"Spit or swallow" Discussion.

That is one of the most fucked up things I've ever heard.

 

Hi

Well untill this year I had a hard rule cocks are for cunts !!! BUT since meeting my lil fuckface this year well EVERYTHING has changed. I love to suck, not at all sure what it will be like if he blows cos I hate slimy things. I hear if he drinks a litre of pinapple juice or redbull he will taste real yum>>?? True or false anyone know ???

Tatt Girl

 

I agree and if my man did that for any reason it would be his last night in my bed. Better he says he don't like change and moves on to another woman who does exactly what he likes as his robotic sex slave. If I wasn't in the right mood to do something it doesn't mean I wouldn't ever again but some guys will do oral for so long and change to something else. Not every guy can make a woman cum by oral so it's not a rude thing at all, we learn what works as we go along and at least in my bedroom it's never the same thing every time.
This guy is spoiled and thinks he must have it a certain way all the way and probably every time, I hope she leaves him for someone with more sexual smarts and understanding. Moods and feelings are everything, stopping to punish because you didn't get what you wanted is another, go back to kindergarten and learn to be liked first then try sex again.

 

It still depends on your liking. Some don't like it because it is a strange feeling in the mouth, some are about bad taste and some are about where it comes from that they will or won't swallow it. You don't have to if you don't like and you should be able to when you are mentally ok with it. If he pushes you to do it then he could be a problem if you were more about doing it on good mind set to do so. Sometimes once you do they might expect that all the time so be careful to let him know you are gonna try it and he knows it's not a given in case you have a bad experience with it. Many guys don't care as long as they have a great time in bed and they know you do as well. There is a whole lot more to the whole experience then having you swallow it.

 

I think there is no must in sex. From my experiences most women do not like the taste and do not swallow. My Fiancee however never lets a drop escape. She likes my taste and smell, and it is great, but it is her decision. From my point of view, when I lick her I swallow her juices and love it because it is part of her. The question is if you like or don't the taste or feel bad with it. As for pineapple my Fiancee says it is more of a myth. But alcohol makes me taste more sour.
Edit: One more thing. If a guy thinks it is disgusting how can he ask you to do it? I mean I love when she swallows, but we often passionately kiss after and have nothing against tasting myself. Otherwise I could expect her to do it in my opinion.

 

Call me weird, but I am just happy that my lady gives me head! I have been with enough who wouldn't even do that. If she doesn't want my baby batter in her mouth it is not the end of the world and that is her call. Everything else she does for me and with me is amazing so I don't see the point in complaining about what she does not want to do.

I also don't hold back doing things for her just, because she doesn't want to do certain things. She is a squirter so when I am eating her out I do get mouth fulls all the time. I enjoy it so I do it. Not, because I expect something in return. That is such a childish way of doing things and it would be such a turn off being with someone like that.

 

Excellent post! That's what sex is all about, finding the things that together make the experience what it should be, a turn on, something that might never end between you both.
The men I have been with never cared if I did or didn't do anything, it was never an argument, instead we talked about what we liked and what we didn't like never really came up. Other then that we did things and it never seemed we did what the other didn't care for but we did lots. Things were introduced and if liked we did it again. Never have I had a boring sex life. Mind you when I was young I was a bit shy for a while. Later as new ideas came up it definitely got more interesting and a few new fave things to do were put in the memory banks for future use. Sex should be like that, not a chore for one or the other.
My partner is my playmate not my person to do for. We please each other and we enjoy each other. If that changed so would I and then I wouldn't care for sex.
You want your partner as a roommate or a playmate,,, your choice, make it right for each other. Don't force what doesn't work for them, find new tricks.

 

My thoughts on that conversation?

Well, okay, I may sound like a snob or picky or something for saying this--but it's true. There is no way I would date a guy that would A- even ask me that question (although that wouldn't be a DEAL BREAKER per say... just... guys have to have a certain level of class for me to actually be in a relationship w them or take them seriously in any way...) or B-say it is rude to spit and that it "offends" him.

I mean, screw that shit. If I'm feeling a bit sick to my stomach-nauseous that day or what not, oh, someone's gonna say it's rude if I would chose not to swallow? How bout showing appreciation that I'm even going down on you? Yea, I just wouldn't be dealing-in any serious or semi serious way- with someone would acts w a lack of class and lack of gratitude...as well as I find his question and his reply to be RUDE answers. I like guys who are just...idk, nice? about things. lol.




Oh and btw... the only times I have ever even considered spiting (just realized I just wished I did not swallow) was when the guy I was with had some, let's just say, not good, tasting semen... so really if that particular guy were to have told me I was rude )... I would have likely told them that if they want me to do otherwise I would work on changing on diet or changing or eliminating something nasty they are consuming.

 

And really I should have just saved all the typing and just said that.


Or just- "Run"

 

I think you both are entitled to your preferences. So, if you want to spit or swallow, depending on your mood, go ahead. If he finds it rude for someone to spit and wants them to swallow instead, that's fine too. It doesn't say anything about his or your character. It's just a preference on both your parts.

In saying that, my most logical advice is to be with a partner that fits your sexual preference. In this case, I think one out of three things might occur. When you do actually give him a blow-job, if you decide to, you will joyfully swallow and he will enjoy it because that obviously fits his preference. That's in the perfect world, where two people are sexually compatible. Or you won't swallow because you don't like it and that'a okay too, but that means you two are not sexually compatible and have to go from there with your relationship, or possibly lack of. Lastly, you two come to a compromise, such as he decides to change his mind about spitting being offensive while you try you're best to swallow more than spit because both of you mean that much to each other. Or a totally different compromise because compromises are individually structured between two or more people, so it can be anything. People can get pretty wild with their compromises, lol!

On a last note, I can see why you brought up the question of whether or not he ever tasted his ejaculation, because both topics have to do with bodily juices in one's mouth, but I think there is a difference between talking about wanting someone to swallow your bodily juices because you find spitting offensive over talking about them tasting their own body juices. Those two topics are two separate conversations. It can be argued that it's an "eye for an eye" situation, where if he doesn't want semen in his mouth, why should you have his semen in your mouth? But, I think for that argument to really work the situation has to be the exact same situation and odds are, no two situations are ever that exactly the same and those two situations you two talked about weren't the same.

 

I do both things, depend of the day, cum taste is not very good, i prefer pre-cum taste, but i like it.

 

Yeah I guess he has the right to be offended if a girl spits it out, but I have the right to think he's pretty ignorant about other people feelings. I have swallowed before but I have also not. Men should really think every time a woman takes them into her mouth that she is doing it for them and not so much for themselves (although some women definitely really enjoy doing it).

If a man I was with didn't want to kiss, I would be offended, but if he didn't want to lick/swallow stuff that comes out of my body I would be ok with that!

 

I Just Luv "Mouth Hug's" I am so glad My Minion is a Cum Fiend,All of my life I have been told that I taste like Pecan Pie Filling.I was like yeah sure for awhile but after 20 Woman tell the same story......

 

tommeem1, I hear you. I understand about sexual compatibility and agree with what you said in principle. But to say that somebody is being rude for not wanting to do x, y or z in bed? I think it does say something about the person's character, massively so. I can like certain things in bed, I may be disappointed that a partner doesn't want to do whatever it is, maybe I think they're boring or prudish, I might even break up with them over it BUT I would NOT call them rude or offensive. They aren't disrespecting me, they just have different boundaries. I also believe that by essentially saying to somebody "you are rude if you don't want to do this" you are emotionally trying to blackmail/pressure the other person. That doesn't say something about the person's character?

Regarding bodily juices, I don't believe they are two separate conversations at all. No two situations are ever exactly the same. If we could only make an argument about two situations that were exactly the same, we wouldn't make many arguments. Of course I can compare having semen in one mouth with having semen in another mouth, regardless of gender. It's not that much different physiologically. Psychologically the situation IS different. That makes me question the personality of a man who regards women as "rude and offensive" for doing something that he, himself finds "disgusting".
Now mind you, I am in my early 30s and I do remember when I first started having sex. Then: Tasting my own juices? Yuck. Men finding their own semen disgusting? Yep. Now: 10+ years on, I have grown up. And so have the men I usually encounter. Not this one though so perhaps it's just immaturity?

On another note, he asked me: "so when you don't want to swallow, where do you want me to cum? Your face? Your tits?" (those two being the only other two options). So maybe it's just a man who watches too much porn. But even that wouldn't change my opinion about the "rude" and "offensive" comments.

 

Haha, that actually made me laugh out loud (and almost spit coffee all over my desk at work :-/).

ANYWAY - ultimately, his "bedroom attitudes" were also evident outside the bedroom.
Thanks for everyone's responses :thanks:

 

If you find it says something negative about his character, then it surely will say something negative. And if you find that both subjects of conversation you two had are the same, then both subjects of conversation will be the same. Whatever you believe becomes your reality. While, if I was in this situation, I would think it's a preference and two different subject matters. So, those beliefs of mine will become my reality. No reality is above another. So, you're right... it does say something negative about his character and you're right, both topics of conversation are the same subject matter.

 

The guy certainly wants you to recreate some pornographic scenario. I've had my cum swallowed only once though, so I may be wrong...

 

I find it odd that he had to talk about it as if he is checking her ability to hang on to him and then comment his displeasure before they are even at it. He wants what he saw being done and to me he wants what he should be paying for, a porn star. They will every time for the money, then because he is paying, he has this control he wants.
If you gotta pick your girlfriend on what she will do for you then you limit yourself or,,, maybe you will take anything as long as she swallows.
Girls, if he wants you to swallow and you are ok with that then that's great but remember, he will want that always so feed him right, hahahahahahaha.

 

if the guy thinks his own cum is disgusting, why should you taste it?

 

Most guys would think it's discussing but that's not what matters to some of them, it's about her doing it for him. It points out to me that he is not getting off as much as he should when this is such an issue and probably because he Thinks this is important to finishing off as was probably told to him. Or maybe the woman isn't really getting him off and that says she probably needs to find someone who enjoys Her more, not what a man can get her to do on the side of little things.
If he has a mind blowing experience why would he care where it goes?
Women don't care where it goes or if he swallows it. We just want to hear bells and whistles going off and see bolts of lightening shooting past our eyes.