I do tell my dad loads of things... Not my mum because she doesnt have as much of an interest in these things. When im on my laptop downstairs and my dad goes "i just need to check my emails for a few minutes" and then my mum calls me and i have to get back ASAP to make sure hes not snooping etc... Its annoying that i cant even trust them anymore but i dont have a chance to tell every one that im not on so they will continue to talk about stuff...
They are preotecting your welfare; yo ucan't see it now, because you are young, and feel you should be given your independance. It is not to do with them not trusting you it is to do ewith them not trusting the society around us. Frankly, I do not blame them; this is a nasty, seedy little country, and many teens do end up in bad situations. Don't hate on them for caring.... trust me on this; one day you will really thank them for this. I see parents every day who don't seem to give a shit where there kids are or what they are doing; yours do, and you should be thankful fo that. Again, I hear this every day, and it simply is not true. There are many things you could be doing, but none of them will knock on your door, or approach you; if you are bored, it is you that has to fix it! Find out about activities in your area, what's on and where, local bands, clubs whatever. You get thrown out of the park because the park is for small children; you are 14, you should be doing something more interesting with your spare time than loitering. Don't look back on these years and regret wasting them, you will never get them back. Believe it or not, teens have always felt this way, and have always been bored; it isn't an excuse for loitering or anything else. Be imaginative, fuck what your pals think; what do YOU want to do with your time? Ask yourself that, then grab the Yellow Pages, and answer it!
erm... I do love my parents. I tell them loads. And I cant go places without someone they know and trust as adult supervision. Not the park for lil' children. Theres a valley thing bt i cant go there not even with supervision (i asked them). I cant go sailing. I cant go on the bike. I can go to music lessons though, bt thats once a week. i cant go shopping either. And if you think they'd for one second let me go to a club or see a band youre sadly mistaken. I can go to the temple though. And i went bowling a while ago which was nice. What i want to do is have fun. Ive given up anyway, its never gonna work Im all about getting dreads now. I cant go out when they're not at home anyway and they're not back till late mostly. They're thinking of censoring the internet for me as well. which means this site is a no go... The park i went to and got thrown out of consisted of grass and benches. The kiddie section was behind it. There was no one there.
Parents worry! Quite rightly too with all that has been happening in the past year! I wished that I had more freedom, but now I sometimes wish I had people to place rules infront me! Would help! It's annoying, but not all bad - you have your whole life for freedom!
Why should they let you go to a club? You are underage!! The owner could lose their licence, and you could end up in all kinds of tricky situations. Clubs are for adults for a very good reason; there are unsavoury characters there, ones a 14 year old would not be able to easily get out of. You would be very vulnerable. Sorry, but I agree with them 100%, and you will be very glad of their care one day. You don't think so now, but trust me, you really will. I would not allow any child of mine to be out after dark without an adult either; the world is just not a nice, safe place anymore. I'm sure this all sounds very patronising, I really, really don't mean it to, but the fact is, you do realise more with age just what they are on about. Think how you would feel if you were them; would you want your underage daughter out in the dark, with God knows who, doing God knows what? I repeat, it isn't you they do not trust... it is all the weirdos, perverts, crooks and potential attackers out there... and in this country, there are very, very many. We hear about it every day in the paper. Everyone thinks at your age, 'It will never happen to me' but it can and it does. When you are a little more mature emotionally and have responsibilities in your own life to worry about, you will understand this better. You also say, 'whatever, I'm all about something else now'; this is what I am talking about. Teenagers have fickle minds, this is normal. But it also displays a bit of that emotional immaturity I was talking about. I was held at knifepoint when I was your age, because I thought I knew it all, and could handle myself in a rough situation, too; I couldn't, and I was extremely lucky not to have my throat slit. Fifteen years ago, incidents like that were rare, nowadays they happen every single day. After that, I was so glad my parents were protective of me and could see exactly why. Some of my friends' parents never knew where they were and didn't seem to worry at all, and that is not what you want. Some of my pals could have been dead in a ditch for days before their parents even noticed. Curious that you should mention a temple; perhaps you have had a religious upbringing and this is what you really want to break away from, the constraints of faith. Rebelling against your parents won't make a difference, it will just make them trust you less. As will going out when they are not there; they will find out sooner or later - they are not stupid, we have all been 14 - and then you will have even lesss freedom. Seriously.... Find yourself a hobby that you enjoy, and to Hell with peer pressure; if your friends think it's silly, or make you feel bad about having to be in early, they are not real friends, anyway. Don't be pulled in by what others do, or what you percieve to be 'normal' teenage behaviour; be you, and above all, be safe. All the best MH
Okay. Well for a start i dont have a fickle mind, im just not stupid. Im never gonna be able to go aywhere on a weekend with my mates so i just cant be bothered. You suggested it!! i cant believe you just said that - sorry bt i only even put it in there cos you suggested it. I mean i would never go to a club... My parents didnt push the religon front. I love my religon actually. I want to know more about it and i like going to the temple. It makes me happy, its all calm and you can just listen and eat the prasad they give you D) and be calm and i like it. I hate being out afterdark on my own. I dont want to be out at all after dark. I was talking middle of the day actually. In the sun. Etc. I dont have peer pressure. They dont make me feel bad about it, but it doesnt mean i wont feel bad about it. They're fine about it. They understand. And yes i understand their point but they dont understand mine. I am still going to hear about how saturday was great, that was so fun, haha remember when that happened. I cant make them censor their convos, its not right. Plus not everyone knows about it...
When I said clubs, I meant places where people with a common interest go, not nightclubs. Sorry, should have been clearer. As for not being able to go out in the day.... Well, that I don't know about. maybe you need to have a long chat with them about it, and find out what their reasons are? I hope you can find a comprimise
Eh like i said i give up. Im all about gettin dreads now since (yes im sad) thats more important to me... They said i can film after school at school the film im making...
