Spanking

are you going to burning man Cate?

 

That's okay. Me too.

 

My parents did pretty much everything wrong

you might know I hold this opinion, and if I hadn't talked about it so much online I would think about disabling dads brakes and "accidentally" letting him slip down the church's steep driveway into pyramid and incoming traffic

that being said, I think that spanking can be something that can be okay, if held in FAR reserve, there are TONS of other things you can do first, and your kids should never be afraid of you. but it's something to not rule out entirely.

I think it should be an option simply because I don't like ruling things out, not because I think my parents did no wrong. I could give you a list as long as a novel of things I think they did wrong.

 

Ya. Um, prediction, you will get bent in the near future...:sifone:

 

yes, ma'am and id like to meet you if you're still in NV

 

That's exactly how I feel. I don;t know what kind of kid we'll have, so I don;t want to rule it out 100 percent, but it's not ideal IMO.

Can you get an apology out of your dad? I got an apology out of my mom and it made me feel a lot better. I know our situations aren't the same. My mom was bat shit crazy when I was growing up though. She doesn;t realize how bad she was, because she can;t allow herself too, it would hurt her too much. She was a really crappy parent for a few years and when CPS was called, I lied to protect her. I still can't trust her and our relationship is very fake. I thought things were getting better, but she asked me to mail her pot even after I informed her it was a mandatory 10 years for me if I got caught. She's a therapist in a drug rehab.

I feel like Andy is the only person in my life who's never hurt me emotionaly or physically or lied to me.

 

How fun!
We're moving in a few weeks to CA. Are you still goign to be coming by CA? You can stay with us if you're out that way (Fresno Area).

 

I don't think I'll spank my kids...

"Come over here.. Mommy's gonna spank you."

:ack2:

I'd only ever 'lay a hand' on my maybe-future children if they were in danger, e.g walking out in front of a truck.

 

Because they don't get spanked?

 

Thank you Laura!

 

I would really like that! I'll see how it goes, and I will keep in touch if it's a possiblity.

 

No, of course not. That's just symbolic of his whole attitude in general.

 

I dunno.
I was spanked.
I'm not emotionally scarred or hate my parents or anything.

 

I never felt abused. Never ever.

 

I never felt abused either. I also knew exactly why I was being spanked, and I also understood that my parents didn't take any sort of pleasure from it. It really wasn't an abusive thing at all.

 

I was abused, not spanked, and it was out of sheer anger, not discipline. By abused I'm referring to being beaten with a belt until I had welts across my back end. Being dragged across the floor by my hair, slapped across the face, smacked on the legs with a wrench, beaten with a metal curtain rod. That's abuse. Swatting your child's bottom is nowhere even near that level.

How do I feel about it now, as an adult? I know it was wrong, but I forgive the person who did it. I realize at that point in their life they were hurting, out of control, overwhelmed. It was not a constant occurence in my childhood, but a brief period of time in which it happened. It doesn't make it right, but I've learned to forgive and let go of that because the person who did it never meant for it to get like it did, I know that in my heart.

 

i agree! whos bill hicks?

 

One of the smartest, definatly the funniest man to walk the planet.

 

my whole attitude. lol you read one of my posts. someones opinionated :sifone:

 

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