Sterilize her PLEASE!

i've have heard the extra stitch thing. But then i worked at a auto repair/towing shop for 4 years. i would hear all sorts of things nothing suprises me. the truth is even the doctor would put in an extra stitch. its not like an area of your body that hasn't been cut prom am apiosotomy or naturally torn would heal together. if you sew'd your two fingers together at the bottom they wouldn't heal together just cause more pain. so in reality i don't think any doctor would put in unnessacery stitches to humor you. but then i never asked. i do know that they will stich any skin and muscle which is the most immportant that has been damaged from delivery. any pelvic floor is made up of muscles and tissue. and muscles if you note any athlete or athletic affair. it would show if you if you prepare for a marthon your body is ready for this and acts accordingly as if you didn't prepare and were forced through it. and after all the vagina was designed to do this.

 

I have heard it described as folding out like an accordian, and folding back in. The muscles can be strengthened again with exercise.
The tear/episiotomy is done at the entrance, Oz, not through the whole length of the vagina. So think....a stitch at the entrance is not going to effect the width of the vagina.. You've been punk'd....

My goodness...if this stuff were true, our 3rd and 4th babies would just fall out.

 

man, it's not one stitch that's a figure of speech.......

honestly...if it doesn't happen in yer own lil' fields of experience....it obvioulsy can't have happened anywhere

or both meself and some of my partners were lying.....it's obvious you'll decide my (and their) integrity for yerselves...

 

When I had my first daughter, I had her naturally with no tearing or cutting needed of any kind. She came out in like, 3 pushes. And my vagina is certainly not the size of a child's head! I think it snaps back into its original shape/size fairly quickly. My stomach, on the other hand, is permanently scarred/misfigured from my emergency c-section. And when I say emergency, I mean doctor sitting on top of me holding the baby inside of me with her hands while they frantically push us to the O.R. Talk about freaking out...I was crying all the way to the OR, but like others said, I got real calm while they were doing the surgery. The anesthesiologist was petting my head the whole time and comforting me-he was great. DH couldn't be in there with me because we (dd and I) were both on the brink of death.

 

well hell, there IS a procedure fo raltering the vagina, we know that, but i highly doubt such extensive plastic surgery is going to be done in the midst of delivery when mom's body is already so stressed. but seriously, it's not like men stop having sex with their wives because they're too LOOSE. i mean, look at all the multiple children families. for heaven's sake, kegels are a godsend.

 

yeah, if that was the case I wouldn't have 7 kids.....LOL

 

it seems to me its hard enough for the midwives to sew you up right, let alone tighter, i can tell ya now that stitches hurt like f**k inside for a long time after the outer ones heal and there is no way on gods earth you would ask for more stitches than you needed, it really isnt nice having needles in your vagina i can tell you that. (i was given nothing but gas and air for mine as they insisted my epidural was taking the pain away and i was imagining it.) cows. sorry, just to aks a nasty question, were any of you mamas stiched up badly/just plain wrong?

 

how's this for kinda funny. the partner of the doctor i was seeing was heavily interested in dating my husband. when i won and she lost, she made a point of being around ONLY when she was barely dressed at all. (she's a friend and neighbor of my mother in law). so, anyway, as i spent my entire pregnancy on bedrest and gained a horrific amount of weight, she started to be nicer. after the c-section, my doctor had to go out of town on an emergency and SHE'S the one to check my stiches. perfect. she gets to lift the flesh apron to check the stichery on my massively bloated body. awesome. but since then she's been nice. lol. fucking bitch.

 

i had to have an emergency c-section , after i was in labor for days, and i even came to the point of pushing for 2 hours. but they gave me general anethesia, cus the epideral wouldnt work anymore for some reason. I felt like i totaly missed out on so much of the birthing experience. i got plenty of the pain part., but i didnt get to see skyler for a long time afterwards., not even when i woke up. and it got infected. why would ANYONE WANT to have a c-section is beyond me. thats crazy. it IS major surgery, and it hurts like hell afterwards, when they make you walk around. i felt so helpless when i was at the hospital. and the second day, when all that gas is built up in your stomach.......eeek . that sucks. and its harder to lose the weight, and they cut through stomache muscles,ive been told. britney's a moron. if she wants to keep that flat-ass abs of hers afterwards, she should think twice about going under the knife.

oh, and the guy cut be longer than most c-sections. arent they like 4 inches usually? even my midwife mentioned that it was too long. mines like 10 or 12. ....ish

 

Because that is what the vagina was meant to do. It is a VERY stretchy organ. It "tightens up" on it's own after childbirth.

But, if you'd rather beleive someone who maybe had a vested interest (WHY would your partners even care to say such a thing, unless YOU were concerned I wonder? Did you ask about such a thing? I can't imagine a womyn, getting ready to have sex saying, "Oh, by the way,, my doctor gave me an extra stitch, so my vagina will fit around that little thing you have there.") in thinking this silly, non existant thing was done, rather than womyn who have actually HAD children and have no reason to lie (and some of us are in the medical field and know what goes on in delivery rooms) go ahead.

 

For God's sake.

RE: aw, now, don't be so harsh. she can't help how she was raised, and a LOT of women are OPTING for a c-section when one isn't indicated!

Yeah, it's amazing how many women want to have their kid on a certain day (to not mess up schedules, etc) so they schedule a C-section. Life's starting pretty bad for the kid if and when the method of delivery and timing is done at the convenience of the mother's schedule.

Can't free up time on your calendar? Have the little bugger cut out.

Birth is something you prepare for. You get your body and mind together. You train for it, like a marathon. Strengthen. Ripen the cervix. When the time comes, your body will power through it.

You don't sit there trembling at the thought of pain, and neglect everything in the hope the nice doctor will work it out for you.

YOU get yourself RIGHT for it, or it will control you.

Water births are MUCH easier, without anaesthesia or surgery. Go to a birth center, talk to midwives. Git R Done.

 

I have to agree with you. C sections should only be done to save the mother or the baby. It is NOT a convenience procedure. But too many doctors and some womyn seem to think it is OK to just yank a baby out of the womb before the baby is ready, and in the most violent fashion.

 

Don't get me wrong. You're no less of a woman if you have a C-section.

But when you're telling the doctor to get out of the way cause you can't see "the young and the restless" while he drags a body out of your anesthetised body---

We don't wanna give birth no more, and we don't wanna breastfeed (but they'll change shape! Formula feed instead!)

 

I wholeheartedly agree. I've had four. But, I labored with the first two, 56 hours with the first baby and 3 hours of pushing, and about half that with the second, and then NO baby came out. I did have planned sections with the last two, but it was pretty sure that I can't push a baby through my flat pelvis.

But mine were to save my babies and my life. Doing it for cosmetic reasons is just sad.

 

I can't imagine, that a scar from a c-section is cosmetic either...it's not one of those "key-hole" surgeries....

I had surgery on my knee a few years back, with a 10 cm (about 4 inches) cut, they told me it would fade, and it's still there, abfter 7 years, and I don't develop scars a lot. So I really doubt that for tummy-showers like britney, a c-section is a considerable "cosmetic" option.......*giggle*

 

Yea the honeymoon stitch it has been a few years since my OB rotation but it is common in this part of the world. As a male, I do not see how you females do it - am just grateful on behalf of the human race that you do. Keep up the good work

 

My husband and I were talking about who the national white trash spokesperson should be.

We both agreed it should be Brittney Spears.

 

....

 

Oh! Oh! Pick me!

My first one was delivered by Barbie....this doctor I had never seen before, she was just the one on call. Her bleached blond hair and makeup were perfect....
So I'm pushing and she says "I'm just gonna let you tear....."
Since it was my first, I didn't know any better and I'm like "ooooookkkkkk....."

I had a second degree tear with stitches inside the muscle. My freezing was coming out and I said I could feel it...so she rushed to finished. I felt like I was sewed up by Dr. Frankenstein.....

I was in horrible pain for weeks, I ended up back in the hospital with inflamed stitches, I went to Emergency and they noticed the burns on my upper thighs from the hot water bottle so they kept me and gave me morpheine, it worked like a dream........sex was horrible for nearly a year. I hurt so bad.

I said I would never have any more kids.........

BUT, then three years later I did...and I got an episiotomy..... NO PAIN THE NEXT DAY. I was so amazed that I could just sit down....