Swingers/those in open relationships -- how'd you get started?

Love ya Tuesday. Like I said, getting rubbed through my "trousers" is my fav thing. Love the teasing feeling and being so restricted. Gets me so hard come kiss mine Tuesday, and then bite the bulge you create

Then bend over and take a hard spank for being so naughty.

Then slide those pants down and urge me to hit you harder.

Then I will. Again. And again. And again.

Would it be wrong to do that and cum on your red raw cheek before sliding your pants back up (without cleaning you off) and go about our normal business??

 

Tuesday, you've said a lot about your position -- what about your husband's?

 

ok, here it goes

when we first got together i was a bit of a hippie and i would bring up the idea of us having an open relationship

He was not into it at all

some years later I spoke with him about my desire to be with a girl, he said we could have a 3some, but he was not cool with me being alone with a girl

this bummed me out a bit cuz I'd like it to be ok for me to be alone w/ a girl but I was psyched for our iminent sex adventure and got on the internet and started hunting

didn't ever find an interested girl and the whole thing blew over

It hasn't really come up much to speak of in the past cpl years

 

It was 1970 and we had just married. A mutal friend came over to welcome us back from the honeymoon. Well, we shared some acid and things got a little carried away.

Afterwards the wife and I had a very difficult conversation but we were both very honest and decided that we were mature adults and our love was very strong. It also didn't hurt that in my generation people were experimenting with new lifestyle and types of relationships.

We had "rules" so to speak. Like no crusing for a sex partner and we never swung without the other being present. And no one would "take a hit for the team" so to say. Meaning, that if I found a woman very attractive but my wife found her husband un-attractive. Then it was not going to happen under any circumstances.

 

This is my first official post on this forum, so here goes:

Me and my girlfriend have been dating for a long time now over 6 years. We still please each other very much and are always looking for new things to do and experiment with. Years ago we've talked about threesomes and been like, nah we don't want each other with other people. One day a year or so later she confessed to me that she's thought about a threesome. We've told each other dirty stories involving threesomes (both with another male and another female), and we've both enjoyed them. I guess the part that stops us is the fact that we have no idea who it would be with. Either our friends are too close to risk ruining a friendship with or they are close to being strangers. We're not really sure how to start, and how to find the right people. Personally, I have fantasized about her making out with another girl (with and without my cum), going down on her, and seeing their chests pressed together. I've also fantasized about another cock in her mouth, and inside of her, and another load on her or in her mouth. Most of the reason why I want a threesome, at least, is to see her interact with others, because I find her extremely beautiful and sexy. Not that I wouldn't try being the one in the middle, or haven't fantasized about it.

So in conclusion, it's still just a fantasy, for now at least.

 

i live in a polyamorous relationship since almost 3 years now... we decided this kind of relation from the start, as i was together with my ex- boyfriend when we fell in love.. my former relationship had lost evrything nice, and when i met my new bf i asked my ex first, if he could imagine sth open. he agreed, but then changed his mind, as he realized that my new one was the guy next door ... so i quitted with him and got together with my actual bf. i still loved my ex, but he didnt mind, as we both believe, that it is possible to feel love for more than one person. now both of us had a few adventures concerning sex, but our favourite is still the both of us with someone else... but polyamory is more than sex. it includes the possibilty to have another bf/gf. we're both bisexual, so there are many possibilities. but its hard to find someone that matches... jeaulousity is still a topic, as we're human mostly we got it under control, but we both have the right to keep the other from actions that hurt... the main reason for us to love this way is to keep freedom without hurting each other. in my eyes it is most important to talk a lot about feelings, so no one gets hurt... i love it!

 

Good post Sanshine - we r in an open relationship - I'm bi and we were in a regular 3sum with another bi-guy but I ended up having problems with his treatment of me and parted; my wife has since stayed with him, both as a friend and for sex. While I accept her right to do so and go with others as she accepts me doing, I do have a problem with some jealousy/resentment in this case - probably beause I resented his treatment of me: he would never be alone with me at all, sucked and fucked me but didn't want to know the next morning!

I'm interested to hear how you deal with jealousy....

Simon :sunny:

 

Most of my relationships in the past were casual, and I was appropriately free to have sex with others, but only two that I remember were defined as indefinitely open by common agreement. But they were radically different:

a) my first open relationship was a don`t-ask-don`t-tell relationship, in which our only agreement was that we should take care not to expose each other to evidence of secondary relationships;

b) my second open relationship was one in which we told each other everything before we did it, but did our experimentation separately.

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Based on my experience, were I to have another open relationship, my ground rules would be:

a) to define each other as "close friends" or in a (of possibly many) "primary relationship";

b) to make statements about the present, e.g. the intention or wish to remain friends indefinitely;

c) to commit emotionally and to being emotionally sensitive;

d) to express physical affection in private situations;

e) to remain financially independent and have separate homes, social lives, and pursuits (sharing and helping as a choice) as well as regular "me time";

f) to communicate changed feelings as they occur and remain open to the possibility that the relationship might change form or, in case of incompatibility of goals, end;

g) new primary relationships would be shared or both partners have them separately;

h) secondary relationships should be reserved to "me time" and should be communicated and approved of by both parties (possibly shared);

i) casual sex can be done privately during "me time" (only talk about experiences if partner asks and details only if willing) or shared by common agreement, and any risks to the relationship or health of both partners should be avoided and immediately communicated;

j) to base communication on I + feel statements and you + feel questions;

That`s it! Do any of you have similar ground rules? How does it work for you?