But that’s what I’m getting at. It’s not all up to you. It has to be a two way street. You give & take.
Everyone wants to have a threesome. From our perspective foursomes are way hotter and less pressure. We only do it three or four times a year with some really good friends that live out of state. The sex in the weeks leading up to and after are great. And it give you something to talk about in bed to get you all worked up like mental porn.
Absolutely! We both love it and we both know it's only fun and sex. Afterwards, we end up at home in the same bed every time, and that's what our hearts require. No kissing or feelings allowed. just hot naughty sex!! Making love is for the two of us. Most won't because of jealousy and not trusting the other. Afraid that their partner will develop feelings for someone else. And it's better off for them to avoid it.
Exactly it’s just sex. I’ve always felt people are scared as you mentioned. Scared they’ll come home and find their spouse fucking someone from the swinger party. I also feel their scared to tell each other about what they REALLY want.
With swinging there HAS to be complete communication with everything and everyone..And like you said, open up to each other and let it ALL out..Because the lifestyle requires 110% trust with each other.
It was the greatest thing growing up. The club swinger's party is every 4th july down in the keys Sex was anyway you could think of. Very safe secure and a blast.
Yes, We are in the lifestyle and have two couples we play with on a regular basis. Usually once a month.
We never swung as a couple. Her parents did. That was a big surprise to find out. We had other sex partners but never together in that environment. The opportunity never presented itself.
We have very close friends that are, but we have not “fully” crossed that line. We have gone many times to “Desire Riviera” and plan to go back next year. We enjoy the sexually charged environment and enjoy being very open that way, but my wife has too many reservations and I respect and love her so it’s a no go for now. But if/when I would go there it would not be swinging in the way most do. For me it could not just be about sex. The sex is fun but best when shared with those you love. I would have to be with a couple that we both would consider best friends. Not exactly the casual sex that most swingers engage in.
Read about “Compersion”.Both of you could benefit from it. My wife and I practice it in our everyday life. It was a game changer for my wife.
