Hey, I'm a white gay male in need of advice. I'm very new to this site, so apologies if I'm posting this in the wrong area. Anyways, I'm in a relationship and it's amazing, but I have issues being the bottom. I love sucking his dick and sure love mine getting sucked. I don't even mind giving or receiving a rim job as long as the area is clean. I have no issues being the top, but it's difficult to bottom. The few times I was actually able to, it was amazing and incredibly pleasurable, but other than that I seem to not be able to. I've talked with my partner about what he could do to help make it easier and have tried multiple tricks that were supposed to make bottoming easier, but nothing works. He's 7.5 uc and thick, could that be it? I never really had much experience bottoming so it is tight back there, but no matter how relaxed I am and how gentle he is...it doesn't seem to make a difference. We've been together for 3 years now and in that time I've successfully bottomed twice, yes only twice. Please help, you can't imagine how bad I want to be f*cked. Like I've stated, I've tried everything, even a pornstars guide to bottoming, tips for noob bottoms. (Yes, I said noob). So any advice you have from what you've tried or done would be helpful because I think I've tried just about everything.
While you say your partner is 7.5, you're not telling his girth/circumference. That's the major physical issue with being a bottom from everything I've seen, experienced and read.. Now for the psychological issue, while you say you want to bottom, it seems that something "psychologically" is preventing you from relax enough. I'm the same way, I just can't "relax and open up." Suggest you and your partner accept that there are things you're excellent at and things you're not or just can't do. Things might change for you. For now, live in today and appreciate all the good points that you two have. Good luck !
