Spit or Swallow

My bf is lactose intolerant and has a lot of food allergies and eats a lot of pineapple and citrus. He tastes great. He also gets totally turned on by kissing me right after I go down on him. He doesn't like to cum in my mouth (though I'd love for him to do so) because he'd rather cum inside the more traditional (and anatomically correct) orifice
I love going down on him ... honestly, it is my favorite part of making love with him. However, I have always hated having anyone give me oral sex. I let him do it once in a while because he really likes to do it.

I had a boyfriend who wouldn't even kiss me after his dick had been in my mouth (his rationale being that I'd just had a dick in my mouth). I hated blowing him because his diet was terrible and he smelled and tasted terrible. I had to go to a sex shop just to buy some flavored gel so I could tolerate it. And the one time he busted in my mouth, I certainly did spit. It was also the last time I ever gave him head. He had a very small, oddly shaped penis (sort of as if an anthropomorphized Vienna sausage had swallowed a currant tomato that had gotten lodged in its throat).

 

Easier to Just Swallow...

 

swallow.....when i USED to do that......with guys

 

I used to spit becauseof the taste to but then my boyfriend really liked it when i would swallow so after doing it so many times ive gotten used to it and now swallow everytime.

 

deffinatly swollow. I think it's offensive and rude. I mean, if I was a guy and the girl who was sucking me off spit out my discharge...i would be insulted

 

Swallow...I think of it as a little protein shake *: )

 

I don't understand whats rude about spitting. He gets off, he's done, it seems more of an option than a moral delema to swallow or not.

do people really care? I mean come on. I get it if it's kinky to you, but otherwise whats the point in caring about this shit? spitting isn't sexy, but after you cum? who cares!! it's all good.

 

You have a valid point Crystalsatreehugger - it doesn't really matter if one spits or swallows. Sex is messy and if done to one's best ability, at the moment a woman is spitting or not, her man's eyes should be rolling up in his head and he'd not notice one way or another.

Angel, regarding the notion of ejaculate being a protein shake ... it has very few calories (less than 10) and the bulk of it is carbs. So there's no need to suck the stuff down for its nutritional value ... have an egg white omelette or some tofu instead

 

I wonder how many women post, or say what they BELIEVE men like, to be more accepted, or thought of as better than the rest. It's the unbitch concept (just named it), where we want to defend ourselves and be the "perfect girl", overriding common sense with what we think they want, when really it doesn't matter that much (this topic, not necessarily others). I really don't think most men care as long as their shit is getting sucked on, but we do, so we arn't labeled as prude, or rude, or whatever. Does this make sense? sucking up to men, or well, at least sucking on them lol.

 

neither-my boyfriend doesn't get off when I go down on him

 

Crystals ...

I think you ought to copywrite "the unbitch concept." It's funny how things change. When I was your age (makes me sound ancient, doesn't it?) no nice girl would dream of suggesting oral sex, nor would she ever ever admit to having done it. Any girl who did that was considered a "dirty whore." I think it is interesting that so many people today take a Bill Clintonesque view of sex - "I'm a virgin but I blow guys and engage in anal but that's not REAL sex."

Performing oral sex on a guy puts the woman in the role of the "aggressor" (if one must label everything) and some men get nervous ... bad enough to have Freudian nightmares about a vagina dentata but a real mouth with real teeth? Yikes!

This may sound sappy to some but there have only been two men I wanted to blow ... my alpha and omega men. The first was when I was 16 and the object of my desire didn't want to corrupt me - flat out refused to have intercourse - so I just performed oral sex on him. Then there is my present boyfriend (we've been together over 3 years) ... I think it has to do with him being a big, strong man ... something about being able to make him weak in the knees ... and when I catch a glimpse of his face, his expression reminds me of that of a little boy who just opened the neatest gift under the Christmas tree.

Of course I neither can nor would I attempt to speak for African American women, but from what I gather from my acquaintancesand the media, white women tend to perform oral sex more readily and frequently than African American women ... I know a number of African American women (most of my coworkers) and none of them would dream of sticking that in their mouths. I wonder if that is a local or more global cultural phenomena? Friends of mine have said it is demeaning, and my boyfriend (who is African American) has said he would not "degrade" me by ejaculating any place except where nature intended the stuff wind up.

One last bit about this ... it is trivia ... ancient Romans had a strict taboo against oral sex. I find that (excuse the appalling pun but I can't resist) mind blowing. The stereotype of ancient Roman orgies is that anything and everything goes, as long as it was done to excess.

 

I was actually googling "(insert star's name here) and sperm and stomach pump" , which lead me to this thread. Go ahead and draw your own assumptions as to why I was googling that, lol. At any rate, I read through all the different responses and it seems to me most of you women aren't factoring in a guy's perspective. I felt compelled to add my 2 cents. First of all, let me point something out. Go to a website that sells adult DVDs. Hell, go to an actual brick and mortar adult DVD store if you'd like. In either case, one of the things you will notice is that there are genres.

Now, there's a reason why each of these different genres exist; because some guy gets off to it. Some guys like lesbians, some like S&M. Some like big ol boobies and some like anal. Some like big boobed S&M anal lesbians. Pick a fetish, there's a genre for it. Remember, these movies exist because it's what men want to see. Therefore you can bet it's something they'd like to experience for themselves, given the chance. The "oral" genre is certainly no exception and in fact one of the most popular genres. Obviously, I'm not the only one watching these,lol! Within this genre you could generally divide it into two subgenres; spit or swallow. Either the girl spits it out, dribbling it down her chin, etc. or the she keeps the load in her mouth and swallows. This isn't taking the whole facial thing into account--no swallowing or spitting then, is there?

Now of course, these movies aren't necessarily a reflection of what happens in real life. In real life, as some of the women in this thread will attest to, if a woman is uncomfortable swallowing she will hold it in her mouth and make her way to a sink or toilet. Perhaps they may use a nearby towel instead. Hell, they might even spit it into a cup of beer like the famous "American Pie" scene (Why didn't she just swallow? No follow-up joke then I guess). So, the visual is a little different, to say the least. It's one thing for a guy to watch the girl let it run out in a sexy kinda way (if that's what ya like); it's another for her to run to the bathroom and spit it out like it's a mouthful of pig crap. Unfortunately, most women aren't into recreating porno scenarios involving cum slowly dribbling out. Rather, they would like it out ASAP, so they make a beeline to the bathroom. Whether a guy will admit it or not, this ruins it. It isn't about being rude to the guy, it's about not accepting him or his desire.

Men are visual creatures. Or visual pigs, if you like. Duh- this is the reason the porn industry is into the billions each year. Running off to the bathroom to essentially throw up is not what a visual pig wants to see. Yeah, it can be a quiet blow to the ego too. Perhaps if it were done and the guy didn't see or know it, it'd be ok. But when you see it happen, what was just enjoyable instantly becomes uncomfortable and gets the guy's mind rolling..."what happened? I shouldn't have done that? Is she a prude? Is it that disgusting? Does she really like me? I wonder if I should ask her? I guess we won't be doing that again? I wonder what there is to eat? Is the game still on? I wonder who won?........." Yes, this is how men's minds actually wander. Of course the guy, unless he's an asshole, will try to reassure the girl it's ok and that it doesn't bother him. This is probably where the misconception of "when a guy comes it doesn't matter anymore" comes from. WRONG. The guy's lying to you, that's all. What? We should say the truth after something like that, LOL?

This is taking into account that the guy wants the girl to swallow or even let him cum in her mouth. Not every guy is into everything every other guy might be into. But MOST guys enjoy having a girl swallow his cum. Even if it's not to actually see it in her mouth, it's the idea of knowing it's in there and MOST IMPORTANTLY that she's accepted it. However, most guy's would like to see it, lol! Guy's watch, it's a fact of human nature. If your guy isn't watching you while you give him oral sex, he's either fantasizing about someone/something else or he's watching the TV. Unless he's blind, of course. Yes, the sensation is definitely the primary reason, but being able to see your dick being sucked and licked and slurped on is a BIG second. Climaxing is just part of this. For some, it's the "icing on the cake". Yes, there is a pun intended there.

Myself personally, I really get off when I come in my wife's mouth. Through communication we've both come to really enjoy it, although myself a lot more obviously. Am I giving her a mouthful of tasty whipped cream? LOL, of course not. But she's been able to get past that because she knows how much I like it. And she likes getting me off as well. As the last poster was saying, she's in control and making the man weak in the knees. No kidding, if I'm standing I'm literally buckling after I cum. I'm powerless and if my wife wanted to kick my ass, at that point I wouldn't be able to do anything. My wife is obviously relishing this when it happens as she has a huge smile watching me wriggle around like a flopping fish out of water. Hey, works for me. And apparently her too.

The bottom line; guys DO care if you swallow or spit, IF that's what they are into-- and there's a damn good chance they are. If they tell you it doesn't matter they are lying to either appease you or so you won't think they are uncaring bastards who just want you to do something nasty. If you don't want to swallow and/or don't want the cum in your mouth, for fuck sake, tell the guy! Odds are the the guy would really like to cum in your mouth but would be understanding if you didn't want him to. But at the very least, get it figured out before there's that awkward, weird "she just ran to the bathroom to spit my cum out?" scene. I guarantee a guy would rather cum some other way as opposed to having that happen.

 

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yep.

Completely with you on that one.

 

I have always swallowed my b/f cum....always will.

 

jesus thats hott =p

 

As a guy, I'd say that it doesn't really matter to me. However, if she doesn't want the cum in her mouth at all then I don't like that lol...

I'd say if you're gonna puke then obviously don't swallow it and probably don't get it into your mouth cuz puking after sex is probably not the greatest thing since smoking after sex

And I never thought of it that way - I wouldn't swallow it, so should she? But that's a completely different topic anyways cuz I don't know why any straight guy would have jizz in his mouth anyways.

Also, thinking about girls kissing me with my own cum in my mouth, it hasn't really bothered me before because I've pretty much failed to notice, but I guess as long as it WAS there and ISN'T THERE NOW then I'd kiss her.

It's a wierd subject... Everyone to their own.

 

ill kiss a girl after shes swallowed my juices, its the least you could do for her doing what she did haha =p

 

Swallow... but I don't have a problem with it either.

To be honest if it's in your mouth though what makes a difference if you just swallow it? I mean, if you spit, unless you are near by whatever you are spitting on/into you hold it in your mouth longer then what it would take to swallow it anyone... almost defeating the purpose of spitting.

 

which one of your girls are single? =p