Tell my wife or not that I am closeted bi

Hello,
I have lovely wife and kid. We are happy family but nobody suspects that I am closeted bi bottom. I mostly watch gay porn and are registered on gay dating sites. I do not feel any emotional relation with mens, and sometimes just needs mens body for pleasure. To be onest I am more attracted to dicks than to pussy. We have with wife traditoinal sex in pussy, but I mostly want to take her in ass. Couple of times I had gay sex before marriage, and now urge for it increases with the years. Should I stay in closed and find some secret gay sex partner? With years I feel more and more that I have to tell my lovely wife the truth. I do not want to hurt her at all. I can imagine what will be her feelings that masculine, strong and beloved husband in reality is bi. I hope she would undestand and accept that I am bi top but not fact that I am 100% bottom. Folks what wouls be your suggestions in my situation? Does anybody had similar situation. Very velcome would be comments from ladies.

 

Hi their are probably lots of men who are in the same situation you are of being a married guy and the wife has no her hubby is bisexual into men so you like gay porn do you jo watching it?

 

Hi, yes I watch gay porn a lot. My preferences are crossdressers, bisexual MMF threesome, faggot brainwashing, bisexual femdom, shemales and transvestites. I plan to watch MMF threesomes porn together with wife and then slowly switch to bisexual MMF. Will se what she will say about it and then will be clear how she could react on me as a bisexual husband.

 

Good luck let us know how it went

 

Hi, at the moment my wife is very tired at the work and looking after our son. He feels exausted and even our sex live is not the priority now. Due to this I decided not to start discussion about my bisexuality, I see I have to postpone it for some time. My wifes atraction to sex is decreased. She says this is due to comming menopause and reduced estrogen hormone. I feel that she is happy when I am not asking for intimacy. For me it is opposite, my sexual drive has increased significantly and I admitted myself that I am at least bisexual and want gay sex very much. I just wonder that I need just man's body, but can not imagine to be in some romantic homosexual realtionship, I am interested only in sex, but not in any emotional or mental link with other man. Sometimes my wife also looks at women, how they look like, how big is butt etc. My hope is maybe she also has some bisexual side of herself. To gay peaple she is more or less ok, somday she said that you can never know when somebody will come out. She also knows more about me who is gay from our piliticians and famous peaple. She also suspects our neighbour that he possible is gay and should have friend. So I hope my come out will not lead to spontanous end of our marriage.

 

Talk to her about it and see what she says. It’s a scary thing trust me, but you never know the outcome. Thankfully for me my wife was accepting and understanding, even was ok with exploring after long talks about it. I wish you the best.

 

I have came out to may wife, it was scary and very nervous moments for me. I told her that I am bisexual, want sex with gays and had some experience many years ago. She was very supprised, shocked and could not believe that I am bisexual. We had many discussions with her about it. For me it was supprise that she even did not any suspicious that I have bisexual desires etc. For her the most important was that I did not cheated her with man. She undertand me and supported me mentally a lot. We even had couple therapy regarding my bisexuality and how to overcome it. For her it would be more easy to accept that I am gay rather than I had fall in love with another lady. As the outcome of my comming out to her is that we can freely discuss about our sexual desires, we become emotiaonally more closer, our sex life now are better, and feel mentally better regarding who I am.

 

what’s the specific issue she has with you having sex with men?

Are you two going to therapy where they are teaching you to no longer be attracted to men sexually?

 

if i was the wife i would want my husband to tell me and i will also accept him and thank him for being honest to me

 

Told my wife I was bi. She doesn't care as long as I stay safe and don't do anything stupid. If any. Our relationship has actually improved a lot. She likes it because we can look at other guys together. I'll point out to her and she'll point out to me.

 

I expected the worse. Instead. It was the opposite. I was stunned.

 

It's already been done. We share a guy

 

I guess I got lucky lol.

 

Wish I could come out to my wife too

 

You're very lucky to be able to look/check out other guys with your wife. I bet that's a lot of fun.
My wife and I are both bisexual, and we have/do look at other women together.
My wife is very hot and cold (indecisive) when it comes to my bisexuality, so I've always been discreet if and when looking at other guys

 

While my wife is indifferent towards gay people in general, she definitely would not treat my own bisexuality with the same indifference. Menopause has killed our sex life and she isn’t going to have sexual feelings for me moving forward. She knows my sex drive hasn’t diminished and has stated she “doesn’t want to know” how I solve my dilemma of not getting sex at home.
We have a loving relationship in every other regard and love each other well. And because of that I simply can’t jeopardize that by telling her I have sex with men outside of her knowledge. She would be hurt. Because I love her I keep it hidden and away from her view. The only other option for me is to become celibate which I have tried, but the urge and drive to have sex is too great and I become frustrated and resent her for it. My solution isn’t without its flaws but it’s the best compromise I can come up with given the circumstance.