I’ve known my wife for close to 8 years and we have always had amazing sex. Our sex life is frequent and definitely not vanilla (not that there is anything wrong with that). I love her dearly. There are times where I wake up aroused with very dirty and taboo thoughts. I usually end up externally massaging my prostrate, nipples etc, thinking about those fantasies until my wife wakes up and we enjoy some morning glory together. I’ve talked to my wife on the surface about the fantasies and she would not be into them as it involves other people (participating or watching). All my fantasies involve my wife in some way. I’ve noticed that when Im alone and masturbate then I tend to be drawn towards these fantasies. I stopped watching porn years ago so it’s just thoughts. Do you consider it wrong and would it cause any issues to be consistently aroused by external fantasies before having sex with your OH?
Not sure but if will definitely keep things going I used to fantasize about my sister in law while with my ex, I masturbated to the thoughts and sometimes it would invade my dreams or thoughts during sex. Yet I never acted on it. Other than accepting the way she stared at my crotch more often than not. To the point I would discretely position myself in a certain way when tieing my shoes and took longer on purpose or redoing the job when I knew she was looking. It made things interesting and exciting in mind. A story to give you an idea where your thoughts could lead you, it’s human nature and you have a choice to keep things as a thought or act on them. For what I know many women don’t like sharing their man much.
I was worried it would de sensitize the Experience with my wife but so far it’s been all fine. Maybe because she is involved in them all lol
Sex fantasy and imagination is the main part of sex activities. Fantasy keeps your mind fresh and active, even having sex with your wife or partners. Many times I fuck my wife but I think about somebody else, both of us get benefit, I fuck her hard she fuck me hard too.
I think the most important thing to understand is that sexual fantasies are normal. The issue is letting guilt which is a societal construct to cause inner distress. Accept the fantasy and move on. As long as the fantasy is not acted upon in an inappropriate way. Many husbands and wives verbalize fantasies together during sex or while masturbating together.
Sexual fantasys are perfectly normal, sometimes I have wonderful fantasys about 2 of my female relatives which provide amazing mastubation sessions, there is a feeling of guilt but they are fantasys only, and as long as they stay in your head fantasys are perfectly harmless,
I just had a brief fantasy about the girl that cuts my hair....she has such a nice ass. She bent over to pick up a comb today, all I could think about was grabbing her by the hips.... Good thing to have that long apron on too....
I don't see why it would be wrong, unless you neglect your wife's needs. We all have had a fantasy at some point in our life.
