I can give you my perspective on all this, and keep in mind, it's only my perspective. I think "real spankings" is probably different for everyone, but in my mind, a real spanking is a spanking that you really don't want to get, but for some reason you want it. For a a kid, you don't have a choice. When you get spanked, you get spanked. As an adult, you do have a choice, but you choose it because there is probalby sex involved. So with that said, in my case, I love getting a real spanking for very real things like lying, attidtue, talking back, getting drunk and embarassing my husband at a party, getting a speeding ticket, etc. So when it's time for the spanking, it's very real with scolding, lecturing, clothing removal(preferably stripped naked), and then spanked until I am screaming. And then after.......adult fun....So even though the spanking is real, and it hurts and sometimes I am crying....for me, it's foreplay....
I think it's all about head space. Maybe to be put in a place in your head where you were at a particular time in your life. You want to be put in a painful or embarassing situation, but then again you don't, but as an adult, there is something inside of you that wants to be punished, so you keep acting up and getting in trouble. Not sure if any of that makes sense. LOL
i, too am in need of a real punishment spanking. not interested in sex with the spanking. i am in 72501. i'm disease and drug free, white male. looking for anyone who can and will give me a real spanking. any takers?
I loved this story of getting a speeding ticket and wanting the police officer to spank you LOL you so should have said something like "I'm so sorry... could you please just let me off with a warning... or maybe just give me a spanking" innocent and funny and not threatening.. who knows where that would have led, but my guess is he would have chuckled and said "sorry cant do that..." no harm no foul....but maybe...
I spanked a friend recently for a couple of reasons. She KNEW that what she did was likely to get her spanked and it did. She took it well. She cried and was sore. But we both knew that part of the reason she did it was for the spanking. She's prefer to not get spanked but knew the odds were that she would get spanked. She did. It hurt. She'll do something like that again for sure even though she knows what's coming.
My boyfriend spanks me for very real things like spending too much money, attitude, lying, flirting and stuff like that. The spanking is very real, but done with consent, if that makes any sense. I mean, if I didn't want him to spank me, it wouldn't happen, because if it did, and I didn't want it, that would just be assault. When he first started, it was playful, and I realized the very first time that he did it, that I liked it. And I liked it alot. After that, I would do things on purpose to get spanked.