spicing things up

Hi, my husband and i have been through a tough spot recently and are trying to reconnect, especially sexually. Ive always been a bit kinky, toys, tying up etc and he has always been a bit more reserved. He is starting to try and open up more and try new things. Im just after a few ideas he is constantly horny at the moment so I want to surprise him.

 

Your avatar's wonky or were you lay down when you took the pic

 

Its just the wrong way round

 

If your husband is reserved to the point he will not talk openly with you about sex, both of you make a list of what you enjoy and another with what you would like to try. Then compare your lists. If you both can be honest and open with your list, you both may be pleasantly surprised.

 

A useful accessory is the blind fold ,Try a blind fold on him and then use ice water and or low temperature candles for temperature play.One extreme to the other is an interesting sensation hightend by use of the blind fold as it magnifies skin contact sensations .
Toecutter above has the idea I was going to post. Composing a survey would be a good idea if you have access to a printer .Place a list of activities with 3 answers yes,no or maybe .Then when you have both completed it compare the answers. YES obviously is a match .Maybes will be up for negotiation.We tend to do one every 6 months or so.It will help to keep things fresh for the both of you.

 

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Awesome!

 

Champagne, candles, cuisine.

 

and toast with peanut better!...

 

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Roleplay. Great for when one person's instincts aren't up to scratch yet

 

Take a shower together and lay in bed watch porn with a joint and a glass of Crown Apple on ice.

 

I think husbands really appreciate when we communicate our desire for them and initiating sex. The past few years or sex life has transformed as i became more committed to showing my sexual interest in my husband.

Some things that have helped us without being over the top crazy...
-me texting him through the week telling him how much I want him, or telling what I'm going to do with him that night.

-hopping in the shower with him and offering a shower blow job or more.

-initiating spontaneous couch sex... I know this sounds simple but when you have fallen in to somewhat of a boring sex routine (Friday night in the bedroom with the door locked) it is super hot to be spontaneous. We have 3 kids so it is increases the excitement of not getting walked in on.

-do something crazy on a date... Trying to convince my hubby to let me give him a bj on a back road or parking deck but he is very law abiding. Haha!

-but I think just initiating at abnormal times. Especially with kids around. I love on a random afternoon asking my husband to come up to "help me fix something" in the bedroom.... On a random Wednesday afternoon. He loves this... Showing him I'm not consumed w house and kids.

Initaite, communicate your desire, show him you want him most of all.

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ALL great ideas!

 

Keep him locked up in a chastity cage and get him to orally and digitally service your needs until you decide he deserves it.

 

We usually tried a change of scenery. It could be a Saturday night at a hotel in the city or a weekend out of town where we could let everything hang out. Even fooling around in different places in the house helped. We even played games like going to an out of town bar separately so other men would flirt with her while I sat and watched, ready to step in if he needed help.

 

It seems cuckolding is a lot more common than it used to be. That or people are just a lot more comfortable admitting it turns them on

 

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I send the heart-eyes emoji

 

Wow. Love the way you think!!!