Are there any women here who would be supportive of their married girlfriends whose husbands allowed them to date other guys while remaining married? (The wife can have periodic "playdates" with a FWB) If so, can you give reasons? Not looking to trash anyone! Just want honest answers.
Any ladies here who would not support their girlfriends - and instead scold them for having "boyfriends with benefits" ??
Male here, but I know from my girlfriends night out with the girls. All the women envied the couple of girls in the group, who played around. And the ones that weren't in open relationships, played around anyway.
jimandjan - I love honesty!! And I think ladies of any age that admit they love sex, and want it with another guy or 3 beside their husband are just THE HOTTEST ladies breathing air!! I'm not in favor of - or encouraging - marriages breaking up over a woman's playing on the side. But there's something extra-extra HOT about a lady who loves her husband to pieces and still wants some lusty lovin' by another guy or guys on the side, while keeping her marriage strong and healthy. Women like that are like finding diamonds - something extra-special because her husband has her love and love-making, and he gets to relish her sexy hotness when she's on a date enjoying her boyfriend / FWB. I admire such women who aren't afraid to admit they love men and love playing with them!! It would be so refreshing if more ladies would 'fess-up if they wanted to explore a bit on the side. (Like what you said about the other girls being envious of the ones who are in open marriages). Maybe talk to their husbands or long-term BF's and work on an agreement so the ladies could have some fun. I'm not a supporter of behind the back cheating. I'd MUCH rather my wife, or any others, have a conversation with their husbands about having a little fun on the side while still loving their husbands & keeping the marriages strong. HONESTY. Much, much, MUCH better!!! Do your girlfriend's girlfriends support each other's going on playdates?? You said they're envious of the ones who play, but are they supportive of each other?? I'm assuming they don't condemn the players?
erofant, Yes they were ok with what others did. Most only played around after their male partner had cheated first. We had agreed to open relationship, which she hadn't told them. So they thought I was like some of their men. Where so many men fell it's fine for the man to play around, but the woman wasn't allowed this freedom.
J & J - I just don't get the double standard. Why should men be able to play around and not the ladies?? Not saying their ladies were OK with the men cheating. Wouldn't it make more sense if both guys and ladies - if they get the 5 or 7 year "itch" - sat down & had some serious conversations about "hall passes" for each other?? Wouldn't that lessen or eliminate the pain of cheating? Maybe avoid divorce? Especially if they love each other & get along in the other important ways. Or if one spouse's libido is set to "high", and the other is set to "low", maybe the "high" spouse could get some relief from a FWB. I'm envisioning a situation where a lady of any age wanted / needed some extra on the side. Maybe her spouse wasn't up to satisfying her needs, and it was affecting her marriage, causing stress, tension, and frustration for her. Or maybe she just wanted a change in her sex life for something new & exciting. But her marriage overall was strong & good, and she didn't want to lose what the 2 of them had. If she had serious conversations with her spouse, and she had a "hall pass", wouldn't it be a nice thing if her girlfriends supported her?? They could help her by listening to her concerns, giving their opinions for dating ideas, places to go with a guy she dates, suggesting a guy (or guys) who they think would be good for her, or even suggesting various sexual tips and activities to enjoy with her FWB. They could also have follow-up "girl talk" after she begins dating her FWB, because I'm sure her girlfriends would want to know how things are going for her - both with her husband and her FWB. Women share much more than men do and it just seems like having supportive girlfriends in such a situation would be a huge help for a lady. Maybe other ladies in that circle of friends would find themselves in a similar situation, and need support also. Speaking for myself, I don't want to see other ladies. I'd get all the heat & satisfaction I'd need from my wife having a FWB and coming home to me!! I'd hope her girlfriends would support her having a FWB. If you two are open, how's it working for you guys??
