Stuck In A Rut

Discussion in 'Random Thoughts' started by Laci, Apr 10, 2015.

  1. Moonglow181

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    It is great that your boyfriend has a goal, and being a firefighter sounds like a wonderful goal to have.....He is climbing the mountain to get there....tell him the steps and climb are not always going to be easy...downright tedious at times...and one just wants to quit at times........but once he gets there, it will all have been worth it.....the view will be fantastical :)
     
  2. Moonglow181

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    Irm, I had to laugh at your comment....let's hope laci's boyfriend does not need that.... :D
     
  3. Laci

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    @MoonGlow, that's what I told him. You gotta put in the work to attain the things you wish to. Also reminded him that being mopey all the time isn't going to move the process along any faster or make it easier :p That's all I can do.

    It's amazing what a positive perspective can do.
     
  4. Vanilla Gorilla

    Vanilla Gorilla Go Ape

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    Lol, not so much

    This is where it gets trippy as a guy. All you really have to be in the end is over 6 foot ;) and not necessarily a douchebag, but motivated enough to seem that kind of guy that either gets the job done, or can talk a whole lot of shit to make it seem like he'll get the job done

    All he really has to do is make it as a firefighter, then a couple years of that, having that responsibilty,

    being in charge of stuff, more likely then after that he'll get bigger.and better jobs thrown at him, where he doesnt really have to work that hard

    Its bizarre, ive seen it a thousand times, over six foot, over 40, all his hair and everyone will just listen to him, bald means more smart the guy you are more lkkely to trust with your taxes, but not the one theyll listen to managing things

    That path is more likely to happen just having firefighter on his resume than now matter how long and hard he works in the restaurant business as an example
     
  5. Vanilla Gorilla

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    And BTW, not to stress out laci

    But if he does become a firefighter, he's probably going to get it thrown at him
     
  6. Laci

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    Not a surprise, lol. I'm pretty confident in him though.

    He's like 5'10, a little chubby, and hispanic so I don't know how the being over six-foot-tall deal would be, lol. He's a good people-person and has a way of talking to people. I'm hoping his people skills will help him get where he needs to go, on top of working hard and really showing that he's put his heart into things.
     
  7. I'minmyunderwear

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    he's making really good money for someone his age. what bills is all this money going to? maybe there's some simple ways to cut back so he doesn't have to stress about money so much.
     
  8. newbie-one

    newbie-one one with the newbiverse

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    crack cocaine and hookers
     
  9. usedtobehoney

    usedtobehoney Senior Member

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    I'd recommend not talking to him about it anymore, unless he brings it up and I'd refrain from repeating the same "you gotta stick in there, it'll pass" stuff over and over again. It's gonna make you look a bit like a nag or like you're pitying him. If I was in a serious relationship like that at such a young age and having so much going on in my work life, I'd hope my relationship would be the place I could go to be entertained, stimulated, to release tension or to escape. I'd worry less about him and focus on your life...maybe your enthusiasm and positive energy you have going on in your life will rub off on him a little bit. If not...
     

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