Swingers - multi-orgasmic vs one and done?

Random question because I have no insight into the lifestyle.

Years ago, I had a partner who was multi-orgasmic. She was very open minded and although we never made it happen, we talked a lot about threesomes and swinging.

My current partner is “one and done.” While she has a decent sex drive, after she orgasms, she is finished for the night. She has zero interest in threesomes or swinging.

Amongst swingers, generally how many women are “one and done?” Do women that aren’t multi-orgasmic not good fits for the lifestyle because they physically lose interest?

Thanks.

JP

 

We are a senior couple in the lifestyle and only play with couples. I can tell you that my wife is a once and done woman in our relationship. But when we play with others it is intoxicating fun. So she could go for a second. After that, she is totally spent.

 

Hmm. Hadn’t really thought about it before. We’re both multi. We’ve swapped with couples and all of the females and many of the males, in those couples were multi as well. One and done in that situation almost seems like it would hardly be worth the effort.

 

We all have play the cards we are dealt throughout life. Adjust and keep playing. It’s all good.

 

My wife was a multi O and a squirter, and liked her pussy filled with cum, I too always left 2, sometime 3 ladies full of my cum, that of course was in our prime when we were in our 40's and 50's.

 

It’s funny, looking back on it, how the aids thing seems to be something like a conditioning technique on our path to a “brave new world”. We were always cautious and selective about who we swapped with, more for fear of STDs and crazies. Once we were satisfied in that regard, going raw for multiple rounds was a given.

 

True, Agreed! Even today we are very selective with the couples we play with. We are fully tested every 3 months and we bare back. We don’t do random pick ups.

 

We are not swingers, but in our 30's, I gave my wife permission to have sex with others under certain conditions, including that she tell me about it. No secrets. Most of her sex was with younger guys in their 20's, and she almost never had an orgasm with them. The big exception was the night with a 60+ year old man with great sex skills. She had multiple orgasms with him.

 

Generally women are multi-orgasmic and it is the rare exception to find one that isn't. At a swinger gathering where sex is ongoing for hours most participants do not orgasm over and over. Many will fuck for a few minutes and then move on to a different partner or take a break for a while. The men will hold back, pull out, because they know if they cum it may be over for them. Same with the women. For them it is not because they can't cum multiple times but because having orgasms drains the energy from the body. Swingers learn to control themselves and their end goal is not orgasm but the sensations other partners give them during their play.

 

This is so true. Agreed. We all (men and women) enjoy the prolonged play when swapping. We have one particular couple that loves to play in the hot tub and we never cum, but there is a lot of fucking, sucking and penetration. Our play sessions can last for hours before everyone in satisfied. For us, this is a quality time together.

 

Have been to many gangbangs and swing events. Some of the women including a few female friends I know who are multiorgasmic can cum on a dime but it all depends on the mood and who may be fucking them. A ot of men may get caught up in the moment and cum right away and then cant get it up again and are done for the night. Others can go a few times. I generally can cum about three times even at 62 but I pace myself