Sudden increase in sex drive? What is wrong with me?

I hope somebody can help me... I'm a 20 year old female and my situation is that all of a sudden over the past couple months or so my sex drive has gone through the roof. I don't know what has gotten into me. For the rest of my life up until now, I used to want sex once, maybe twice a week and now it's every day...sometimes twice a day....maybe more.

And then there is the worst part of it all..I have been imagining very detailed and crazy sexual fantasies in my head all day long and I can't stop it. I am ashamed to say that I have fantasized about pretty much all of my boyfriend's friends and as terrible as it is, especially his BROTHER whom is the main person involved in all these fantasies. I feel so guilty and ashamed but I can't stop! I almost feel like I am "mentally cheating" on him in a way if you know what I mean. But it seems the more I try to suppress these feelings, the stronger they get. And they are impossible to suppress anyways which is driving me crazy.

I should also mention that my bf and his brother are very close so we see him pretty often. He stopped by last week and I felt incredibly uncomfortable trying to control and ignore my sudden overwhelming sexual attraction towards him and I am terrified that either of them will notice that I seem visibly on edge/uncomfortable/fidgety when he's around and that would be REALLY BAD. This is incredibly frustrating.

Basically I just want to know what the heck is wrong with me. This behavior/thoughts/feelings are highly out of character for me, they came on so suddenly and it's at the point where it's actually interfering with my ability to focus on a daily basis. Could it possibly be due to a hormonal imbalance? Some other medical condition? Am I just going crazy? How do I control my thoughts and feelings, or better yet, make them GO AWAY and have it go back to the way it was before? I genuinely cannot control these feelings and hate feeling this way. I can't stress how unlike me this all is.

I have asked this on another forum and got several replies suggesting I just "go masturbate more" or "have sex more" or "spice things up with your boyfriend" but I am doing all of those things and they aren't working. I transformed into a crazy nympho over night and it actually really sucks....I don't know how to handle this.

 

Lol, well you are never going to get the truth, especially from other chics.

Ovaries have kicked into gear dear.

But dont worry, the brother probably wont catch on to what it means, to him it will just look like you are turning into a bitchy control freak

 

Yeah I did hear that between 20 and 25 females get the most engaged sexually because they... want to have kids and stuff O.O

Dunno if this is always true.

There may be herbal ways to calm it down

I once heard that Holy Basil can calm sex drives... but I'm sure many other things can too.

It really depends what you want...

 

it could just be that you have a strong sex drive that has just started to peak. You say that it's sudden though, so maybe something else. I've never really heard of someone having sudden hornyitis.

You might want to check with an acupuncturist or traditional chinese herbalist. They may be able to give you some adjustments.

 

I think being attracted to his brother isn't completely unheard of. If you really like your bf and he is close with his brother chances are they have similar qualities and traits that you find attractive. I had feelings towards my brother in law before I met my husband. I was friends with his brother first and I really liked him. Then I met my husband and chose him. That was 17 years ago and I can still see the qualities in my brother in law that I liked back then. We are still very close and I see him probably 3 times a week. I still find him attractive. That doesn't mean that I would have sex with him now. The important thing is you don't act on them. You'll fuck a lot of shit up if you do that. Your relationship with your bf. Their relationship as brothers. You can't ride 2 horses with one ass, especially if they are brothers.

 

uhhhhh same here. iv become uncontrollably horny the past week which has now lead me to this place...

 

I think this is totally normal, unfortunately. Or at least not uncommon. Yoga helped me. I went through the same thing, even to the point of being attracted to the brother and practically any available man. It's totally hormonal, you're reaching the most fertile period of your life. I'd say let go of the guilt first of all, it's not your fault.

If you'd like some yogic exercises that might help send me a message.

 

I've had this for the last two or three weeks!
Its natural, just shag your boyfriend more!

 

Use up your sexual energy by fucking and masturbating more.

It will really peak when you're 40.

 

Oh shit. Is that what I have to look forward to? I might have to quit my job. There just aren't enough hours in the day.

 

OMG! If that ain't the truth! The crappie thing is that the minute my libido shot through the roof hubby's started slowing down and he started having ED problems. It’s the most frustrating thing I’ve ever been through.

 

..... wrong post.

 

Try some vigorous exercise. Running, weight lifting, and such. Also, high sex drive is nothing to be ashamed of. Embrace it.

 

What's wrong with you? Absolutely nothing

 

Is it possible you are being obsessive because you feel something lacking in your life? Is the sex good, but routine? Even good orgasms get dull when it feels like you got them from a robot instead of a lover. Is the emotional connection still there, or are you going through the motions? Do you have time for your non-sex passions, or are you all work? Do you still make time for BFFs or is the relationship all of your social interaction?

What are you eating? Your body can have different levels of hormones depending on what you put in it. What are you NOT eating? If you are low carb, that can crash your serotonin.

Is depression or addiction common in your family?

And finally, you mention fantasies. Have you indulged in any of the things you fantasize about with you BF? If you can't, then this may just be stress from wanting something you won't ask for. Don't let that fester. If you truly can't talk to your man about what you crave in bed, it's a trust issue that will wreck the relationship from within your own head. You can either find your way to the point where you decide you don't REALLY want it, or you realize you will always feel incomplete without it and find it with someone else. That's your line in the sand and only you know where to draw it.

 

enjoy it and make the most of it