT just sucks to have such a debilitating problem that is viewed in such a comical way in society. Like if it was something else that was wrong, people wouldn't want to make fun of you for it all the time...

 

debilitating??

And btw, I don't see anyone making fun of you at all...but if you want to take anyone's posts like that, it's not because of hair loss- it's because you seriously view it as something serious enough as to feel you possibly don't want to live over that. Perspective.

 

Well it will permanently change the way i am percieved by society. It cuts me out from many positions in life -- basically anything where charisma or image is important -- which is pretty much everything.

I feel like such a worthless person now

 

It is most definitely not debilitating, and it will not change the way you are perceived by society. At most it will change the way you perceive that you are perceived by society. Your baldness is not your issue, your obsession with it is. Baldness is not stopping you from going out and doing anything at all. You are being held back by your obsessive behaviour. If you want to get over this, I think you're going to have to focus on working on your mental health and not trying to reclaim your hair. You hair is gone, and you're never getting it back. No point in trying to at this point.

I know a guy who is my age (25) and completely bald. He is engaged to be married to a beautiful woman, has a newborn son, a university degree, and a good job. His baldness did not hold him back at all.

 

Hair dysmorphia coupled with a an underlying God complex?

 

when you lose your hair you get more head.

 

Well it's still fucking killing me. I'm young enough and have enough hair left that I might be able to slow it down a little bit. I'm going to try to take the drugs for it... hopefully I don't get too bad side effects. If you aren't prone to the side effects than it's chill and it stops your balding. If you are, though, it fucks you over...

 

And is it worth the risk of being 'fucked over' with the side affects of the drugs for the sake of your hair?

Right now it is a major issue but when youre older or even in a years time you will probably feel so different and feel that this isnt actually a huge problem for you.

If the side affects are what you mentioned in previous posts (chemically castrated) and you meet the lady you want to settle down with and start a family with how do you think youre going to feel then? How do you think she will feel? How would you tell her and do you think she will hang around if she wants a family that you cant give?

I dont mean any offence mate but you could seriously affect your future by choosing your vanity. You stand to miss out on so much by rushing into things for a problem that wont be in a year or so time.

It may seem a huge issue to you now but if you learn to accept it for what it is youll get over it.

 

When you keep talking about it in the way you do it becomes less of a problem and more about whining and a general ego issue. I'm not quite sure how people are supposed to keep interested and bothered.

 

Well it's not that I am trying to keep people interested. I just want help figuring out a way of looking at this that's not fucked.

And, no Tom1, I'm not going to take finasteride or dutasteride or any of the drugs that give you erectile dysfunction (although, you could always take them and just take viagra whenever you want to have sex). They still scare me too much and minoxidil already gave me enough problems. I almost had a heart attack and, though I didn't get ED, I got sort of flaccid and couldn't feel orgasm...

I guess I will have a slight advantage when everyone else goes bald in their 30's and 40's because I will be well over it by then, psychologically. But for now, there's little else I can think of. I never minded having a high forehead for the last few years. It wasn't pretty, but I still had a nice look, but now, with crazy school stress, I've lost as much hair in the last month as in the year before that. It's just really so fucked up for me because I'm currently crossing that border from sort of looking like I had hair to not at all. Idk what I should do.

I could shave my head. But I really don't like the way I look with short/shaved hair. It might be necessary, though, just so I can stop thinking about it. But I know it will look really bad and I'm not down. I started wearing a bandana, but I think that's really just a v4ry temporary solution. I need to find a way to think about it differently and I probably need to cut off my hair but I don't think i can bring myself to do it.

And I guess it is an ego issue. But why am I not entitled to have an ego? And feel hurt when it is crushed?

I'm not just trying to whine. More to vent and talk to people who are going through the same thing.

 

Any Chance Of You Posting A Pic Taken From Behind

That Will Show Us How Far You Are Receding....???

Whilst You Think 19 Is Too Young To Be Losing Your Hair, A Friend

Of Mine Was "Bald As A Babys Bum" At 21.



Cheers Glen.

 

maybe you should just start wearing a turban

 

There's too many turbins. Bald is beautiful. Chix dig bald guys. Life is better and busier while bald/shaved. Get positive ; get laid.

 

oh...you mean like an actor?

 

No, I mean like anything involving interpersonal contact. Like basically any job that's not accounting.

I've considered that. If I didn't look so Aryan, I'd try Judaism too.

I've always figured that all the major religions were just an excuse to cover up baldness. Religious people are like baseball hat dudes -- but they get the excuse that they never have to take off their hat even inside

 

my dad has long hair...and is bald. he's bald on top, but has a pony tail in the back. he had long hair before he went bald at an early age, but he just never cut his long hair off. he also wears a hat.


disliking posts without saying why is one of the lamest things you can do.
so...fuck you

 

man that must fucking suck. I'm probably going to end up shaving my head (at least buzz cutting it) I admire people who can do that, but it must look/feel awful/

the worst thing about mpb is the dht makes your head tingly and itchy and weird feeling all the time. And the feeling of fresh new exposed skin is not very nice. Even if it didn't make you look awful, it also feels very weird

Man I'm so effing depressed. I want to start tripping and enjoying life again like last year.