So, if you click on my profile, you will see that my divorce will be final any day now. In hindsight, its been over for a very long time. I want to start dating once its final, vs him not waiting to have the petition even filed. Anyway, where I live activities are kinda limited. Or in one case, my sons and I went to a large community event and he showed up with his latest new thing. Odd, since I couldn't get him to leave the house except to go to work. (For a bit of back story, we recently learned that he is mentally ill when he attacked our 16 year old son, trying to strangle him in March and even after mental help, hes gone back to telling people the boy attacked him.) So, I was in no hurry to share space or put my son at risk and left the event. (We can't get a restraining order because Oregon says there must be a sexual relationship. Father to son abuse does not count, police and child welfare involvement or not.) Aside from that, all I seem to run into are conservative misogynists. (I cant move from my home, as the boy has two more years of high school and his school is perfect for his life goals.) Just have to wait it out, but in the mean time, I'd really like to meet some guys who don't make fun of my weight and think I belong in the kitchen making sandwiches for their buddies while they watch football. I'm loyal, to a serious fault apparently and I believe in monogamy. I just want someone to actually care for me. WTH do I do!? I haven't dated in 18 years. I thought it was the 21st century and men were supposed to be more in touch with feelings, not threatened by a freethinking woman and not so 'caveman.'
Ive asked the courthouse and the local battered peoples organization who assists with restraining orders.
Free-thinking as in I think for myself, maybe I didn't word it correctly. I know so many around here who still think that a wife/partner has to bow to and obey the wishes, intentions and views of the man, even to the point of asking permission to change her hair. (no kidding) I am no man's servant or mimic.
Sorry to hear that your son (and indirectly, you) had to deal with domestic violence. www.hotpeachpages.net has a world-wide directory of domestic violence resources. They may only have the same story as the folks that you already talked to, but it might be worth checking out.
