This. Usually in foursomes for me, but I have been with two men at the same time, and they were always nice to me, and there was always one of them who loved me. It was fun. Anyway I specifically said those were my experiences. Mine. And that someone else's mileage may vary. But my experience was that it was easier to put together fmf/mff threesomes and mfmf foursomes than to try to get two men together in a threesome.
Good luck to you Secret thinker. My wife and I are in the same situation. We have had the talk, now to find the lady for our FMF fantasy.
my wife and I took the plunge on 3/4somes prior to getting married. then after the kids came along we cut them out for a while. Recently we had the opportunity to do it again, it just came up at a cooking with a couple friends. I honestly do not know who was more ready, me or my wife. I can tell you we both enjoyed ourselves tremendously. One thing though, she was asked if she ever screwed anyone without me around and she firmly told them NO. She knows I would not mind it, but we have enough respect for each other to never partake without prior knowledge.